Why are some woman okay with being “the other woman”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Patriarchy...? Have you seen how many women, married and not, lie to themselves because they think they have to do it to be loved? It’s not really love, but it’s the best they can get in this system where a woman’s experience and truth about her own life is systematically silenced. Sadly it just leads to more shame and more lies and no love.[/

That’s kind of radical

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was coming off a bad divorce, he and I had chemistry, he was sexually deprived in his marriage


It was temporary and fun. No one got hurt

I was hurt. By a liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These views are so misogynistic. I don't sleep with any man because of what I "get", I sleep with men because I am heterosexual and enjoy sex.

It is disgusting to see you rip women as all being gold diggers and pathetic wh0res with daddy issues, without one word to say about the lying, cheating married man.

I agree with part of your post. I think it's a given the married guy is a creep, his wife made a huge mistake in marrying him, and didn't think it needed to be said.

As for calling the women names, it's still accurate to give a label to someone that demonstrates poor behavior. Sorry but that's what those women chose, thus the accurate labels. If I see someone robbing a bank, I call them a thief, or bank robber. Not an aggressive withdrawer. In short, there are Ws and gold diggers. Don't want a negative label - choose like most and act accordingly.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't really get it -- but people have affairs, get divorced, get remarried all the time.

I don't think the blame is on the affair partner -- but that's an unpopular opinion on this board. I think the blame is on the person who is married.

+1

No it's not. It's on both the cheaters. However, it's always best to divorce the cheater. They were damaged goods to begin with, and I would find out why I missed the red flags if I married one.

Sometimes they don’t cheat until 25 years in so you can’t really put that on someone that met and married by 30.

There are often zero red flags for midlife affairs.

Possibly. If you read some of the posts on this thread you see people with less than stellar morals. If my mate wasn't adamant against cheating that's a red flag. If they excuse cheating under certain circumstances that's another red flag. I guess if you marry young you don't have much of a history to judge them by. Anyone can tell you anything, however their behavior tells the most.

[Anonymous]

My friend was like this. I think her mom had really low self esteem (secretary who married her boss who was already married.). Also friend was shy and had social anxiety and these guys are like sharks they find this type. She believed their be about evil wives they are supposedly leaving. Just naive I guess. Other type I know didn’t have a dad growing up and just desperate for male attention.

[Anonymous]

Money


He gives her money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These views are so misogynistic. I don't sleep with any man because of what I "get", I sleep with men because I am heterosexual and enjoy sex.

It is disgusting to see you rip women as all being gold diggers and pathetic wh0res with daddy issues, without one word to say about the lying, cheating married man.

I agree with part of your post. I think it's a given the married guy is a creep, his wife made a huge mistake in marrying him, and didn't think it needed to be said.

As for calling the women names, it's still accurate to give a label to someone that demonstrates poor behavior. Sorry but that's what those women chose, thus the accurate labels. If I see someone robbing a bank, I call them a thief, or bank robber. Not an aggressive withdrawer. In short, there are Ws and gold diggers. Don't want a negative label - choose like most and act accordingly.

+1

If you don’t want to be called a “whore” or “gold digger” don’t act like one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was coming off a bad divorce, he and I had chemistry, he was sexually deprived in his marriage


It was temporary and fun. No one got hurt

I was hurt. By a liar.

Hurt people hurt people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was coming off a bad divorce, he and I had chemistry, he was sexually deprived in his marriage


It was temporary and fun. No one got hurt

So his wife didn’t find out... yet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

That’s just the number of sex encounters.

AP: 2 times a month/1.5 hours vs wife: 10-12 times per month and all the other hours and weekends...and fancy dinners, social life, etc. Hmmmm....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

With every post you make, you just expose how little he thought of you and, by extension, how little you must think of yourself to stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hypergamy - She wants a "high-value" man and is willing to share him. As they say... rather be the mistress of the emperor than the wife of a farmer. She gets validation by getting the attention of this man because he gives her attention over his wife. She is not mentally healthy.

A few hours a month isn't exactly attention over the wife

True. It's not even the scraps!

+1,000

2 times a month vs 12 times a month.

With every post you make, you just expose how little he thought of you and, by extension, how little you must think of yourself to stay.

How is Ashley Madison working out? Into your 4th affair? Did you cross paths with Josh D ? Your poor husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was coming off a bad divorce, he and I had chemistry, he was sexually deprived in his marriage


It was temporary and fun. No one got hurt

So his wife didn’t find out... yet

Right, and she won't. I care about him and I have no desire to hurt her. It's not about her. She won't find out. I think we would be friends in different circumstances.