Having DH get a vasectomy before we seperate

[Anonymous]

This thread reads more like a soap opera than real life. I hope it's all fake. I've never had a single thought like those mentioned here. Three kids, married 23 years and counting...

[Anonymous]

Pregnant before his divorce is final, PP? Rhymes with brash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread reads more like a soap opera than real life. I hope it's all fake. I've never had a single thought like those mentioned here. Three kids, married 23 years and counting...

Maybe because your marriage isn’t troubled and your DH isn’t the type of man who would screw his kids over for new p*ssy. Maybe you should be grateful for that rather than judging people whose shoes you have taken a step in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it.

I think is ALWAYS a disservice to your first kids to have more with a second/third spouse.

It’s not about money.

And it’s a disservice to your first child to ever have a second? Same principle at work: division of time and money.

No because presumably you and your DH would both make money and time available to the second and wouldn’t have a third party telling your DH that the first child doesn’t need a new winter coat but the second should do travel soccer.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you are batshit crazy!

My boyfriend has been separated for two years and will be divorced soon.

His ex wife is a controlling bitch who alienates him from his daughter and tries to limit his custody so she can maximize her CS.

Well she's got another thing coming because now I'm pregnant and we will have our own family. He doesn't have to cry every night from missing his child bc I will give him another one.

Oh and the ex wife kept saying that he better not have another kid. Bye bitch. [/quote]

Hello, my worst nightmare!
-OP[/quote]

No matter what you think, your child will not replace his first child. And any man who will distance himself from his children from his first marriage isn’t much of a father or the type of man you should want.
[/quote]
Please work on your reading skills. He WANTS a relationship with his child but his ex has worked through the court system to alienate him from his child to the point that he only sees the child a few days a month so that she can be primary parent to maximize her child support. He has been battling for 50/50 custody for the past two years. You greedy bitches who just want the man's money at any expense whether it's through duping him to get a vasectomy under false pretenses to ripping an highly involved father away from his child to benefit yourself financially are a piece work.

Oh and for what it's worth I agree with the poster who thinks that the OP might have some kind of personality disorder because my boyfriends ex is a certified narcissist.[/quote]

Of course, she is! Unfortunately, your BF has a type. That’s what he’ll tell the new girl when he describes you and your child conceived while he was married to someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it.

I think is ALWAYS a disservice to your first kids to have more with a second/third spouse.

It’s not about money.

And it’s a disservice to your first child to ever have a second? Same principle at work: division of time and money.

No because presumably you and your DH would both make money and time available to the second and wouldn’t have a third party telling your DH that the first child doesn’t need a new winter coat but the second should do travel soccer.

If you expect not to have a third party in your decision-making, don’t divorce. You divorce someone, his life goes on, and he is no longer scrimping and saving per your plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it.

I think is ALWAYS a disservice to your first kids to have more with a second/third spouse.

It’s not about money.

And it’s a disservice to your first child to ever have a second? Same principle at work: division of time and money.

No because presumably you and your DH would both make money and time available to the second and wouldn’t have a third party telling your DH that the first child doesn’t need a new winter coat but the second should do travel soccer.

If you expect not to have a third party in your decision-making, don’t divorce. You divorce someone, his life goes on, and he is no longer scrimping and saving per your plan.

Kids have no say in the divorce. The third party should have no say in the expenditures on the children of the previous marriage.

[Anonymous]

Gotta be honest, feeling a lot better about myself after this thread. The easy response is to call me mentally ill, but the hard truth is to accept relationships are complicated and others can relate to my train of thought. -OP

[Anonymous]

OP will you have your tubes tied as well so you can’t make anymore children who might take resources away from your current two?

[Anonymous]

what a weird post

[Anonymous]

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. But, sister go for it, he lied, he probably cheated, and you should do whatever you can to make sure your kids get every penny from him, and not some other kids. He has made your life a misery, make his. I know it is vindictive, so what? What honor he had in treating you like dirt?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yup, OP, you’re petty.

That's a kind description. Evil and manipulative are more accurate. Karma is a bitch and so are you.

Hello replacement wife. Karma is a bitch, except you are so, so wrong. He is getting his karma right now from OP. And he will get some more when he marries someone like you. He thinks his life is bad now? You are the comeuppance to men like him.

[Anonymous]

I would talk him into it by saying it would save your marriage. Still his decision, you aren’t holding a gun to hs head. Then get divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get it.

I think is ALWAYS a disservice to your first kids to have more with a second/third spouse.

It’s not about money.

And it’s a disservice to your first child to ever have a second? Same principle at work: division of time and money.

You don’t get it, and that’s okay. You’ve obviously never been in a blended family where you were the “first kids”, or had to deal with step parents. Even if you think you’ve blended your families perfectly, and the step kids are treated the same as your kids, you are fooling yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread reads more like a soap opera than real life. I hope it's all fake. I've never had a single thought like those mentioned here. Three kids, married 23 years and counting...

So your DH doesn't lie to you? Doesn't want to leave you? Why would you have thoughts like this? Is it that hard to imagine that some men are scum and what goes around comes around?