Parent Intensity at Sidwell vs. STA

[Anonymous]

These types of behaviors are not the norm in top privates, but they definitely exist. For example, it is well known in certain circles that there is a crazy STA/NCS mom who has been known to try to prevent other children, whose parents she doesn't like, from being accepted into her children's schools. Pretty incredible someone would harm a child (and their future) because you may not care for their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These types of behaviors are not the norm in top privates, but they definitely exist. For example, it is well known in certain circles that there is a crazy STA/NCS mom who has been known to try to prevent other children, whose parents she doesn't like, from being accepted into her children's schools. Pretty incredible someone would harm a child (and their future) because you may not care for their parents.

Nonsense. There’s no input from parents. I know board members who had major issues with people applying and those kids still got accepted so if board members have no say parents have no say either in who gets accepted. Sounds like people are fishing for reasons as to why they did not get accepted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These types of behaviors are not the norm in top privates, but they definitely exist. For example, it is well known in certain circles that there is a crazy STA/NCS mom who has been known to try to prevent other children, whose parents she doesn't like, from being accepted into her children's schools. Pretty incredible someone would harm a child (and their future) because you may not care for their parents.

Nonsense. There’s no input from parents. I know board members who had major issues with people applying and those kids still got accepted so if board members have no say parents have no say either in who gets accepted. Sounds like people are fishing for reasons as to why they did not get accepted.

Agree parents have no say. Maybe if she’s on the board or her husbands on the board or they are big big donors they may have some input but even then it’s doubtful. Regular parents not on board or non-donors definitely have zero influence. Strong candidates will get in on their own regardless if they’re strong.

[Anonymous]

No one said she was successful, just that she tried to influence people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one said she was successful, just that she tried to influence people.

You are not making sense. I highly doubt anyone in the admissions offices at either of those schools would breach confidentiality. That would be a serious infraction and they could lose their job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Know plenty of people at STA who complain about the work load and intensity level. They hire tutors, help their sons with homework, and struggle with social dynamics.

What does this mean?

[Anonymous]

What are you talking about? Who said anything about the admissions office breaching confidentiality? Women talks to powerful people at school about not wanting someone to be admitted. It may not work, but she still tries - that's the offensive action.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, woman not women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? Who said anything about the admissions office breaching confidentiality? Women talks to powerful people at school about not wanting someone to be admitted. It may not work, but she still tries - that's the offensive action.

A lot of people do offensive things and maybe she knows something about the family and feels she is validated in letting the school know. Honestly there’s a father at another school that has a history of threatening people and no one ever said it to the school he was applying to and his child got into the school and he has had issues already with threatening another mother very publicly. So, sometimes if you know something about someone it can be a good thing to tell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS fortunate enough to have been admitted to both. We know that both are very rigorous academically, but we are trying to get a sense of how much of the academic intensity comes from the boys/students, the school, and the parents. At the STA open house, it seemed like the school really wanted parents to let the boys develop independence and discipline without much parental involvement. We have heard more mixed things about the parent community and their intensity and involvement regarding student performance at Sidwell. It’s a tough question to ask directly, so taking a little bit of a chance indirectly here.

There is pressure at all of the top schools but more importantly more individualized and what other parents do won’t affect your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Know plenty of people at STA who complain about the work load and intensity level. They hire tutors, help their sons with homework, and struggle with social dynamics.

What does this mean?

Plenty of people will complain. Let them know less rigorous options are available, and they can leave at any time. I doubt “plenty” struggle with social dynamics. In every environment, there are people who don’t fit in but STA is one of the most inclusive high schools in the area.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? Who said anything about the admissions office breaching confidentiality? Women talks to powerful people at school about not wanting someone to be admitted. It may not work, but she still tries - that's the offensive action.

A lot of people do offensive things and maybe she knows something about the family and feels she is validated in letting the school know. Honestly there’s a father at another school that has a history of threatening people and no one ever said it to the school he was applying to and his child got into the school and he has had issues already with threatening another mother very publicly. So, sometimes if you know something about someone it can be a good thing to tell.

Actually, you have it all wrong. Woman trying to prevent child from getting into school is the offensive one. She is unstable and many people have pulled away after experiencing her crazy behavior, although it takes time to figure it out so not everyone knows. Trying to prevent a lovely child from being admitted because you harbor irrational disdain towards the parents is just wrong, period.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? Who said anything about the admissions office breaching confidentiality? Women talks to powerful people at school about not wanting someone to be admitted. It may not work, but she still tries - that's the offensive action.

A lot of people do offensive things and maybe she knows something about the family and feels she is validated in letting the school know. Honestly there’s a father at another school that has a history of threatening people and no one ever said it to the school he was applying to and his child got into the school and he has had issues already with threatening another mother very publicly. So, sometimes if you know something about someone it can be a good thing to tell.

Actually, you have it all wrong. Woman trying to prevent child from getting into school is the offensive one. She is unstable and many people have pulled away after experiencing her crazy behavior, although it takes time to figure it out so not everyone knows. Trying to prevent a lovely child from being admitted because you harbor irrational disdain towards the parents is just wrong, period.

You clearly don’t know how admissions to these schools work. Sounds like you are blaming people for your kid not getting accepted somewhere. No one has that kind of power except heads of schools. Admissions offices have committees that vote on candidates so no one in admissions even has that power either. Sounds like you may be the one that is a bit unstable instead of accepting that you along with 90% of applicants did not get into their first choice school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? Who said anything about the admissions office breaching confidentiality? Women talks to powerful people at school about not wanting someone to be admitted. It may not work, but she still tries - that's the offensive action.

A lot of people do offensive things and maybe she knows something about the family and feels she is validated in letting the school know. Honestly there’s a father at another school that has a history of threatening people and no one ever said it to the school he was applying to and his child got into the school and he has had issues already with threatening another mother very publicly. So, sometimes if you know something about someone it can be a good thing to tell.

Actually, you have it all wrong. Woman trying to prevent child from getting into school is the offensive one. She is unstable and many people have pulled away after experiencing her crazy behavior, although it takes time to figure it out so not everyone knows. Trying to prevent a lovely child from being admitted because you harbor irrational disdain towards the parents is just wrong, period.

You clearly don’t know how admissions to these schools work. Sounds like you are blaming people for your kid not getting accepted somewhere. No one has that kind of power except heads of schools. Admissions offices have committees that vote on candidates so no one in admissions even has that power either. Sounds like you may be the one that is a bit unstable instead of accepting that you along with 90% of applicants did not get into their first choice school.

+100

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? Who said anything about the admissions office breaching confidentiality? Women talks to powerful people at school about not wanting someone to be admitted. It may not work, but she still tries - that's the offensive action.

A lot of people do offensive things and maybe she knows something about the family and feels she is validated in letting the school know. Honestly there’s a father at another school that has a history of threatening people and no one ever said it to the school he was applying to and his child got into the school and he has had issues already with threatening another mother very publicly. So, sometimes if you know something about someone it can be a good thing to tell.

Actually, you have it all wrong. Woman trying to prevent child from getting into school is the offensive one. She is unstable and many people have pulled away after experiencing her crazy behavior, although it takes time to figure it out so not everyone knows. Trying to prevent a lovely child from being admitted because you harbor irrational disdain towards the parents is just wrong, period.

You clearly don’t know how admissions to these schools work. Sounds like you are blaming people for your kid not getting accepted somewhere. No one has that kind of power except heads of schools. Admissions offices have committees that vote on candidates so no one in admissions even has that power either. Sounds like you may be the one that is a bit unstable instead of accepting that you along with 90% of applicants did not get into their first choice school.

This. Most applicants didn’t get into to their first, second, or third choice this year. Many people I know got completely shut out. You sound a bit entitled and placing blame.