Having DH get a vasectomy before we seperate
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Anonymous
Hello, my worst nightmare! -OP |
Anonymous
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I get it.
I think is ALWAYS a disservice to your first kids to have more with a second/third spouse. It’s not about money. |
Anonymous
Then what about? And why a disservice? |
Anonymous
| Childish thoughts. |
Anonymous
That's an poor threat. Men live to work, and most know they will be worked to death especially if they wind up with a divorce. |
Anonymous
No matter what you think, your child will not replace his first child. And any man who will distance himself from his children from his first marriage isn’t much of a father or the type of man you should want. |
Anonymous
| My DH has one. His idea once we were done. At the time I was very happy because I was like “yay don’t have to worry about second family if we divorce!” Still Happily married 10 years later. I thought most people thought this way... |
Anonymous
Yes we think it. But we keep it to ourselves and don't try to force or manipulate anyone into getting surgery and becoming effectively sterile. No one would be ok with a man forcing a woman to get her tubes tied ever. All people need body autonomy. And consent matters. |
Anonymous
And this thread also shows how many females view men and quite frankly it's terrifying. Pay attention men: You are a walking wallet. Any woman you marry will make sure you pay her way for the rest of your working life. Of course cough cough it's for the children. As a man you cannot have any say over her fertility or her body however she will feel like she can have a say over yours. Forget honesty, you will be manipulated and lied to for her to achieve the result best suited for HER. |
Anonymous
You actually don’t know how child support works, do you? It stops at 18 in the vast majority of cases. 21 in a few states and DC. Unless your kids with that ex-wife are a decade or more apart in age, CS is going to be a short obligation on your part and a brief benefit for her and the kids. It is also typically a low sum unless you are a multi-millionaire (and we know YOU and most of your audience aren’t) so hardly enough to fully support the exwife and kids. And unless you stopped having at kids at age 50, paying even 18 years of child support won’t be for the rest of your working life. Let’s be honest that you were never going to be able to retire early anyway. |
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you are batshit crazy!
My boyfriend has been separated for two years and will be divorced soon. His ex wife is a controlling bitch who alienates him from his daughter and tries to limit his custody so she can maximize her CS. Well she's got another thing coming because now I'm pregnant and we will have our own family. He doesn't have to cry every night from missing his child bc I will give him another one. Oh and the ex wife kept saying that he better not have another kid. Bye bitch. [/quote] Hello, my worst nightmare! -OP[/quote] No matter what you think, your child will not replace his first child. And any man who will distance himself from his children from his first marriage isn’t much of a father or the type of man you should want. [/quote] Please work on your reading skills. He WANTS a relationship with his child but his ex has worked through the court system to alienate him from his child to the point that he only sees the child a few days a month so that she can be primary parent to maximize her child support. He has been battling for 50/50 custody for the past two years. You greedy bitches who just want the man's money at any expense whether it's through duping him to get a vasectomy under false pretenses to ripping an highly involved father away from his child to benefit yourself financially are a piece work. Oh and for what it's worth I agree with the poster who thinks that the OP might have some kind of personality disorder because my boyfriends ex is a certified narcissist. |
Anonymous
We sure as hell don’t marry for no sex. |
Anonymous
Man here I also got one after kid 2. Oddly enough my wife mentioned the scenario of what if we divorce and I want more kids. Never crossed my mind. Was on top of hers. We morphed into one of those hall pass couples and it's very freeing. |
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]you are batshit crazy!
My boyfriend has been separated for two years and will be divorced soon. His ex wife is a controlling bitch who alienates him from his daughter and tries to limit his custody so she can maximize her CS. Well she's got another thing coming because now I'm pregnant and we will have our own family. He doesn't have to cry every night from missing his child bc I will give him another one. Oh and the ex wife kept saying that he better not have another kid. Bye bitch. [/quote] Hello, my worst nightmare! -OP[/quote] No matter what you think, your child will not replace his first child. And any man who will distance himself from his children from his first marriage isn’t much of a father or the type of man you should want. [/quote] Please work on your reading skills. He WANTS a relationship with his child but his ex has worked through the court system to alienate him from his child to the point that he only sees the child a few days a month so that she can be primary parent to maximize her child support. He has been battling for 50/50 custody for the past two years. You greedy bitches who just want the man's money at any expense whether it's through duping him to get a vasectomy under false pretenses to ripping an highly involved father away from his child to benefit yourself financially are a piece work. Oh and for what it's worth I agree with the poster who thinks that the OP might have some kind of personality disorder because my boyfriends ex is a certified narcissist.[/quote] He certainly has a type. |
Anonymous
And it’s a disservice to your first child to ever have a second? Same principle at work: division of time and money. |