Why get married if you cannot do without sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I loved sex pre marriage and fully expected to keep loving it. But life happened and I lost my libido. I didn’t “trick” my husband by pretending to love sex and planning to do it less once married. I wish I had a stronger libido but I’m always tired. And I’ve lost some attraction to him as well. 30 years is a long time with the same person. Admit it.

So you don’t have much of a libido/drive, but how difficult is it to take what is really a small amount of time to provide your DH with pleasure, whether that is a HJ, BJ, PIV, or even mutual masturbation? Do you have a DESIRE to do everything you do as part of a relationship? I’m sure your DH is not horny to do many of the things he does for you, but he sacrifices because it’s important to you or just part of a marital relationship.

I do give him the sex he desires at least twice a week. I’m
Just saying I don’t have the libido or enjoy it like I once did. He can tell and I feel bad but I do my duty. Just sad to think of it that way. And if he cheated on me I wouldn’t blame him. He wants horny honeymoon just falling in love sex and I can’t fake it. I always orgasm and it’s fine. But I know he wants more racy sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What put you in a frenzy? I need to know!

I’d love to tell you but it would have to be in the explicit forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What put you in a frenzy? I need to know!

I’d love to tell you but it would have to be in the explicit forum.

I’m sure you can drop hints without being explicit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What put you in a frenzy? I need to know!

I’d love to tell you but it would have to be in the explicit forum.

I’m sure you can drop hints without being explicit.

Reverse cowgirl and some gentle butt play by both of us at the same time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let me ask the men this.
Do you treat your wife now the same or better than you did when she was your girlfriend?

My DH and I used to travel all of the time. He bought me jewelry, we went out to fancy restaurants.

Now 3 kids later, we still go out but maybe 1x per month. Not 4-5 times per week like before.
He doesn't spend hours looking at necklaces or researching resorts in Europe like he used to.
Our relationship is still great.
I don't bitch and moan about not going to Fuji this winter because things change over time. That money is used for school, lessons, college etc. And I am fine with that becuase we are not just a "WE" we are a family now.
Sometimes that means less travel, less eating out, less sex.

I wish more men would be like my DH and not feel entitled to their wife's body whenever and wherever. Because i would bet good money YOU are not the same man she married and was wooed by.

If my wife came to me and said that she really needs us to go out 4-5 times per week, that this is VERY important to her, that she feels unloved going out only 1x per month, you sure as heck better believe we would find a way to prioritize going out 4-5 times per week. I wish more woman would stop using words like "entitled to my body" in reference to the man who pledged monogamy to her.

Sure you would. For a week. Then you would find it a waste of your time if you didn't enjoy going out and stop doing it.

[Anonymous]

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me ask the men this.
Do you treat your wife now the same or better than you did when she was your girlfriend?

My DH and I used to travel all of the time. He bought me jewelry, we went out to fancy restaurants.

Now 3 kids later, we still go out but maybe 1x per month. Not 4-5 times per week like before.
He doesn't spend hours looking at necklaces or researching resorts in Europe like he used to.
Our relationship is still great.
I don't bitch and moan about not going to Fuji this winter because things change over time. That money is used for school, lessons, college etc. And I am fine with that becuase we are not just a "WE" we are a family now.
Sometimes that means less travel, less eating out, less sex.

I wish more men would be like my DH and not feel entitled to their wife's body whenever and wherever. Because i would bet good money YOU are not the same man she married and was wooed by.

If my wife came to me and said that she really needs us to go out 4-5 times per week, that this is VERY important to her, that she feels unloved going out only 1x per month, you sure as heck better believe we would find a way to prioritize going out 4-5 times per week. I wish more woman would stop using words like "entitled to my body" in reference to the man who pledged monogamy to her.

I don’t know any married men who would prioritize going out 4-5 times per week. They just complain that it’s too much money, they’re too tired from work, they just want to sit and watch tv, and they’d put zero effort into finding things to do.

I get it, but when you stop acting like a fun boyfriend, you can’t really expect your wife to continue acting like the fun girlfriend.