do you ask about guns at a family's house before letting your kid go to a playdate there?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the people that think it's none of anyone's business. There are thousands of accidental gun deaths per year because parents don't keep their guns locked up. It's a legit concern and completely valid question to ask if you are sending your child over to a friend's house, especially if you don't know the parents that well.

We keep our weapons locked up. There will be no accidental deaths. If, God forbid, one of our guns ever causes a death, it will be intentional, that I can assure you.

Therefore, it's none of your business what we have LOCKED UP.

Go away, PP, no one likes you. You are a liar.

Here's an anecdote. My father has guns. He lives alone. As soon as my kids were old enough to walk around and get into things, I asked him if he had locked his guns away. Guess what? He hadn't. It just hadn't crossed his mind. So because I asked, he now has them locked away.

I'm guessing that most parents with young kids are probably more cautious than my dad. But at least some certainly aren't (as evidenced by accidental shootings by kids every year). Believe it or not, I know people with a young kid (not local) who have literally said to me that they keep their gun in their nightstand but their kid knows not to go in their bedroom. And even if I can ask the question and it reminds them that they probably need to lock the gun away, then it's worth it.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the people that think it's none of anyone's business. There are thousands of accidental gun deaths per year because parents don't keep their guns locked up. It's a legit concern and completely valid question to ask if you are sending your child over to a friend's house, especially if you don't know the parents that well.

We keep our weapons locked up. There will be no accidental deaths. If, God forbid, one of our guns ever causes a death, it will be intentional, that I can assure you.

Therefore, it's none of your business what we have LOCKED UP.

Why are you so sure that you and your spouse are perfect?

We're certainly not perfect. But our weapons are locked in a safe.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I always ask. And no, I would not let my child go to a home that has firearms.

I would rather be uncomfortable and impolite than have a dead child. Simple as that.

So you wouldn't even care how they store their guns? Just if they have one then you won't let them go there?

Some people are like that and it's OK. Maybe they are pacifists, maybe they have trust issues. Maybe it's a cultural values thing - if you have guns (even though they are secured), then they don't want to have social interactions with you and it applies to kids.
It's a free country, people can decide what's best for them (and hey, if you have the right to own a gun, then I (and by extension my child) certainly have the right to avoid vising your house). Different strokes for different folks, that's all. Let's all breathe out. Your kid can play with other kids whose parents also own guns, or whose parents don't ask about this.

That's certainly true. And it's equally true that gun owners are not required to disclose their possession.

Do you are exercising your right but denying me the right to make my choice? How Trumpy of you.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I always ask. And no, I would not let my child go to a home that has firearms.

I would rather be uncomfortable and impolite than have a dead child. Simple as that.

So you wouldn't even care how they store their guns? Just if they have one then you won't let them go there?

Some people are like that and it's OK. Maybe they are pacifists, maybe they have trust issues. Maybe it's a cultural values thing - if you have guns (even though they are secured), then they don't want to have social interactions with you and it applies to kids.
It's a free country, people can decide what's best for them (and hey, if you have the right to own a gun, then I (and by extension my child) certainly have the right to avoid vising your house). Different strokes for different folks, that's all. Let's all breathe out. Your kid can play with other kids whose parents also own guns, or whose parents don't ask about this.

That's certainly true. And it's equally true that gun owners are not required to disclose their possession.

Do you are exercising your right but denying me the right to make my choice? How Trumpy of you.

You can make your choice. But you're not entitled to everyone's private information as a basis to make that choice.

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Wow, it is unbelievably douchbaggery to LIE to parents and pretend like you don't own guns, and let them leave their children at your house. That is the most entitled and dickish thing I have ever read on DCUM, and I've been here since 2006.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I always ask. And no, I would not let my child go to a home that has firearms.

I would rather be uncomfortable and impolite than have a dead child. Simple as that.

So you wouldn't even care how they store their guns? Just if they have one then you won't let them go there?

Some people are like that and it's OK. Maybe they are pacifists, maybe they have trust issues. Maybe it's a cultural values thing - if you have guns (even though they are secured), then they don't want to have social interactions with you and it applies to kids.
It's a free country, people can decide what's best for them (and hey, if you have the right to own a gun, then I (and by extension my child) certainly have the right to avoid vising your house). Different strokes for different folks, that's all. Let's all breathe out. Your kid can play with other kids whose parents also own guns, or whose parents don't ask about this.

By refusing to acknowledge that some people may have their guns stored in a completely safe manner, you are no longer about protecting your kids. You're saying you refuse to be friends with someone who owns a gun. The irony is the people who say stuff like this seem to be the ones who pride themselves on being open-minded, yet that's the exactly opposite of what they're doing in this case. I get the safety issue, I do, and you have every right (and obligation) to protect your children. But when they are in no danger of coming into contact with a gun at someone's house, that's no longer what you're doing.

If there's a gun in your house, then there is ALWAYS a CHANCE of my child coming into contact with it. Because it's there. Please let parents know so they can make an informed decision before they drop their kids off at your house. You don't get to assume that risk for other people.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the people that think it's none of anyone's business. There are thousands of accidental gun deaths per year because parents don't keep their guns locked up. It's a legit concern and completely valid question to ask if you are sending your child over to a friend's house, especially if you don't know the parents that well.

We keep our weapons locked up. There will be no accidental deaths. If, God forbid, one of our guns ever causes a death, it will be intentional, that I can assure you.

Therefore, it's none of your business what we have LOCKED UP.

Why are you so sure that you and your spouse are perfect?

We're certainly not perfect. But our weapons are locked in a safe.

How often do you take them out? You don't take them to a range?

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Why are the gun owners so afraid to tell people they have guns?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the people that think it's none of anyone's business. There are thousands of accidental gun deaths per year because parents don't keep their guns locked up. It's a legit concern and completely valid question to ask if you are sending your child over to a friend's house, especially if you don't know the parents that well.

We keep our weapons locked up. There will be no accidental deaths. If, God forbid, one of our guns ever causes a death, it will be intentional, that I can assure you.

Therefore, it's none of your business what we have LOCKED UP.

Why are you so sure that you and your spouse are perfect?

We're certainly not perfect. But our weapons are locked in a safe.

How often do you take them out? You don't take them to a range?

I’m not the PP, but another gun owner. We take them to the range. To do so, we unlock the door, unlock the safe, unlock trigger locks, and load ammo. The guns get put in a designated carrier to the range. After they are fired, back in the bag, back home, trigger locks, safe, locked door. It’s not like you lose track of guns, wtf?

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Anonymous wrote:For the gun owners, if I expressed concern over guns, might you also be worried that it's because my kid is curious/shows interest in guns? (my actual kids are 1 and 3, so not an issue now). My nephew is 8 and a curious kid, and I think that if I owned guns I would want to know that the kid might be vaguely interested, and I would want to be aware to ensure the kid doesn't go hunting for them...

My boyfriend has a gun. Our bedroom and bathroom are the only things on the very top floor of the house. The gun is in his closet. The kids know they are never to bring friends up to that level of the house. They know they are to tell us if they can not control their friends and need adult intervention.

Please tell me you don't invite friends over to play. This is insane. You have children and a gun sitting in a closet?

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the people that think it's none of anyone's business. There are thousands of accidental gun deaths per year because parents don't keep their guns locked up. It's a legit concern and completely valid question to ask if you are sending your child over to a friend's house, especially if you don't know the parents that well.

We keep our weapons locked up. There will be no accidental deaths. If, God forbid, one of our guns ever causes a death, it will be intentional, that I can assure you.

Therefore, it's none of your business what we have LOCKED UP.

Why are you so sure that you and your spouse are perfect?

We're certainly not perfect. But our weapons are locked in a safe.

How often do you take them out? You don't take them to a range?

I’m not the PP, but another gun owner. We take them to the range. To do so, we unlock the door, unlock the safe, unlock trigger locks, and load ammo. The guns get put in a designated carrier to the range. After they are fired, back in the bag, back home, trigger locks, safe, locked door. It’s not like you lose track of guns, wtf?

It surprises me that gun ranges don't have some kind of storage lockers you can rent so you can safely store your gun at the only place where you use your gun.

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This thread is making me want to host every playdate for my three boys. We do not have guns. I volunteer this information. If one of my kids got killed because his friend was playing with a gun, I would never forgive myself for not asking and acting appropriately.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are the gun owners so afraid to tell people they have guns?

I’m a gun owner and when I become friends with another mom (let’s say we’ve gotten together a handful of times), I usually mention it casually. Not because I want to be in your face about guns, but as some Pps have shown, there are people who just are not going to like you or think you are an evil, stupid person for having guns. So if you feel that way about gun owners, you may as well know upfront. I’m also upfront about my politics (moderate conservative, not a Republican), because again, there are people who think you are the devil if you aren’t an Obama supporting liberal Democrat.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't understand the people that think it's none of anyone's business. There are thousands of accidental gun deaths per year because parents don't keep their guns locked up. It's a legit concern and completely valid question to ask if you are sending your child over to a friend's house, especially if you don't know the parents that well.

We keep our weapons locked up. There will be no accidental deaths. If, God forbid, one of our guns ever causes a death, it will be intentional, that I can assure you.

Therefore, it's none of your business what we have LOCKED UP.

Why are you so sure that you and your spouse are perfect?

We're certainly not perfect. But our weapons are locked in a safe.

How often do you take them out? You don't take them to a range?

I’m not the PP, but another gun owner. We take them to the range. To do so, we unlock the door, unlock the safe, unlock trigger locks, and load ammo. The guns get put in a designated carrier to the range. After they are fired, back in the bag, back home, trigger locks, safe, locked door. It’s not like you lose track of guns, wtf?

It surprises me that gun ranges don't have some kind of storage lockers you can rent so you can safely store your gun at the only place where you use your gun.

I go to several different ranges.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are the gun owners so afraid to tell people they have guns?

I’m a gun owner and when I become friends with another mom (let’s say we’ve gotten together a handful of times), I usually mention it casually. Not because I want to be in your face about guns, but as some Pps have shown, there are people who just are not going to like you or think you are an evil, stupid person for having guns. So if you feel that way about gun owners, you may as well know upfront. I’m also upfront about my politics (moderate conservative, not a Republican), because again, there are people who think you are the devil if you aren’t an Obama supporting liberal Democrat.

but would you mention it before hosting a playdate?