DH cheated but won't unfriend/block the OW on social media

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but if you stay in this marriage then you are never going to feel any life joy ever again.

Your husband just cannot give up this other woman.
His feelings for her are still very strong.
That much is obvious.

I could not stay married to someone who still carried a torch for a previous love - it would just hurt too much.

Initiate a divorce now so you can take back all of your pride & self-respect once more.

I wish you only the very best.

When I found out, I told him I was leaving and I guess that made him realize how much he loved me so he dropped to his knees and told me he'd never speak to her again. Obviously he couldn't keep that promise since he felt the need to wish her happy birthday two consecutive years but other than that, he's anyone l acting like she doesn't exist, which is why I say why not just block her? What's stopping him?

Were you dropped on your head as a child? What's stopping him is that he doesn't really love you, he loves her and, perhaps more importantly, he loves the way that thinking about her makes him feel. He's not ready to blow up his life, but I suspect he would drop you like a hot potato if she were available and willing. You aren't winning anything except a marriage to a guy who has cheated on you twice and can't keep his promises. He's probably figured out that he doesn't have to, because you aren't ready to give up your lifestyle and you're invested in the appearance of a great marriage.
Either way, if you are dumb enough to believe him when he says that he loves you and won't speak to her again, you guys deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t want to give up her lifestyle. Bottom line.

I’d message the OW and ask her to block your DH.

No.. this is pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but if you stay in this marriage then you are never going to feel any life joy ever again.

Your husband just cannot give up this other woman.
His feelings for her are still very strong.
That much is obvious.

I could not stay married to someone who still carried a torch for a previous love - it would just hurt too much.

Initiate a divorce now so you can take back all of your pride & self-respect once more.

I wish you only the very best.

When I found out, I told him I was leaving and I guess that made him realize how much he loved me so he dropped to his knees and told me he'd never speak to her again. Obviously he couldn't keep that promise since he felt the need to wish her happy birthday two consecutive years but other than that, he's anyone l acting like she doesn't exist, which is why I say why not just block her? What's stopping him?

Were you dropped on your head as a child? What's stopping him is that he doesn't really love you, he loves her and, perhaps more importantly, he loves the way that thinking about her makes him feel. He's not ready to blow up his life, but I suspect he would drop you like a hot potato if she were available and willing. You aren't winning anything except a marriage to a guy who has cheated on you twice and can't keep his promises. He's probably figured out that he doesn't have to, because you aren't ready to give up your lifestyle and you're invested in the appearance of a great marriage.
Either way, if you are dumb enough to believe him when he says that he loves you and won't speak to her again, you guys deserve each other.

Definitely written by the OP's DH or her DH's OW!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but if you stay in this marriage then you are never going to feel any life joy ever again.

Your husband just cannot give up this other woman.
His feelings for her are still very strong.
That much is obvious.

I could not stay married to someone who still carried a torch for a previous love - it would just hurt too much.

Initiate a divorce now so you can take back all of your pride & self-respect once more.

I wish you only the very best.

When I found out, I told him I was leaving and I guess that made him realize how much he loved me so he dropped to his knees and told me he'd never speak to her again. Obviously he couldn't keep that promise since he felt the need to wish her happy birthday two consecutive years but other than that, he's anyone l acting like she doesn't exist, which is why I say why not just block her? What's stopping him?

Were you dropped on your head as a child? What's stopping him is that he doesn't really love you, he loves her and, perhaps more importantly, he loves the way that thinking about her makes him feel. He's not ready to blow up his life, but I suspect he would drop you like a hot potato if she were available and willing. You aren't winning anything except a marriage to a guy who has cheated on you twice and can't keep his promises. He's probably figured out that he doesn't have to, because you aren't ready to give up your lifestyle and you're invested in the appearance of a great marriage.
Either way, if you are dumb enough to believe him when he says that he loves you and won't speak to her again, you guys deserve each other.

Definitely written by the OP's DH or her DH's OW!

Uh, no. I'm neither. Just a bystander who thinks that OP is pathetic. If you want to stay in a marriage where your husband has cheated on you twice, broken his promise not to contact the OW (also twice), and won't even unfriend her on FB, and where you know your husband is in love with another woman, fine, you're an adult, and there might be good reasons. But don't kid yourself about your situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but if you stay in this marriage then you are never going to feel any life joy ever again.

Your husband just cannot give up this other woman.
His feelings for her are still very strong.
That much is obvious.

I could not stay married to someone who still carried a torch for a previous love - it would just hurt too much.

Initiate a divorce now so you can take back all of your pride & self-respect once more.

I wish you only the very best.

When I found out, I told him I was leaving and I guess that made him realize how much he loved me so he dropped to his knees and told me he'd never speak to her again. Obviously he couldn't keep that promise since he felt the need to wish her happy birthday two consecutive years but other than that, he's anyone l acting like she doesn't exist, which is why I say why not just block her? What's stopping him?

Were you dropped on your head as a child? What's stopping him is that he doesn't really love you, he loves her and, perhaps more importantly, he loves the way that thinking about her makes him feel. He's not ready to blow up his life, but I suspect he would drop you like a hot potato if she were available and willing. You aren't winning anything except a marriage to a guy who has cheated on you twice and can't keep his promises. He's probably figured out that he doesn't have to, because you aren't ready to give up your lifestyle and you're invested in the appearance of a great marriage.
Either way, if you are dumb enough to believe him when he says that he loves you and won't speak to her again, you guys deserve each other.

Definitely written by the OP's DH or her DH's OW!

No, it's the truth. Unfortunately, some women choose to stay in marriages with serial cheaters for difference reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but if you stay in this marriage then you are never going to feel any life joy ever again.

Your husband just cannot give up this other woman.
His feelings for her are still very strong.
That much is obvious.

I could not stay married to someone who still carried a torch for a previous love - it would just hurt too much.

Initiate a divorce now so you can take back all of your pride & self-respect once more.

I wish you only the very best.

When I found out, I told him I was leaving and I guess that made him realize how much he loved me so he dropped to his knees and told me he'd never speak to her again. Obviously he couldn't keep that promise since he felt the need to wish her happy birthday two consecutive years but other than that, he's anyone l acting like she doesn't exist, which is why I say why not just block her? What's stopping him?

Were you dropped on your head as a child? What's stopping him is that he doesn't really love you, he loves her and, perhaps more importantly, he loves the way that thinking about her makes him feel. He's not ready to blow up his life, but I suspect he would drop you like a hot potato if she were available and willing. You aren't winning anything except a marriage to a guy who has cheated on you twice and can't keep his promises. He's probably figured out that he doesn't have to, because you aren't ready to give up your lifestyle and you're invested in the appearance of a great marriage.
Either way, if you are dumb enough to believe him when he says that he loves you and won't speak to her again, you guys deserve each other.

Definitely written by the OP's DH or her DH's OW!

Uh, no. I'm neither. Just a bystander who thinks that OP is pathetic. If you want to stay in a marriage where your husband has cheated on you twice, broken his promise not to contact the OW (also twice), and won't even unfriend her on FB, and where you know your husband is in love with another woman, fine, you're an adult, and there might be good reasons. But don't kid yourself about your situation.

You are tough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but if you stay in this marriage then you are never going to feel any life joy ever again.

Your husband just cannot give up this other woman.
His feelings for her are still very strong.
That much is obvious.

I could not stay married to someone who still carried a torch for a previous love - it would just hurt too much.

Initiate a divorce now so you can take back all of your pride & self-respect once more.

I wish you only the very best.

When I found out, I told him I was leaving and I guess that made him realize how much he loved me so he dropped to his knees and told me he'd never speak to her again. Obviously he couldn't keep that promise since he felt the need to wish her happy birthday two consecutive years but other than that, he's anyone l acting like she doesn't exist, which is why I say why not just block her? What's stopping him?

Were you dropped on your head as a child? What's stopping him is that he doesn't really love you, he loves her and, perhaps more importantly, he loves the way that thinking about her makes him feel. He's not ready to blow up his life, but I suspect he would drop you like a hot potato if she were available and willing. You aren't winning anything except a marriage to a guy who has cheated on you twice and can't keep his promises. He's probably figured out that he doesn't have to, because you aren't ready to give up your lifestyle and you're invested in the appearance of a great marriage.
Either way, if you are dumb enough to believe him when he says that he loves you and won't speak to her again, you guys deserve each other.

Definitely written by the OP's DH or her DH's OW!

Uh, no. I'm neither. Just a bystander who thinks that OP is pathetic. If you want to stay in a marriage where your husband has cheated on you twice, broken his promise not to contact the OW (also twice), and won't even unfriend her on FB, and where you know your husband is in love with another woman, fine, you're an adult, and there might be good reasons. But don't kid yourself about your situation.

You are tough.

No. They are realistic and being honest. OP needs to stand her ground or get rid of this guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, but if you stay in this marriage then you are never going to feel any life joy ever again.

Your husband just cannot give up this other woman.
His feelings for her are still very strong.
That much is obvious.

I could not stay married to someone who still carried a torch for a previous love - it would just hurt too much.

Initiate a divorce now so you can take back all of your pride & self-respect once more.

I wish you only the very best.

When I found out, I told him I was leaving and I guess that made him realize how much he loved me so he dropped to his knees and told me he'd never speak to her again. Obviously he couldn't keep that promise since he felt the need to wish her happy birthday two consecutive years but other than that, he's anyone l acting like she doesn't exist, which is why I say why not just block her? What's stopping him?

Were you dropped on your head as a child? What's stopping him is that he doesn't really love you, he loves her and, perhaps more importantly, he loves the way that thinking about her makes him feel. He's not ready to blow up his life, but I suspect he would drop you like a hot potato if she were available and willing. You aren't winning anything except a marriage to a guy who has cheated on you twice and can't keep his promises. He's probably figured out that he doesn't have to, because you aren't ready to give up your lifestyle and you're invested in the appearance of a great marriage.
Either way, if you are dumb enough to believe him when he says that he loves you and won't speak to her again, you guys deserve each other.

Definitely written by the OP's DH or her DH's OW!

Uh, no. I'm neither. Just a bystander who thinks that OP is pathetic. If you want to stay in a marriage where your husband has cheated on you twice, broken his promise not to contact the OW (also twice), and won't even unfriend her on FB, and where you know your husband is in love with another woman, fine, you're an adult, and there might be good reasons. But don't kid yourself about your situation.

You are tough.

No. They are realistic and being honest. OP needs to stand her ground or get rid of this guy.

NP. +1, she’s compromising more than she realizes by staying

[Anonymous]

OP here with an update:

I found out that he’s back to liking her pics and posts on social media again. I thought things were going well for us and that the affair was behind us. Isn’t he violating the no contract rule? Should I confront him now or just play it cool and see what else I can find?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update:

I found out that he’s back to liking her pics and posts on social media again. I thought things were going well for us and that the affair was behind us. Isn’t he violating the no contract rule? Should I confront him now or just play it cool and see what else I can find?

Divorce. It's time to leave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update:

I found out that he’s back to liking her pics and posts on social media again. I thought things were going well for us and that the affair was behind us. Isn’t he violating the no contract rule? Should I confront him now or just play it cool and see what else I can find?

Divorce. It's time to leave

+1: He is continuing to disrespect you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update:

I found out that he’s back to liking her pics and posts on social media again. I thought things were going well for us and that the affair was behind us. Isn’t he violating the no contract rule? Should I confront him now or just play it cool and see what else I can find?

Divorce. It's time to leave

I agree. So you really want to spend the rest of your life wondering if he’s in contact with her? You have proof he is so it’s time to be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here with an update:

I found out that he’s back to liking her pics and posts on social media again. I thought things were going well for us and that the affair was behind us. Isn’t he violating the no contract rule? Should I confront him now or just play it cool and see what else I can find?

Divorce. It's time to leave

I agree. So you really want to spend the rest of your life wondering if he’s in contact with her? You have proof he is so it’s time to be done.

Does “liking” a post or picture count as contact? What if he’s just liking her posts but not actually speaking to her?

[Anonymous]

Um. OP...it’s been 10+’years, you’ve asked him to cut contact and he refuses and gaslights you about being unreasonable.

It’s pointless for us to tell you again, almost a year later to leave him because you won’t. But you should.

[Anonymous]

Why are you still there?!

He knows he doesn't really need to stop.. you're still there.