Why get married if you cannot do without sex?

[Anonymous]

I have been married 20 years and we have sex five/six times a week. We even kept that up with a baby and a three year old. You just can't wait for the perfect time. Life doesn't work that way.

I can't imagine being in a sexless marriage. No thank you. if you aren't into having sex with the person you are married to, then you aren't with the right person. It isn't even the sex, it's the lack of intimacy that kills the marriage. Sex keeps you connected. I think when you stop having sex you also lose the little but important things. Like, hugs, a rub on the head when cuddling on the couch, a soft kiss when I am making dinner, etc. As my husband said, men also need their wives to tell them they look good, they want them, etc.

Example:
I have a friend who won't have sex unless her husband does all this ridiculous stuff throughout the day to "get her in the mood". It's like a chore to have sex with her....I try to tell her she is killing her marriage, but she won't listen to me. The one thing that did get her to realize she was being ridicuolous is when I asked her what she did to get her husband in the mood? She was like...they are always in the mood. I had her rethink that. I simply turned it around on her....if you husband started telling you all the things you didn't do the way you wanted them done, etc....would you want to have sex with him? Probably not?

[Anonymous]

As a single woman, I feel like a huge draw of being married would be the constant possibility of sex. Like you'd roll over in bed and hey! there's a penis there! that seems pretty cool to me. As a single person, you have to lower your standards if you want to have sex potentially available whenever you want it.

That said, my married friends tell me I'm overestimating how often they actually have sex. When I said, "having more sex would be a motivation for me to get married", several of them actually laughed at me.

[Anonymous]

Have you seen the ugly men here who somehow got a woman to say “yes” to their marriage proposal? These guys were not living the life of sleeping around pre-marriage. Chances are, their wife was the third woman they slept with, at most. These men needed marriage, desperately. Only if you are an attractive, wealthy man, does the fun single life work. And even then, it becomes sad at some point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a single woman, I feel like a huge draw of being married would be the constant possibility of sex. Like you'd roll over in bed and hey! there's a penis there! that seems pretty cool to me. As a single person, you have to lower your standards if you want to have sex potentially available whenever you want it.

That said, my married friends tell me I'm overestimating how often they actually have sex. When I said, "having more sex would be a motivation for me to get married", several of them actually laughed at me.

Maybe their husbands d**** are tiny.

[Anonymous]

Wise heads don’t sit in young shoulders.

Nobody thinks it will happen to them. Until they live it.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am glad u think so. Evidently you do not have kids. You should not get married and yes, sex dries up and diminishes at various times in the marriage and some time forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a single woman, I feel like a huge draw of being married would be the constant possibility of sex. Like you'd roll over in bed and hey! there's a penis there! that seems pretty cool to me. As a single person, you have to lower your standards if you want to have sex potentially available whenever you want it.

That said, my married friends tell me I'm overestimating how often they actually have sex. When I said, "having more sex would be a motivation for me to get married", several of them actually laughed at me.

Well, I would laugh at you too. And tell you come back to us in 10 years when you have kids and its the same man and see if you feel like having sex again.

But then again, some women apparently write in here saying they still love having sex with their DHs multiple times a week, so what do I know (unless they are men posing as women which seems likely).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

This is a well known trope though.

See: any Woody Allen movie ever made. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

Then they are naive, no wonder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a single woman, I feel like a huge draw of being married would be the constant possibility of sex. Like you'd roll over in bed and hey! there's a penis there! that seems pretty cool to me. As a single person, you have to lower your standards if you want to have sex potentially available whenever you want it.

That said, my married friends tell me I'm overestimating how often they actually have sex. When I said, "having more sex would be a motivation for me to get married", several of them actually laughed at me.

You don’t even know how low standards go having sexual with a husband.

Old, fat, unshaven, thinking hair, wrinkled, Not showed, wont brush teeth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From the friends I know who have sexless marriages, they did not have a good sex life to begin with, even at the very beginning of their relationship. Has anyone else found this?

NO, not at all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

Oh please. If they did any research on marriage/divorce they would. Only frauds and idiots can pretend that they did not realize that there was a huge chance(a chance that deserved a prenup) that the sex will decrease.

Who does research on marriage and divorce until they are in a marriage and ready to divorce???

Most people do! What kind of a fool goes in blindly. Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

This is a well known trope though.

See: any Woody Allen movie ever made. Lol

Gross wtf.. do people really watch the pedophile’s movies?

How many of his movies is old guy with girl his daughter’s age... again gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean with all the stories out here about sexless marriages, why make a huge commitment such as marriage knowing that when sex is done you are done? Wouldn't it be more reasonable to stay single?

It would seem that most who left because sex was not frequent are frauds.

One would argue that anyone who left based on cheating is a fraud as well, but this is not necessarily true. There is usually a lot of lying and sneaking around involved with cheating that it corrodes trust.

If you cannot live without sex, don't get married. Or make that clear to your spouse( sign a prenup stating the frequency or something).

Huh? Not all marriages are sexless.

My husband and I have compatible libidos and as such have a great sex life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people don't get married realizing the sex will decrease significantly. Seriously?

This is a well known trope though.

See: any Woody Allen movie ever made. Lol

I'm absolutely not going to take relationship advice from Woody Allen!