Would you allow your 16 year old daughter to wear one of those almost thong swimsuits?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes... jeez!

Get your mind out of the gutter!

NP here but how is OP’s mind in the gutter? It’s a normal impulse to prevent your DD from walking out of the house half-dressed. When I was a teen in the 80s it was the norm for teens to try to sneak out of the house showing a bit more more skin and for parents to match them back in and ask them to change.
Thongs and low-cut shirts that show the same thing that a bra might reveal were NOT the norm. I just don’t understand this response of “get your mind out of the gutter” or “stop sexualizing your DD” because we are trying to protect our DDs from growing up too fast or attracting unwanted attention.

Nobody is talking about thongs.

OP here. Yes we are talking about thongs. I have said that over and over.

Your subject line literally says “almost thong”


Almost thong is not the same as the two pictures the PPs have posted.

I get it, you didn’t get the responses you wanted so you changed “what you meant”... but you clearly meant ALMOST thong.

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Anonymous wrote:Can not a single person here figure out how to post a pic? There is such a range, I can't envision it.

https://pakalohamaui.com/shop/honolua-ruched-bottom/

I dunno. That's sort of borderline for me. I was picturing an actual thong.

Most pools in this area won’t allow a thing.

It’s just a bikini covering 1/2 of an inch less.

I personally don’t like how the feel but most are cut this way now.

Yeah. I don't really find that bikini all that shocking and it's going to look different on different body types. Regular bikini bottoms often ride up just like that. I'm pretty conservative but I think I would have worn that suit.

Op here. The swimsuit in that link covers up a lot more than what my niece and her friend were wearing. Although tbh I wouldn't let my 16 year old daughter wear the swimsuit in that link either.

OP again. Can someone post a picture from the link above of the Hamoa bottom (it's black) That's the kind of bottoms these girls were wearing and what I mean by "almost thong".

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

No one thinks men shouldn't be able to control themselves. But of course heterosexual men are going to be turned on by seeing an attractive female with a good body in a skimpy bikini that shows her entire ass. iAnd it's the entire reason that women choose to wear these types of suits. It's not something a parent should allow a 16 year old to wear.

People—of all genders and sexualities—get turned on all the time.

Why is it that we put responsibility for straight men’s inability/unwillingness to manage their sexual attraction on girls/women? Why are our standards for straight men so low? Why don’t we expect them to manage their urges the way we expect everyone else to?

Why is this the fault/responsibility of girls and women?

So you think that teenage boys should be wearing thongs to the beach, too, and that any woman/girl who looks at them are rapey perverts?

I think people should wear what they want and that other people should be able to control their responses. The only people who seem to have trouble controlling their responses—indeed, the only people anyone on this thread is worried about protecting girls from—are straight men.

So I wouldn’t worry about teen boys in thongs because I wouldn’t expect anyone to make them feel unsafe or as if they are pieces of meat. Society accepts that behavior only from straight men targeting women.

So you expect people to NOT NOTICE that you are falling out of your too small swimsuit? I think you are entirely unrealistic. When you make a spectacle of yourself people are going to notice. You are going to get reactions and you KNOW that you will get reactions. It's precisely why you chose to wear what you did. Just ask the "People of Walmart" - they know they're weird and they don't care if you think they're trashy. They are who they are - so there!

You are moving the goalposts. It’s fine to notice. It’s fine to register and even judge.

It’s not fine to comment, leer, touch. It’s not fine to tell other people they can’t show their bodies because you can’t control your reaction to their bodies.

But people will comment and they will react. If I paint myself purple from head to toe and go for a jog around the block people are going notice me, they will react and they'll probably say "WTF??". They may point at me and say to their neighbor "What on earth!?!" Some might do a double take and find themselves gawking in amazement....

Why? Because I have very purposely drawn attention to myself - LOOK AT MEEEE!!!!





When you make a spectacle of yourself you get the reactions that you get.

People with couth simply look away. It's in poor taste to visibly react to others' appearance, positive or negative.

You do realize that the entire reason that women wear thongs is so that people will look at their asses?

This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

No. What you don't seem to understand is most self confident women wear bathing suits and are not inviting people to look at their bodies. It's actually sad that you have been socialized to believe that.

You're out of your mind. Women who wear thongs absolutely want people to look at their bodies. What other reason is there to wear a thong?

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Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

No one thinks men shouldn't be able to control themselves. But of course heterosexual men are going to be turned on by seeing an attractive female with a good body in a skimpy bikini that shows her entire ass. iAnd it's the entire reason that women choose to wear these types of suits. It's not something a parent should allow a 16 year old to wear.

People—of all genders and sexualities—get turned on all the time.

Why is it that we put responsibility for straight men’s inability/unwillingness to manage their sexual attraction on girls/women? Why are our standards for straight men so low? Why don’t we expect them to manage their urges the way we expect everyone else to?

Why is this the fault/responsibility of girls and women?

So you think that teenage boys should be wearing thongs to the beach, too, and that any woman/girl who looks at them are rapey perverts?

I think people should wear what they want and that other people should be able to control their responses. The only people who seem to have trouble controlling their responses—indeed, the only people anyone on this thread is worried about protecting girls from—are straight men.

So I wouldn’t worry about teen boys in thongs because I wouldn’t expect anyone to make them feel unsafe or as if they are pieces of meat. Society accepts that behavior only from straight men targeting women.

So you expect people to NOT NOTICE that you are falling out of your too small swimsuit? I think you are entirely unrealistic. When you make a spectacle of yourself people are going to notice. You are going to get reactions and you KNOW that you will get reactions. It's precisely why you chose to wear what you did. Just ask the "People of Walmart" - they know they're weird and they don't care if you think they're trashy. They are who they are - so there!

You are moving the goalposts. It’s fine to notice. It’s fine to register and even judge.

It’s not fine to comment, leer, touch. It’s not fine to tell other people they can’t show their bodies because you can’t control your reaction to their bodies.

But people will comment and they will react. If I paint myself purple from head to toe and go for a jog around the block people are going notice me, they will react and they'll probably say "WTF??". They may point at me and say to their neighbor "What on earth!?!" Some might do a double take and find themselves gawking in amazement....

Why? Because I have very purposely drawn attention to myself - LOOK AT MEEEE!!!!





When you make a spectacle of yourself you get the reactions that you get.

People with couth simply look away. It's in poor taste to visibly react to others' appearance, positive or negative.

You do realize that the entire reason that women wear thongs is so that people will look at their asses?

This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

No. What you don't seem to understand is most self confident women wear bathing suits and are not inviting people to look at their bodies. It's actually sad that you have been socialized to believe that.

You're out of your mind. Women who wear thongs absolutely want people to look at their bodies. What other reason is there to wear a thong?

You are trying to reason with a "mother" who thinks that her daughter baring her azz for the whole world to see is somehow empowering to women. Every woman should strive to be a Klassy Kardashian ya know.

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This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

[b]That's like me saying that the purpose of buying a large SUV is to brag and be obnoxious.[b]

For some people, it is. For other people, it isn't. And there's no way to know, just from looking at a person with a large SUV, why they bought a large SUV.

There are plenty of very practical reasons to own a large SUV. There is no practical reason to wear a thong. And why is it so difficult for you to understand that lots of women like looking sexy and having people admire,their bodies? You seem to think women like this don't exist. I actually have no problem with adult women doing this although I think a thong is too much unless at an adults only resort. I do have a big problem with a 16 year old girl displaying herself like this.

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I hate to be Captain Obvious....but...

When your daughter gets a job at Hooters are you going to hang around busting her customers' chops for daring to look at her?

Do you not realize that a Hooters waitress takes that job precisely because the uniform gets her better tips?

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^And even Hooters understands that the uniform is not proper attire for an underage girl, btw.

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This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

That's like me saying that the purpose of buying a large SUV is to brag and be obnoxious.[b]

For some people, it is. For other people, it isn't. And there's no way to know, just from looking at a person with a large SUV, why they bought a large SUV.

There are plenty of very practical reasons to own a large SUV. There is no practical reason to wear a thong. [b]And why is it so difficult for you to understand that lots of women like looking sexy and having people admire,their bodies? You seem to think women like this don't exist. I actually have no problem with adult women doing this although I think a thong is too much unless at an adults only resort. I do have a big problem with a 16 year old girl displaying herself like this.

Yes, i don't get this at all. Weren't you once 18 or 21 or 25?

I was and a good deal of what I wore was because of the male attention. I loved having guys check me out or think I was hot.

These girls aren't wearing these suits because they're so practical or comfortable. Give me a break.

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This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

[b]That's like me saying that the purpose of buying a large SUV is to brag and be obnoxious.[b]

For some people, it is. For other people, it isn't. And there's no way to know, just from looking at a person with a large SUV, why they bought a large SUV.

There are plenty of very practical reasons to own a large SUV. There is no practical reason to wear a thong. And why is it so difficult for you to understand that lots of women like looking sexy and having people admire,their bodies? You seem to think women like this don't exist. I actually have no problem with adult women doing this although I think a thong is too much unless at an adults only resort. I do have a big problem with a 16 year old girl displaying herself like this.

Really? I don't think that there are ANY practical reasons to own a large SUV.

Now, are there people who buy tiny swimsuits because they think they look good in them, and/or because they feel good wearing them? Yes, I'm sure there are. And that's fine with me.

I actually have a 16-year-old daughter, and I wouldn't buy her one of those almost-thong swimsuits because they're not useful for swimming. But if she wanted to buy one herself and wear it, I wouldn't forbid it.

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This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

That's like me saying that the purpose of buying a large SUV is to brag and be obnoxious.[b]

For some people, it is. For other people, it isn't. And there's no way to know, just from looking at a person with a large SUV, why they bought a large SUV.

There are plenty of very practical reasons to own a large SUV. There is no practical reason to wear a thong. And why is it so difficult for you to understand that lots of women like looking sexy and having people admire,their bodies? You seem to think women like this don't exist. I actually have no problem with adult women doing this although I think a thong is too much unless at an adults only resort. I do have a big problem with a 16 year old girl displaying herself like this.

Really? I don't think that there are ANY practical reasons to own a large SUV.

Now, are there people who buy tiny swimsuits because they think they look good in them, and/or because they feel good wearing them? Yes, I'm sure there are. And that's fine with me.

[b]I actually have a 16-year-old daughter, and I wouldn't buy her one of those almost-thong swimsuits because they're not useful for swimming. But if she wanted to buy one herself and wear it, I wouldn't forbid it.

Yet something tells me that you would feel outraged if you saw a guy give her rear end a second look when she walked by.

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Ive said it before but it's all because we conflate pretty or even cute with sexy to the point that it's almost inextricable now. Yes, 16 year olds want to look cute or pretty. That basically means sexy now. Not necessarily overt but "cheeky" and thus a lot of clothes become a grey area

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This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

That's like me saying that the purpose of buying a large SUV is to brag and be obnoxious.[b]

For some people, it is. For other people, it isn't. And there's no way to know, just from looking at a person with a large SUV, why they bought a large SUV.

There are plenty of very practical reasons to own a large SUV. There is no practical reason to wear a thong. And why is it so difficult for you to understand that lots of women like looking sexy and having people admire,their bodies? You seem to think women like this don't exist. I actually have no problem with adult women doing this although I think a thong is too much unless at an adults only resort. I do have a big problem with a 16 year old girl displaying herself like this.

Really? I don't think that there are ANY practical reasons to own a large SUV.

Now, are there people who buy tiny swimsuits because they think they look good in them, and/or because they feel good wearing them? Yes, I'm sure there are. And that's fine with me.

[b]I actually have a 16-year-old daughter, and I wouldn't buy her one of those almost-thong swimsuits because they're not useful for swimming. But if she wanted to buy one herself and wear it, I wouldn't forbid it.

Yet something tells me that you would feel outraged if you saw a guy give her rear end a second look when she walked by.

If I saw a grown man leering at the rear end (or front end) of a 16-year-old girl, I would think it was gross regardless of what the 16-year-old was wearing. "Don't leer at people in public" should be a basic rule of polite society.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate to be Captain Obvious....but...

When your daughter gets a job at Hooters are you going to hang around busting her customers' chops for daring to look at her?

Do you not realize that a Hooters waitress takes that job precisely because the uniform gets her better tips?

Interesting... my friends that dress the most scantily growing up has passed the bar exam in 4 states. Married a military officer and every time she moves she just take the bar exam again.

So Captain Idiot, it doesn't actually work that way.

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

Just because your daughter might choose to wear a thong in college doesn't seem like a good reason to let her wear one at 16. Your daughter might also choose to drink and smoke weed in college as well. Is that reason to let her start doing it at 16? Some activities just aren't age appropriate, and I would say choosing to flaunt your ass at 16 is one of them.

Every bathing suit has ass showing.

You let your college student drink and smoke pot?

Are posters just being intentionally dense here? Are you really going to claim that you don't know the difference between a bit of butt cheek hanging out of the bottom of a swim suit versus the ENTIRE ASS showing because the backside of the suit consists of nothing more than a piece of fabric going up the crack?

You know this thread is not about things it’s about Brazilian cut where the bottom cuts across the butt. It literally shows 1/2 inch more butt.

OP here. No these girls' swimsuits showed their ENTIRE butt cheeks. I thought I made that pretty clear in several of my posts.

You need to post a picture because the swimsuits that most girls are wearing and most moms are freaking out about are not thongs. They are not even allowed in most pools in Maryland.

So post a picture and let us see.

This is what I see a lot and moms are clutching their pearls.

Someone posted a picture of a suit similar to this up thread and I said no, this covers way more than what these girls were wearing. Its essentially a thong. Only difference is there is a bit more fabric above the butt crack instead of just a string and you can see a bit of fabric coming out of the butt crack. I called it an "almost thong" because I think of traditional thongs as nothing but string.

Wow, OP. You examined these swim bottoms really, really closely. I might suggest that *you* are the perv.

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

Just because your daughter might choose to wear a thong in college doesn't seem like a good reason to let her wear one at 16. Your daughter might also choose to drink and smoke weed in college as well. Is that reason to let her start doing it at 16? Some activities just aren't age appropriate, and I would say choosing to flaunt your ass at 16 is one of them.

Every bathing suit has ass showing.

You let your college student drink and smoke pot?

Are posters just being intentionally dense here? Are you really going to claim that you don't know the difference between a bit of butt cheek hanging out of the bottom of a swim suit versus the ENTIRE ASS showing because the backside of the suit consists of nothing more than a piece of fabric going up the crack?

You know this thread is not about things it’s about Brazilian cut where the bottom cuts across the butt. It literally shows 1/2 inch more butt.

OP here. No these girls' swimsuits showed their ENTIRE butt cheeks. I thought I made that pretty clear in several of my posts.

You need to post a picture because the swimsuits that most girls are wearing and most moms are freaking out about are not thongs. They are not even allowed in most pools in Maryland.

So post a picture and let us see.

This is what I see a lot and moms are clutching their pearls.

Someone posted a picture of a suit similar to this up thread and I said no, this covers way more than what these girls were wearing. Its essentially a thong. Only difference is there is a bit more fabric above the butt crack instead of just a string and you can see a bit of fabric coming out of the butt crack. I called it an "almost thong" because I think of traditional thongs as nothing but string.

Wow, OP. You examined these swim bottoms really, really closely. I might suggest that *you* are the perv.

Urgh, I'm frustrated on Op's behalf. People have asked Op pointed questions about the actual swimsuit the girls were wearing. Op is doing her best to describe the suits by comparing them to the ones seen in these pictures.