Would you allow your 16 year old daughter to wear one of those almost thong swimsuits?

[Anonymous]

This thread is crazy.

I am old so I still remember when the first Crocodile Dundee movie came out in 1986 and the swimsuit in that was shocking! Ha! But when we watched the move a couple of years ago, I was telling my kids the story about how the swimsuit was shocking and it was actually NBD when we watched the movie.

So funny.

Who cares? I think it is just doesn't matter. And any 40 yr old "dads" talking about teenage girls in swimsuits are sleazy. What trashy men. Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

No one thinks men shouldn't be able to control themselves. But of course heterosexual men are going to be turned on by seeing an attractive female with a good body in a skimpy bikini that shows her entire ass. iAnd it's the entire reason that women choose to wear these types of suits. It's not something a parent should allow a 16 year old to wear.

People—of all genders and sexualities—get turned on all the time.

Why is it that we put responsibility for straight men’s inability/unwillingness to manage their sexual attraction on girls/women? Why are our standards for straight men so low? Why don’t we expect them to manage their urges the way we expect everyone else to?

Why is this the fault/responsibility of girls and women?

So you think that teenage boys should be wearing thongs to the beach, too, and that any woman/girl who looks at them are rapey perverts?

I think people should wear what they want and that other people should be able to control their responses. The only people who seem to have trouble controlling their responses—indeed, the only people anyone on this thread is worried about protecting girls from—are straight men.

So I wouldn’t worry about teen boys in thongs because I wouldn’t expect anyone to make them feel unsafe or as if they are pieces of meat. Society accepts that behavior only from straight men targeting women.

So you expect people to NOT NOTICE that you are falling out of your too small swimsuit? I think you are entirely unrealistic. When you make a spectacle of yourself people are going to notice. You are going to get reactions and you KNOW that you will get reactions. It's precisely why you chose to wear what you did. Just ask the "People of Walmart" - they know they're weird and they don't care if you think they're trashy. They are who they are - so there!

You are moving the goalposts. It’s fine to notice. It’s fine to register and even judge.

It’s not fine to comment, leer, touch. It’s not fine to tell other people they can’t show their bodies because you can’t control your reaction to their bodies.

But people will comment and they will react. If I paint myself purple from head to toe and go for a jog around the block people are going notice me, they will react and they'll probably say "WTF??". They may point at me and say to their neighbor "What on earth!?!" Some might do a double take and find themselves gawking in amazement....

Why? Because I have very purposely drawn attention to myself - LOOK AT MEEEE!!!!





When you make a spectacle of yourself you get the reactions that you get.

People with couth simply look away. It's in poor taste to visibly react to others' appearance, positive or negative.

You do realize that the entire reason that women wear thongs is so that people will look at their asses?

That doesn’t mean you must do so, dear.

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Get your mind out of the gutter!

NP here but how is OP’s mind in the gutter? It’s a normal impulse to prevent your DD from walking out of the house half-dressed. When I was a teen in the 80s it was the norm for teens to try to sneak out of the house showing a bit more more skin and for parents to match them back in and ask them to change.
Thongs and low-cut shirts that show the same thing that a bra might reveal were NOT the norm. I just don’t understand this response of “get your mind out of the gutter” or “stop sexualizing your DD” because we are trying to protect our DDs from growing up too fast or attracting unwanted attention.

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How is wanting our girls to cover up their butt cheeks “body shaming”?? That is just so ridiculous and extreme in the other direction.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes... jeez!

Get your mind out of the gutter!

NP here but how is OP’s mind in the gutter? It’s a normal impulse to prevent your DD from walking out of the house half-dressed. When I was a teen in the 80s it was the norm for teens to try to sneak out of the house showing a bit more more skin and for parents to match them back in and ask them to change.
Thongs and low-cut shirts that show the same thing that a bra might reveal were NOT the norm. I just don’t understand this response of “get your mind out of the gutter” or “stop sexualizing your DD” because we are trying to protect our DDs from growing up too fast or attracting unwanted attention.

Nobody is talking about thongs.

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Anonymous wrote:How is wanting our girls to cover up their butt cheeks “body shaming”?? That is just so ridiculous and extreme in the other direction.

Very few swimsuits cover the whole butt and this thread is not about thongs.

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

Just because your daughter might choose to wear a thong in college doesn't seem like a good reason to let her wear one at 16. Your daughter might also choose to drink and smoke weed in college as well. Is that reason to let her start doing it at 16? Some activities just aren't age appropriate, and I would say choosing to flaunt your ass at 16 is one of them.

Every bathing suit has ass showing.

You let your college student drink and smoke pot?

Are posters just being intentionally dense here? Are you really going to claim that you don't know the difference between a bit of butt cheek hanging out of the bottom of a swim suit versus the ENTIRE ASS showing because the backside of the suit consists of nothing more than a piece of fabric going up the crack?

You know this thread is not about things it’s about Brazilian cut where the bottom cuts across the butt. It literally shows 1/2 inch more butt.

OP here. No these girls' swimsuits showed their ENTIRE butt cheeks. I thought I made that pretty clear in several of my posts.

You need to post a picture because the swimsuits that most girls are wearing and most moms are freaking out about are not thongs. They are not even allowed in most pools in Maryland.

So post a picture and let us see.

This is what I see a lot and moms are clutching their pearls.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

No one thinks men shouldn't be able to control themselves. But of course heterosexual men are going to be turned on by seeing an attractive female with a good body in a skimpy bikini that shows her entire ass. iAnd it's the entire reason that women choose to wear these types of suits. It's not something a parent should allow a 16 year old to wear.

People—of all genders and sexualities—get turned on all the time.

Why is it that we put responsibility for straight men’s inability/unwillingness to manage their sexual attraction on girls/women? Why are our standards for straight men so low? Why don’t we expect them to manage their urges the way we expect everyone else to?

Why is this the fault/responsibility of girls and women?

So you think that teenage boys should be wearing thongs to the beach, too, and that any woman/girl who looks at them are rapey perverts?

I think people should wear what they want and that other people should be able to control their responses. The only people who seem to have trouble controlling their responses—indeed, the only people anyone on this thread is worried about protecting girls from—are straight men.

So I wouldn’t worry about teen boys in thongs because I wouldn’t expect anyone to make them feel unsafe or as if they are pieces of meat. Society accepts that behavior only from straight men targeting women.

So you expect people to NOT NOTICE that you are falling out of your too small swimsuit? I think you are entirely unrealistic. When you make a spectacle of yourself people are going to notice. You are going to get reactions and you KNOW that you will get reactions. It's precisely why you chose to wear what you did. Just ask the "People of Walmart" - they know they're weird and they don't care if you think they're trashy. They are who they are - so there!

You are moving the goalposts. It’s fine to notice. It’s fine to register and even judge.

It’s not fine to comment, leer, touch. It’s not fine to tell other people they can’t show their bodies because you can’t control your reaction to their bodies.

But people will comment and they will react. If I paint myself purple from head to toe and go for a jog around the block people are going notice me, they will react and they'll probably say "WTF??". They may point at me and say to their neighbor "What on earth!?!" Some might do a double take and find themselves gawking in amazement....

Why? Because I have very purposely drawn attention to myself - LOOK AT MEEEE!!!!





When you make a spectacle of yourself you get the reactions that you get.

People with couth simply look away. It's in poor taste to visibly react to others' appearance, positive or negative.

You do realize that the entire reason that women wear thongs is so that people will look at their asses?

This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

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Jumping to end of thread here. I told my DD that she could wear what she wanted when out with her friends but not to extended family gatherings. That her grandfather does not want to look at her butt all day and neither did I.

She was ok with that.

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Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Please worry about other important things. Stop shaming women.

Who cares what someone else wears?

Women will be the downfall of women.....

Because women wearing this type of clothing encourages objectifying ALL women. Men prefer for women to wear less clothing so some women wearing less clothing makes the standard that ALL women should go to the pool or beach this way.

Young girls wearing this type of clothing sexualizes young girls and signals to men “look at me in a sexual way because I am showing off my ass and boobs.” This in turn encourages men to sexualize all young girls, which is wrong.

Nah. They objectify themselves and themselves only - which they are free to do that if that is what they want to do. I, personally, would not want that kind of attention nor would I want the judgment that comes along with it.

They are not objectifying themselves.

You are objectifying then and you are an apologist for a generation of kavenaugh men who are not expected to control themselves.

No one thinks men shouldn't be able to control themselves. But of course heterosexual men are going to be turned on by seeing an attractive female with a good body in a skimpy bikini that shows her entire ass. iAnd it's the entire reason that women choose to wear these types of suits. It's not something a parent should allow a 16 year old to wear.

People—of all genders and sexualities—get turned on all the time.

Why is it that we put responsibility for straight men’s inability/unwillingness to manage their sexual attraction on girls/women? Why are our standards for straight men so low? Why don’t we expect them to manage their urges the way we expect everyone else to?

Why is this the fault/responsibility of girls and women?

So you think that teenage boys should be wearing thongs to the beach, too, and that any woman/girl who looks at them are rapey perverts?

I think people should wear what they want and that other people should be able to control their responses. The only people who seem to have trouble controlling their responses—indeed, the only people anyone on this thread is worried about protecting girls from—are straight men.

So I wouldn’t worry about teen boys in thongs because I wouldn’t expect anyone to make them feel unsafe or as if they are pieces of meat. Society accepts that behavior only from straight men targeting women.

So you expect people to NOT NOTICE that you are falling out of your too small swimsuit? I think you are entirely unrealistic. When you make a spectacle of yourself people are going to notice. You are going to get reactions and you KNOW that you will get reactions. It's precisely why you chose to wear what you did. Just ask the "People of Walmart" - they know they're weird and they don't care if you think they're trashy. They are who they are - so there!

You are moving the goalposts. It’s fine to notice. It’s fine to register and even judge.

It’s not fine to comment, leer, touch. It’s not fine to tell other people they can’t show their bodies because you can’t control your reaction to their bodies.

But people will comment and they will react. If I paint myself purple from head to toe and go for a jog around the block people are going notice me, they will react and they'll probably say "WTF??". They may point at me and say to their neighbor "What on earth!?!" Some might do a double take and find themselves gawking in amazement....

Why? Because I have very purposely drawn attention to myself - LOOK AT MEEEE!!!!





When you make a spectacle of yourself you get the reactions that you get.

People with couth simply look away. It's in poor taste to visibly react to others' appearance, positive or negative.

You do realize that the entire reason that women wear thongs is so that people will look at their asses?

This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

No. What you don't seem to understand is most self confident women wear bathing suits and are not inviting people to look at their bodies. It's actually sad that you have been socialized to believe that.

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This is what people seem to be not understanding. The purpose of these suits is for people to look at their body.

That's like me saying that the purpose of buying a large SUV is to brag and be obnoxious.

For some people, it is. For other people, it isn't. And there's no way to know, just from looking at a person with a large SUV, why they bought a large SUV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is crazy.

I am old so I still remember when the first Crocodile Dundee movie came out in 1986 and the swimsuit in that was shocking! Ha! But when we watched the move a couple of years ago, I was telling my kids the story about how the swimsuit was shocking and it was actually NBD when we watched the movie.

So funny.

Who cares? I think it is just doesn't matter. And any 40 yr old "dads" talking about teenage girls in swimsuits are sleazy. What trashy men. Gross.

Are you seriously saying you think it's appropriate for a 16 year old girl to wear the thong that was in Crocodile Dundee!?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes... jeez!

Get your mind out of the gutter!

NP here but how is OP’s mind in the gutter? It’s a normal impulse to prevent your DD from walking out of the house half-dressed. When I was a teen in the 80s it was the norm for teens to try to sneak out of the house showing a bit more more skin and for parents to match them back in and ask them to change.
Thongs and low-cut shirts that show the same thing that a bra might reveal were NOT the norm. I just don’t understand this response of “get your mind out of the gutter” or “stop sexualizing your DD” because we are trying to protect our DDs from growing up too fast or attracting unwanted attention.

Nobody is talking about thongs.

OP here. Yes we are talking about thongs. I have said that over and over.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes... jeez!

Get your mind out of the gutter!

NP here but how is OP’s mind in the gutter? It’s a normal impulse to prevent your DD from walking out of the house half-dressed. When I was a teen in the 80s it was the norm for teens to try to sneak out of the house showing a bit more more skin and for parents to match them back in and ask them to change.
Thongs and low-cut shirts that show the same thing that a bra might reveal were NOT the norm. I just don’t understand this response of “get your mind out of the gutter” or “stop sexualizing your DD” because we are trying to protect our DDs from growing up too fast or attracting unwanted attention.

Nobody is talking about thongs.

OP here. Yes we are talking about thongs. I have said that over and over.

Your subject line literally says “almost thong”

I get it, you didn’t get the responses you wanted so you changed “what you meant”... but you clearly meant ALMOST thong.

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Anonymous wrote:Fortunately for me, my 17 yo DD is quite modest. She wants to hide all of her sexuality. I am ok with it.

If her opinion was different, I do not know what I could do. I mean, today, we could have world war III, but next year she will be on her own. If she wants to wear that at college, across the drill field in winter, I cannot stop her. Her ass might freeze and fall off, but....

So she does not wear a bikini?

Just because your daughter might choose to wear a thong in college doesn't seem like a good reason to let her wear one at 16. Your daughter might also choose to drink and smoke weed in college as well. Is that reason to let her start doing it at 16? Some activities just aren't age appropriate, and I would say choosing to flaunt your ass at 16 is one of them.

Every bathing suit has ass showing.

You let your college student drink and smoke pot?

Are posters just being intentionally dense here? Are you really going to claim that you don't know the difference between a bit of butt cheek hanging out of the bottom of a swim suit versus the ENTIRE ASS showing because the backside of the suit consists of nothing more than a piece of fabric going up the crack?

You know this thread is not about things it’s about Brazilian cut where the bottom cuts across the butt. It literally shows 1/2 inch more butt.

OP here. No these girls' swimsuits showed their ENTIRE butt cheeks. I thought I made that pretty clear in several of my posts.

You need to post a picture because the swimsuits that most girls are wearing and most moms are freaking out about are not thongs. They are not even allowed in most pools in Maryland.

So post a picture and let us see.

This is what I see a lot and moms are clutching their pearls.

Someone posted a picture of a suit similar to this up thread and I said no, this covers way more than what these girls were wearing. Its essentially a thong. Only difference is there is a bit more fabric above the butt crack instead of just a string and you can see a bit of fabric coming out of the butt crack. I called it an "almost thong" because I think of traditional thongs as nothing but string.