Why he won't leave his wife for his mistress

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Anonymous wrote:Christ- get an older widow, not a married man. Troll the widow groups.

Wtf is wrong with people going after those already married?!!!!

They don’t have to go after them, married men are all over the dating sites and apps.

I'm single and on Bumble (not generally considered a hookup site) and there are SO MANY married guys. I can't understand their chutzpah, because they've got their real faces up there for the world to see, and enough identifying information to find them if someone wanted to.

My favorites are the dudes who list themselves as Christian and Conservative. If I win the lottery, I'm going to turn to outing those folks to their communities as a full-time job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Christ- get an older widow, not a married man. Troll the widow groups.

Wtf is wrong with people going after those already married?!!!!

They don’t have to go after them, married men are all over the dating sites and apps.

I'm single and on Bumble (not generally considered a hookup site) and there are SO MANY married guys. I can't understand their chutzpah, because they've got their real faces up there for the world to see, and enough identifying information to find them if someone wanted to.

My favorites are the dudes who list themselves as Christian and Conservative. If I win the lottery, I'm going to turn to outing those folks to their communities as a full-time job.

LOL. It’s sort of disgusting to hear that they’re so blatant about it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Look up the Jennair and Mark Geradot case. The OW wouldn't leave them alone even after she confronted her, went to her employer etc. Her DH enjoyed having two women fight over him, even pretending to go to marital counseling but Jennair was a little smarter. Put gps on his car and phone. Finally shot the mistress dead in her own home. On social media most were sympathic toward Jennair, and lots of hate toward her DH and dead co-cheater. This was last year I believe.

Uh, Jennair was also insane and killed herself at the scene.

NP. How on earth would the OW know if the wife was insane or not? Still a risk.

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Look up the Jennair and Mark Geradot case. The OW wouldn't leave them alone even after she confronted her, went to her employer etc. Her DH enjoyed having two women fight over him, even pretending to go to marital counseling but Jennair was a little smarter. Put gps on his car and phone. Finally shot the mistress dead in her own home. On social media most were sympathic toward Jennair, and lots of hate toward her DH and dead co-cheater. This was last year I believe.

Uh, Jennair was also insane and killed herself at the scene.

NP. How on earth would the OW know if the wife was insane or not? Still a risk.

Infidelity happens in an estimated 30%-70% of marriages, and stories like that are so rare that everyone knows about them. Cheating is a lousy idea for many reasons, but dying in an elaborate murder suicide is unlikely to be an outcome. A disease is far more likely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Sorry if was confusing. As a cheating, married man, I assumed that the only women who would be interested in a fling was married women. It never occurred to me that a single woman would want anything to do with a married man, but I was wrong. I never went after single women on the dating sites. The ones I got with all made the first move with me. I had a lot of NSA sex over about the last 12 years or so and about half the women were single.

I never said I was upset by anything. In affair land, both parties are using the other for sex if you want to put it that way. None of the women I saw wanted any kind of a permanent relationship, especially the single women, and none of the married women wanted to leave their husbands. At least not any time soon. They were looking for the same thing I was. It seemed like the single women were more aggressive about it and made it clear, we can have fun now but eventually, I'm going to want an available man, if not go back to their previous BF. Happened a lot so yes, I was just used for sex for a short time. Not upsetting at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Look up the Jennair and Mark Geradot case. The OW wouldn't leave them alone even after she confronted her, went to her employer etc. Her DH enjoyed having two women fight over him, even pretending to go to marital counseling but Jennair was a little smarter. Put gps on his car and phone. Finally shot the mistress dead in her own home. On social media most were sympathic toward Jennair, and lots of hate toward her DH and dead co-cheater. This was last year I believe.

Uh, Jennair was also insane and killed herself at the scene.

Yes, a wise man is careful and selective with whom he hooks up. Don't stick your D in crazy.

[Anonymous]

^ You are despicable. Seriously. Know that many, many people see you for the low-life you are. Your total lack of conscience and ability to self-reflect are disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Look up the Jennair and Mark Geradot case. The OW wouldn't leave them alone even after she confronted her, went to her employer etc. Her DH enjoyed having two women fight over him, even pretending to go to marital counseling but Jennair was a little smarter. Put gps on his car and phone. Finally shot the mistress dead in her own home. On social media most were sympathic toward Jennair, and lots of hate toward her DH and dead co-cheater. This was last year I believe.

Uh, Jennair was also insane and killed herself at the scene.

NP. How on earth would the OW know if the wife was insane or not? Still a risk.

Infidelity happens in an estimated 30%-70% of marriages, and stories like that are so rare that everyone knows about them. Cheating is a lousy idea for many reasons, but dying in an elaborate murder suicide is unlikely to be an outcome. A disease is far more likely.

No, a disease is more likely among those in the single dating pools. I can find married women all day who haven't had sex with anyone but their husbands in over a decade, and not even him in the last few years. They are pretty safest group of all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ You are despicable. Seriously. Know that many, many people see you for the low-life you are. Your total lack of conscience and ability to self-reflect are disgusting.

I know, I feel terrible about it. Especially when those words from people on this board which is made up of some of the most horrible people I've experienced anywhere on the internet. I'll go text my AP to cheer me up with a boob pic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Sorry if was confusing. As a cheating, married man, I assumed that the only women who would be interested in a fling was married women. It never occurred to me that a single woman would want anything to do with a married man, but I was wrong. I never went after single women on the dating sites. The ones I got with all made the first move with me. I had a lot of NSA sex over about the last 12 years or so and about half the women were single.

I never said I was upset by anything. In affair land, both parties are using the other for sex if you want to put it that way. None of the women I saw wanted any kind of a permanent relationship, especially the single women, and none of the married women wanted to leave their husbands. At least not any time soon. They were looking for the same thing I was. It seemed like the single women were more aggressive about it and made it clear, we can have fun now but eventually, I'm going to want an available man, if not go back to their previous BF. Happened a lot so yes, I was just used for sex for a short time. Not upsetting at all.

In other words, reading between the lines, none of these women thought you were a catch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Sorry if was confusing. As a cheating, married man, I assumed that the only women who would be interested in a fling was married women. It never occurred to me that a single woman would want anything to do with a married man, but I was wrong. I never went after single women on the dating sites. The ones I got with all made the first move with me. I had a lot of NSA sex over about the last 12 years or so and about half the women were single.

I never said I was upset by anything. In affair land, both parties are using the other for sex if you want to put it that way. None of the women I saw wanted any kind of a permanent relationship, especially the single women, and none of the married women wanted to leave their husbands. At least not any time soon. They were looking for the same thing I was. It seemed like the single women were more aggressive about it and made it clear, we can have fun now but eventually, I'm going to want an available man, if not go back to their previous BF. Happened a lot so yes, I was just used for sex for a short time. Not upsetting at all.

In other words, reading between the lines, none of these women thought you were a catch.

None of the single women wanted a married man for anything but short-term sex and none of the married women had any plans to leave their marriage. Catch or not, that works for me. I'm not trying to be anyone's, catch.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Christ- get an older widow, not a married man. Troll the widow groups.

Wtf is wrong with people going after those already married?!!!!

They don’t have to go after them, married men are all over the dating sites and apps.

I'm single and on Bumble (not generally considered a hookup site) and there are SO MANY married guys. I can't understand their chutzpah, because they've got their real faces up there for the world to see, and enough identifying information to find them if someone wanted to.

My favorites are the dudes who list themselves as Christian and Conservative. If I win the lottery, I'm going to turn to outing those folks to their communities as a full-time job.

LOL. It’s sort of disgusting to hear that they’re so blatant about it.

If you are coming from a certain (Christian, conservative) world view, you are going to assume that anyone on a dating site is already fallen, because they are either single or divorced in violation of G-d's will.

So they assume there is no one on the site who would be shocked by them trolling for affair partners. Having grown up in a similarly warped religious culture (marriage is the goal, childbearing is the mandate), I guess the only part that surprises me is the part where they take no care to conceal their identities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ bitch. Think about his wife and kids. I’d cut you.

Not all women are the same. I understand why a married man would be a good option for some women.
I would not divorce over an affair. I told my DH that years ago. There is more to marriage than sex. Some people do not care. I would not. I also can see why being a mistress can keep a man in a marriage he would otherwise leave and in that case, the wife and kids should be thanking her for avoiding a divorce.

Not everyone views marriage as some black and white romantic fairytale. Also, blame the person going outside the family (which may be what they need to stay)...that is the person people should blame. Not the OW.

Blame them both. A couple of narcissistic teenagers Stroking each other’s egos.

It’s hard to believe, but many of us have a very healthy sex life with our husbands and they have mental health issues they use whores as their alcohol or quick fix. That’s not saving a marriage, honey. That’s not addressing underlying issues.

Keep thinking they have a magic p@ssy, you don’t. You are a whore getting sloppy seconds who he will discard when he tires of you.

DP

You may have a healthy sex life with you husband but you have some serious anger issues, sanctimonious and judgmental.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^ You are despicable. Seriously. Know that many, many people see you for the low-life you are. Your total lack of conscience and ability to self-reflect are disgusting.

I know, I feel terrible about it. Especially when those words from people on this board which is made up of some of the most horrible people I've experienced anywhere on the internet. I'll go text my AP to cheer me up with a boob pic.

So I'm no the pp and that message may have been a bit harsh. Nevertheless, many women here will note that they would prefer to be told about cheating, men should divorce rather than cheat etc. If that is the view, what is horrible about it? Is it because your actions aren't condoned? Many people in real life do believe cheating is wrong so why are all of us called horrible for stating that? Are you the horrible person you are referring to in this board?

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of mistresses don’t care if he leaves his wife or not.

Agreed. They may have their own spouse they don't want to leave.

Or maybe they are divorced and never want to marry again. In that case, they are not jealous of the wife. They pity her.

They should go after SINGLE guys. If they aren’t married, why are they targeting married guys?? Wtf??

When I started cheating, I was sure that I would only hook up with married women. On dating sites, and not just AshleyMadison, I pursued the married women I eventually hooked up with. Meanwhile, about half the women I hooked up were single and they were more likely to pursue me. The ones I got with were pretty much on a break from serious dating and just looking for some NSF sex until the real thing came along again. I felt so used. LOL. But seriously, I really was.

I’m confused. You only wanted to hook up with married unavailable worn for sex and then were upset that you met available women for sex that used you like you we’re going to use the married women?!?!!!

Wtf!?!! Also, dude, seriously, her spouse may be packing heat. You want him coming after you?

Look up the Jennair and Mark Geradot case. The OW wouldn't leave them alone even after she confronted her, went to her employer etc. Her DH enjoyed having two women fight over him, even pretending to go to marital counseling but Jennair was a little smarter. Put gps on his car and phone. Finally shot the mistress dead in her own home. On social media most were sympathic toward Jennair, and lots of hate toward her DH and dead co-cheater. This was last year I believe.

Uh, Jennair was also insane and killed herself at the scene.

NP. How on earth would the OW know if the wife was insane or not? Still a risk.

Infidelity happens in an estimated 30%-70% of marriages, and stories like that are so rare that everyone knows about them. Cheating is a lousy idea for many reasons, but dying in an elaborate murder suicide is unlikely to be an outcome. A disease is far more likely.

Well—and divorce and screwing up your kids for life.