do you ask about guns at a family's house before letting your kid go to a playdate there?

[Anonymous]

I am shy by nature and avoid unpleasant conversations more than any other person I have ever met. Flame me all you want, but this is the best I can do:

I always host the first playdate. When I invite the child over I always say to the parent, "And please don't worry, we have no guns in our house". If the parent doesn't chime in with "neither do we" type of rejoinder, my boys don't go over to their house - ever.

Yes, I am certain some parents don't get my prompt or are distracted - but it is the best I can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I learned here on DCUM that many people lie about it.

You betcha. I am not going to tell you that I own guns unless you are a close personal friend. If you ask, I will lie.

[Anonymous]

1. First playdate is always at a park or public location.
2. If first goes well, then a second can be at a house, but yes, the question does get asked. If the other person is too taken aback or angry about being asked, then we don't do a playdate. This has never happened.

Studies have shown that kids know how to access locked and "secured" guns. At this age, we don't do drop off playdates, so this isn't a huge concern yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am shy by nature and avoid unpleasant conversations more than any other person I have ever met. Flame me all you want, but this is the best I can do:

I always host the first playdate. When I invite the child over I always say to the parent, "And please don't worry, we have no guns in our house". If the parent doesn't chime in with "neither do we" type of rejoinder, my boys don't go over to their house - ever.

You sound... crazy.

Just as well our kids can't be friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned here on DCUM that many people lie about it.

You betcha. I am not going to tell you that I own guns unless you are a close personal friend. If you ask, I will lie.

Wow, so moral!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned here on DCUM that many people lie about it.

You betcha. I am not going to tell you that I own guns unless you are a close personal friend. If you ask, I will lie.

How do you store your weapons?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am shy by nature and avoid unpleasant conversations more than any other person I have ever met. Flame me all you want, but this is the best I can do:

I always host the first playdate. When I invite the child over I always say to the parent, "And please don't worry, we have no guns in our house". If the parent doesn't chime in with "neither do we" type of rejoinder, my boys don't go over to their house - ever.

You sound... crazy.

Just as well our kids can't be friends.

I don't care how I sound to you, PP, but I am delighted that our kids will not be friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. First playdate is always at a park or public location.
2. If first goes well, then a second can be at a house, but yes, the question does get asked. If the other person is too taken aback or angry about being asked, then we don't do a playdate. This has never happened.

Studies have shown that kids know how to access locked and "secured" guns. At this age, we don't do drop off playdates, so this isn't a huge concern yet.

Please point us to these.

[Anonymous]

I have three kids aged 12-16, and have hosted 100s of playdates. Not one parent has asked.

The answer is yes. Of course they are properly stored. The guns have both trigger locks and are in a a locked safe. Bullets are in another safe. Still not one person has asked.

[Anonymous]

Yes. I also ask about dogs or other pets. I was attacked by a pet ferret at a play date when I was kid.


I also ask about food allergies before I host people in my house - we don’t have any guns or pets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned here on DCUM that many people lie about it.

You betcha. I am not going to tell you that I own guns unless you are a close personal friend. If you ask, I will lie.

Wow, so moral!

I lie that we have guns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned here on DCUM that many people lie about it.

You betcha. I am not going to tell you that I own guns unless you are a close personal friend. If you ask, I will lie.

Wow, so moral!

I lie that we have guns.

You are a liar, PP.

[Anonymous]

We don't ask. We assume many families have guns, and we'd only send our kid to houses where we know the parents well enough that we can trust them to keep the guns locked away.

We have guns locked away. We've been asked occasionally, and we've said that "No, we don't own any guns."

It's not information that we wish to disclose to anyone. It's a private matter. As far as other parents need to be concerned, there is absolutely no way that their kids will get their hands on our guns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I learned here on DCUM that many people lie about it.

You betcha. I am not going to tell you that I own guns unless you are a close personal friend. If you ask, I will lie.

Wow, so moral!

I lie that we have guns.

You are a liar, PP.

It's a test, not a lie.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't ask. We assume many families have guns, and we'd only send our kid to houses where we know the parents well enough that we can trust them to keep the guns locked away.

We have guns locked away. We've been asked occasionally, and we've said that "No, we don't own any guns."

It's not information that we wish to disclose to anyone. It's a private matter. As far as other parents need to be concerned, there is absolutely no way that their kids will get their hands on our guns.

I don't get this. If you own guns, why are you ashamed to tell people? And as for other parents, aren't they to judge the situations they put their kids into?