Anyone completely blind sided by a cheating spouse ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

It's not that. It's just that some people have enough going on in their own lives to watch their spouse like a potential criminal. I mean I can't be bothered to watch mine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

She’s married. A SAHM genius. I have all of the information. Confirmed (not by him) as well. But, thanks for having my back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

You’ve caught everyone you ever dated ? Sucks that every guy you dated cheated on you. Maybe because you sound completely crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Similar with mine. Mine was with a co worker and she and him went to a hotel during the day. I had zero idea. No work trips, no staying out let, she had almost no friends, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

She’s married. A SAHM genius. I have all of the information. Confirmed (not by him) as well. But, thanks for having my back.

FYI married people will cheat with married people! They feel a lot safer knowing their lover is less likely to rat them out and end up with a ‘Fatal Attraction’ situation! Geez I think I need to start a class on teaching the signs of a cheating spouse.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

You’ve caught everyone you ever dated ? Sucks that every guy you dated cheated on you. Maybe because you sound completely crazy.

No.. I dated only hot bad boys and I was well aware of the chances these types would remain faithful. You’re only as faithful as your options is 100% true, especially if you’re a man!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

It's not that. It's just that some people have enough going on in their own lives to watch their spouse like a potential criminal. I mean I can't be bothered to watch mine.

Exactly my point! Head in the sand mentality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Similar with mine. Mine was with a co worker and she and him went to a hotel during the day. I had zero idea. No work trips, no staying out let, she had almost no friends, etc.

Same. Mine spouse was home all weekends and home on time every weeknight. It was during work hours too. Also a married person with teen kids. She wasn’t going to tell on him because she didn’t want her own marriage blown up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

She’s married. A SAHM genius. I have all of the information. Confirmed (not by him) as well. But, thanks for having my back.

FYI married people will cheat with married people! They feel a lot safer knowing their lover is less likely to rat them out and end up with a ‘Fatal Attraction’ situation! Geez I think I need to start a class on teaching the signs of a cheating spouse.

No shit, genius. And not prostitutes like your first assumption about that spouse. Glad you settled for a dud instead of a hot one. Can you go away? This is a thread for people discovering affairs not people gloating that they are badass detectives constantly up their dumpy, non hot husband’s ass. FBI agent—sure, ok. An FBI agent is posting in a forum and disclosing they are FBI. You know a lot about protecting your job too, don’t you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

She’s married. A SAHM genius. I have all of the information. Confirmed (not by him) as well. But, thanks for having my back.

FYI married people will cheat with married people! They feel a lot safer knowing their lover is less likely to rat them out and end up with a ‘Fatal Attraction’ situation! Geez I think I need to start a class on teaching the signs of a cheating spouse.

No shit, genius. And not prostitutes like your first assumption about that spouse. Glad you settled for a dud instead of a hot one. Can you go away? This is a thread for people discovering affairs not people gloating that they are badass detectives constantly up their dumpy, non hot husband’s ass. FBI agent—sure, ok. An FBI agent is posting in a forum and disclosing they are FBI. You know a lot about protecting your job too, don’t you?

I’m just trying to help all the oblivious people out there in lalaland. Trust me, the pain is a lot less when you know something is up than when you refuse to believe it’s happening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

Yes. Some people just don't believe this unless it happens to them.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Similar with mine. Mine was with a co worker and she and him went to a hotel during the day. I had zero idea. No work trips, no staying out let, she had almost no friends, etc.

Same. "How could I be having an affair? I'm home every night." That's how.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m sorry OP but being blindsided by a cheating spouse means you are completely oblivious with your head in the sand!! There’s noway in hell I could ever be blindsided because I’m too astute to my relationship and my DH. The only way he could get away with anything would be if he was meeting someone during the day M thru F briefly but zero contact after 5 when he gets home and on weekends. I’m sure your Spouse was MIA, sneaking off for phone calls or lots of others unexplained habits. My gf told me one time her DH didn’t come home cause he got a flat tire and she just laughed it off I can’t even handle that kind of oblivion.

Ha. May you be so lucky never to be deceived in such a way.

Nope. He was always at work when he said he would be. I work full-time from home. We did everything together and were still having sex regularly. Zero warning signs.

He never had overnight work trips or went out with boys. We even worked out together and often drive the kids to practices together. He threw a blowout bday party for me 2 months ago, thoughtfully planned.

They met on Fridays during his work hours. In her house. He used a burner email account something I had never heard of.

If you asked neighbors, friends, families or my children if they ever would suspect this—hell no. 22 years of what seemed a happy marriage/family.

Btw, my dad was terminally ill from cancer when he started this up and died last year. So, yeah, I guess you could say I was preoccupied. But, he was a champ watching the kids and talking to them about their beloved grandpa and helping my mom too.

So—yeah—blindsided is pretty apt.

well, yeah, that blows the other woman's theory. would you know if your husband had an hour or so in another woman's house during regular work hours? do you talk to him 24/7 while he's at work?

Sorry I’m not buying it. And the fact you were preoccupied with your father says a lot. I’m sure there was a lot more going on than you even noticed because of this. There’s noway your DH was carrying on an affair only on Fridays!! I guarantee if I was his spouse his ass would’ve been caught a long time ago. FBI agent here and I’ve caught everyone I’ve ever dated with all kinds of spy gadgets. It’s not that hard once you get that feeling. FYI the only women that are ok with an afternoon romp are prostitutes. Just saying.

She’s married. A SAHM genius. I have all of the information. Confirmed (not by him) as well. But, thanks for having my back.

FYI married people will cheat with married people! They feel a lot safer knowing their lover is less likely to rat them out and end up with a ‘Fatal Attraction’ situation! Geez I think I need to start a class on teaching the signs of a cheating spouse.

No shit, genius. And not prostitutes like your first assumption about that spouse. Glad you settled for a dud instead of a hot one. Can you go away? This is a thread for people discovering affairs not people gloating that they are badass detectives constantly up their dumpy, non hot husband’s ass. FBI agent—sure, ok. An FBI agent is posting in a forum and disclosing they are FBI. You know a lot about protecting your job too, don’t you?

I’m just trying to help all the oblivious people out there in lalaland. Trust me, the pain is a lot less when you know something is up than when you refuse to believe it’s happening.

None of that series of women who had husbands that only did things during work hours (where they were supposed to be. when and where. and only communicated in person in the office) had any idea. Not everyone that cheats is in la, la, land. They are competent people with kids, careers, jobs and families. They have been in relationships for 25+ years. But, I guess FBI agents have a ton of free time to just follow their spouses around.

I mean the Secret Service and FBI are so great at detective work and not being oblivious, it's not like they caught themselves in their own prostitution ring or anything.