Anyone completely blind sided by a cheating spouse ?

[Anonymous]

Just like wtf? Last thing you would have expected?

What did you do?

[Anonymous]

Yes. We separated the next day and divorced after the required waiting period. It was so unbelievably hard. I felt disoriented for a year. I still don't understand what the hell happened.

[Anonymous]

Aren't most parole blindsided by that?

[Anonymous]

Yes my best friend. They are now currently trying for a baby. Shes caught him about 5 times now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes my best friend. They are now currently trying for a baby. Shes caught him about 5 times now.

I mean... she's not blindsided if she's caught him 5 times.

[Anonymous]

I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

Did you have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. We separated the next day and divorced after the required waiting period. It was so unbelievably hard. I felt disoriented for a year. I still don't understand what the hell happened.

Did one of you move out immediately?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

Did you have kids?

Yes. She moved out and I had primary custody.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

Did you have kids?

Yes. She moved out and I had primary custody.

How old were your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

Did you have kids?

Yes. She moved out and I had primary custody.

I thought it was a temporary thing and I tried to tough it out. I’m now quite more cynical on people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

Did you have kids?

Yes. She moved out and I had primary custody.

How old were your kids?

8 and 10.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

Did you have kids?

Yes. She moved out and I had primary custody.

How old were your kids?

8 and 10.

Are they doing okay? Mine are 12 and 14 and I worry about them the most.

But this was off the charts deception. I mean there’s a pandemic going on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

Did you have kids?

Yes. She moved out and I had primary custody.

How old were your kids?

8 and 10.

Are they doing okay? Mine are 12 and 14 and I worry about them the most.

But this was off the charts deception. I mean there’s a pandemic going on.

They did well and continue to do well. I did everything I could to make it good for them including supporting her relationship with them. The flat out lies and gaslighting was insane. I should start a support group. It was so deceitful hard to describe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was totally blindsided. I insisted on counseling. She went but never gave up the AP. We ended up divorced two years later. Some of the toughest times of my life.

Did you have kids?

Yes. She moved out and I had primary custody.

How old were your kids?

8 and 10.

Are they doing okay? Mine are 12 and 14 and I worry about them the most.

But this was off the charts deception. I mean there’s a pandemic going on.

They did well and continue to do well. I did everything I could to make it good for them including supporting her relationship with them. The flat out lies and gaslighting was insane. I should start a support group. It was so deceitful hard to describe.

I would note the AP dumped her as usually happens but she ended up dating a series of guys. Now I have no idea about her love life nor do I care but there’s no evidence she’s coupled for what it’s worth.