Spouse wants to accompany on work travel; I don't want her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. Oy. Now I found out I need to be in San Diego on Wed. Just San Diego. I do not want this trip. How am I going to tell my wife...LOL.(sometimes, you have to laugh).

(airfare is north of 1K).

I am not sure why I am so invested in this story, but at this point, I would lay out the whole situation to my spouse :

We fly out Tues night, stay Wed in San Diego where spouse can enjoy warm weather, fun city. Leave early Thurs morning to middle of nowhere - drop spouse at Hampton Inn on way to job. If she can't check in early will have to wait in lobby, etc. Drive back to San Diego on Friday afternoon/evening for morning flight out.

If that still appeals to her, and she understands you really aren't available for anything fun, and that it will cost $1,000 for the flights you need to take plus meals, then give it a go. Perhaps you will enjoy the evenings together, and she will gain first hand insight into what your job is like - i.e. not glamorous travel.

Personally, I still wouldn't want to go, but that is just me.

OP here. You misread. I am going at the end of Jan and tomorrow. Tomorrows trip would not be a bad one to tag along -- I will be working at our company office, not in the desert. But I am only going for two nights/1 day. And the day is a Wed. So, we would have to find someone to take DD to music lesson and to therapy (she can miss the lesson, but can't miss therapy).

And it is going to be expensive. The good news is I get the miles, and am on my way to maintaining my united status.

[Anonymous]

I just dont see the problem. Work is work, vacation is vacation. End of story.

Plan a better vacation with her for another time.