Having DH get a vasectomy before we seperate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This can’t be real.

Of course it’s real. Don’t you see how many anal controls freaks are on DCUM? They think they have the right to control every aspect of everyone in their family. It’s insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have two kids together. He’s 38. Basically, the marriage isn’t working. He’s lied for the past five years, I don’t think I’ll move past it, but what keeps me from wanting to leave is the thought of him starting a new family at 40 with some late 20-something because now he has money.
It’s petty, but so were a his really stupid lies.

If he's the sort of person who would support his children only to the state required amount, having more children isn't going to make any difference. He'll still only support his children to the state required amount, and his new wife will get any money/property he leaves when he dies.

If you want to make sure your children are taken care of, do it through the divorce settlement. A vasectomy won't protect an inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Are you in favor of forced sterilization of low-income women who have already had children? You seem quite against individual reproductive rights, so I'd guess yes.

Nothing to stop him from spending money after the divorce, whether it's on kids or something else. Maybe he'll take up an expensive hobby like yachting.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s smart and I would talk him into it by saying it was the only way to save the marriage

[Anonymous]

DH had a vasectomy after his second child. She was 10 when I got pregnant using donor sperm.

[Anonymous]

No. Focus on you and what you can do for your kids and move on. Trying to manipulate him is dirty and low. And you say your motivation is so your kids would have more money, but I'm not buying that is the only motivation. it
Sounds like you are jealous of him being able to find a younger hotter mate while you probably won't fare as well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I guess if you get pregnant, he can “make” you have an abortion. Or if you threaten, make you get your tubes tied.

Nobody is talking about "making" or "threatening". OP is not going to hold him down and cut his balls off. Although after what he's done (cheating) I'm sure she'd like to.

She is talking about manipulating him which is not very nice (neither is cheating) but is in NO way comparable to forcing someone to have an abortion.

[Anonymous]

I’m floored by how many people actually condone this absurd idea. It's sickening. You need to learn how to deal with your problems like an adult OP. I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that this is a troll post.

I suspect OP would be raked over the coals if the genders were reversed.

[Anonymous]

OP has to think about her children. If you think it's in their best interest to encourage him to get a vasectomy, do it.

[Anonymous]

That’s what i hate about marriages and relationships. People think of the craziest things when it’s all over instead of just leaving. Leave him and leave him alone. Men and women are a-holes and so are you now. I have no idea why you think you weren’t going to get one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH had a vasectomy after his second child. She was 10 when I got pregnant using donor sperm.

And?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m floored by how many people actually condone this absurd idea. It's sickening. You need to learn how to deal with your problems like an adult OP. I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that this is a troll post.

I suspect OP would be raked over the coals if the genders were reversed.

That comparison doesn't work because women have a natural end to their fertility. Men don't really have to worry that their 38 year old ex-wife will meet someone in time to have more children. And in doing so, reducing the amount of child support or resources that his children will have. It's possible but statistically unlikely.

Obviously, it's the dh's body, his choice. But I completely understand OP's concerns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH had a vasectomy after his second child. She was 10 when I got pregnant using donor sperm.

And?

OP’s master plan isn’t going to stop him from starting a new family.

[Anonymous]

This is absurdly controlling and crazy. Part of divorcing is knowing the other person might move on and start a new, different family. If a man was on here plotting how to sabotage his wife's fertility before surprising her with a divorce the responses would melt the servers (as they should).

[Anonymous]

you are batshit crazy!

My boyfriend has been separated for two years and will be divorced soon.

His ex wife is a controlling bitch who alienates him from his daughter and tries to limit his custody so she can maximize her CS.

Well she's got another thing coming because now I'm pregnant and we will have our own family. He doesn't have to cry every night from missing his child bc I will give him another one.

Oh and the ex wife kept saying that he better not have another kid. Bye bitch.