Anyone completely blind sided by a cheating spouse ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It never justifies cheating. Never. Health and safety reasons--for your family.

Man up and ask for a divorce. Lying for years and stealing time away from your kids, spending $ on a non-family member is NEVER the way to go.


If they won't go to counseling, or compromise then yes go your separate ways. Never a reason to cheat and bring or bring some nut into your family's life.

I am not so sure about this. Honestly, I think I'd prefer my spouse spend 2-3 hours a week or so with someone else (someone safe) and maintain our relatively stable home for our kids than disrupt their lives so badly with divorce, two houses, recrimination, losing faith in your parents/home. I dont think either of us are cheater (although you never know) but I disagree that its "always" better to divorce. I guess I'm more of the DADT camp.

I agree with this (woman).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It never justifies cheating. Never. Health and safety reasons--for your family.

Man up and ask for a divorce. Lying for years and stealing time away from your kids, spending $ on a non-family member is NEVER the way to go.


If they won't go to counseling, or compromise then yes go your separate ways. Never a reason to cheat and bring or bring some nut into your family's life.

I am not so sure about this. Honestly, I think I'd prefer my spouse spend 2-3 hours a week or so with someone else (someone safe) and maintain our relatively stable home for our kids than disrupt their lives so badly with divorce, two houses, recrimination, losing faith in your parents/home. I dont think either of us are cheater (although you never know) but I disagree that its "always" better to divorce. I guess I'm more of the DADT camp.

I agree with this (woman).

Not me. Why? We had a healthy sex love and great relationship. Why would anyone lack self respect and allow somebody to cheat on them? If you don’t like sex ok. But, if you were having sex it’s unsafe he’s putting his d@ck in other people unprotected.

Call me traditional

[Anonymous]

Yes I was blindsided, we divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheaters are gross low-lifes. They feel entitled to "have their cake and eat it too," reaping all the benefits of both a monogamous relationship AND a single life. They lie to people who love them and prevent those people from making informed, autonomous decisions about their own lives. They often risk the faithful spouses health as well, since many cheaters can't be bothered to use condoms.

If your marriage sucks, do something about it. Go to counseling and make it better. Or divorce your spouse before your f* other people. Or be up front about wanting to go outside the relationship and offer your spouse the chance to be with others too. But don't pretend that cheating is your ONLY option.

No, you're just a garbage human.

Agree.

They always think they are so enlightened.

Umm...anyone can go out and get d@ck of p@ssy. It certainly doesn’t make someone special. And, if you are married and have kids you are scumbags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheaters are gross low-lifes. They feel entitled to "have their cake and eat it too," reaping all the benefits of both a monogamous relationship AND a single life. They lie to people who love them and prevent those people from making informed, autonomous decisions about their own lives. They often risk the faithful spouses health as well, since many cheaters can't be bothered to use condoms.

If your marriage sucks, do something about it. Go to counseling and make it better. Or divorce your spouse before your f* other people. Or be up front about wanting to go outside the relationship and offer your spouse the chance to be with others too. But don't pretend that cheating is your ONLY option.

No, you're just a garbage human.

Agree.

They always think they are so enlightened.

Umm...anyone can go out and get d@ck of p@ssy. It certainly doesn’t make someone special. And, if you are married and have kids you are scumbags.

We don't do it to feel special. That's not how this works at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

It never justifies cheating. Never. Health and safety reasons--for your family.

Man up and ask for a divorce. Lying for years and stealing time away from your kids, spending $ on a non-family member is NEVER the way to go.


If they won't go to counseling, or compromise then yes go your separate ways. Never a reason to cheat and bring or bring some nut into your family's life.

I am not so sure about this. Honestly, I think I'd prefer my spouse spend 2-3 hours a week or so with someone else (someone safe) and maintain our relatively stable home for our kids than disrupt their lives so badly with divorce, two houses, recrimination, losing faith in your parents/home. I dont think either of us are cheater (although you never know) but I disagree that its "always" better to divorce. I guess I'm more of the DADT camp.

I agree with this (woman).

Not me. Why? We had a healthy sex love and great relationship. Why would anyone lack self respect and allow somebody to cheat on them? If you don’t like sex ok. But, if you were having sex it’s unsafe he’s putting his d@ck in other people unprotected.

Call me traditional

My kids and lifestyle would always come first. I would put a stop to it, if spouse refused then yes divorce.
Either way he'd be dead to me, I'd fake it just like he faked being married.