Multi-generation Princeton double-legacy. DC doesn't want to go there...help

[Anonymous]

Legacy & applying SCEA gives you greatest boost for getting in. Tell your child that is a tremendous advantage but it is not binding so they can apply to other schools they like more, then go from there. However you should ask him to articulate what he doesn't like, if it is just he wants to go his own way, that could change. If it is Princeton is too "clubby" "snobby", then you may have a problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I call major troll. Anyone who really attended Princeton would know that this is an incorrect use of the word "myself."

Your faith in the Ivy League is touching.

LOL. I guess you're right. Poor little me - a grad of State U - had a fantastic high school English grammar teacher who had the sense to teach us how to use the word "myself."

OP, since you weren't so fortunate, here's a little primer:

Your sentence, "On my side, my father, grandfather and myself attended" is incorrect; it should read "On my side, my father, grandfather and I attended."

To check "yourself" in the future, drop the other subjects in the sentence. You would then have "Myself attended." That does not make sense, either in written or oral form. "I attended," however, does read correctly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your kid is too dumb to know how privileged he is to have the opportunity to go to Princeton and is turning his nose up about it, he belongs at UMD or CNU instead

Bingo. He'll be a social loser at P and prob want to transfer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call major troll. Anyone who really attended Princeton would know that this is an incorrect use of the word "myself."

Your faith in the Ivy League is touching.

LOL. I guess you're right. Poor little me - a grad of State U - had a fantastic high school English grammar teacher who had the sense to teach us how to use the word "myself."

OP, since you weren't so fortunate, here's a little primer:

Your sentence, "On my side, my father, grandfather and myself attended" is incorrect; it should read "On my side, my father, grandfather and I attended."

To check "yourself" in the future, drop the other subjects in the sentence. You would then have "Myself attended." That does not make sense, either in written or oral form. "I attended," however, does read correctly.

Someone with a giant chip on their shoulder has been spotted. Sad. Pathetic, actually.

[Anonymous]

Some kids just don't appreciate how fortunate they are.

If your son wants to make his own way in life, he can do so after he graduates from college. Unless you have a family business you are grooming him to take over or something. Do you?

Most kids and their parents would kill to be in his position. He should at the very least apply. Would he be happy if he ended up at a non-elite because of his stubbornness? Kids with top stats but nothing super extraordinary get rejected from the ivies all the time, even the lower ivies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call major troll. Anyone who really attended Princeton would know that this is an incorrect use of the word "myself."

Your faith in the Ivy League is touching.

LOL. I guess you're right. Poor little me - a grad of State U - had a fantastic high school English grammar teacher who had the sense to teach us how to use the word "myself."

OP, since you weren't so fortunate, here's a little primer:

Your sentence, "On my side, my father, grandfather and myself attended" is incorrect; it should read "On my side, my father, grandfather and I attended."

To check "yourself" in the future, drop the other subjects in the sentence. You would then have "Myself attended." That does not make sense, either in written or oral form. "I attended," however, does read correctly.

Could you plz stop steering the thread off topic with your interjections? you have made your point multiple times, OP has replied, move along now. You are interrupting the flow of a very entertaining thread.

LOL it is like watching an episode of Gossip Girl/Gilmore Girls or sth like that. OP, I m sure your in-laws put Emily and Richard to shame hahaha. Keep us posted on what happens next!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This poor child.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am familiar with families like yours so I get your issue. DS went to Andover. He had a friend there who went on to be a 9th generation Yale student and was also a 9th generation Andover student. For that family the path was clear and utterly rigid. First Andover, then Yale. No deviation was even entertained as a thought, let alone tolerated.

Imho it puts unnecessary pressure on the children. They should be free to make their own path and not be constrained by family tradition.

Andover is full of those. It was originally built as a Yale feeder school. Exeter was built as a Harvard feeder and Lawrenceville as a Princeton feeder.
These poor kids. Hard to feel sorry for them because of the enormous privilege they are born into, but they usually have to deal with some really crazy sh*t from their families. No wonder many of them grow up to be bitter, insufferable, pompous aholes.

[Anonymous]

If he is a person of reasonable intelligence, he will surely come to realize that not even applying to Princeton would be a huge waste. Just assure him that he does not have to attend if he gets in, and actually keep your promise if this comes to pass. If you don't keep your promise he will hate you forever. I suspect his opposition to applying is due to the pressure your family seems to be putting on him about the school. I don't blame him tbh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It sounds, op, like both your son and you know - or at least strongly believe - that he will otherwise get into Harvard, Stanford, or Yale

OP just said the opposite.

Read between the lines. Actually, let me break it down for you.

If op's son is admitted to Harvard, Stanford, and/or Yale, then he would prefer to attend one of those universities over Princeton as a legacy.

However, if op's son is not admitted to Harvard, Stanford, and/or Yale, then he would prefer to attend Princeton as a legacy than any lesser university.

Clearly op and her son do believe that he will be admitted to Harvard, Stanford, and/or Yale, otherwise they would not gamble with a particularly historied legacy of admission to Princeton.

I am the OP.

He is qualified for HYS, but he doesn't have the legacy advantage that he has at Princeton. So at HYS he would be facing more or less the same long odds that all other high-stats, non-prodigy, prep-school kids face.
As of now he wants to apply to Yale early, Harvard and Stanford RD. He is also thinking of doing Penn, Columbia, Dartmouth RD and the rest will be safeties and matches. I imagine that if he did not get into HYS, he eventually would want to go for Princeton as opposed to a non-HYP ivy. At least I hope. Not attending Princeton is bad enough in our family, attending a lower ivy would drive the in-laws and DH completely insane. Plus the teasing from cousins, uncles etc will be insufferable. I know this sounds ridiculous to most people but this is my family. My side of the family are quite more relaxed about these things. DH's side of the family is a whole different story.

Wow! you lot give the words elitist and pompous a whole new meaning

[Anonymous]

Imagine if he goes elsewhere and marries a woman whose entire family didn’t go to Princeton! OP will never be able to show her face in public again!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine if he goes elsewhere and marries a woman whose entire family didn’t go to Princeton! OP will never be able to show her face in public again!

Even worse, imagine if he marries someone whose entire family went to a lesser ivy. gasp! or a non-ivy. oh the horror! OP and DH would not be able to show their faces to the country club ever again. they will have to spend the rest of their lives in social exile in their mansion or their beach house in Nantucket. oh the struggles of the american aristocracy...we feel for you. NOT.

[Anonymous]

He wants to prove he can get into an elite school without Daddy or Mommy. He wants to stand on his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It sounds, op, like both your son and you know - or at least strongly believe - that he will otherwise get into Harvard, Stanford, or Yale

OP just said the opposite.

Read between the lines. Actually, let me break it down for you.

If op's son is admitted to Harvard, Stanford, and/or Yale, then he would prefer to attend one of those universities over Princeton as a legacy.

However, if op's son is not admitted to Harvard, Stanford, and/or Yale, then he would prefer to attend Princeton as a legacy than any lesser university.

Clearly op and her son do believe that he will be admitted to Harvard, Stanford, and/or Yale, otherwise they would not gamble with a particularly historied legacy of admission to Princeton.

I am the OP.

He is qualified for HYS, but he doesn't have the legacy advantage that he has at Princeton. So at HYS he would be facing more or less the same long odds that all other high-stats, non-prodigy, prep-school kids face.
As of now he wants to apply to Yale early, Harvard and Stanford RD. He is also thinking of doing Penn, Columbia, Dartmouth RD and the rest will be safeties and matches. I imagine that if he did not get into HYS, he eventually would want to go for Princeton as opposed to a non-HYP ivy. At least I hope. Not attending Princeton is bad enough in our family, attending a lower ivy would drive the in-laws and DH completely insane. Plus the teasing from cousins, uncles etc will be insufferable. I know this sounds ridiculous to most people but this is my family. My side of the family are quite more relaxed about these things. DH's side of the family is a whole different story.

Yours, op, is one of the most inherently arrogant threads I have read on these boards in a quite some time. The only way it could be any more arrogant would be if you casually dropped the fact that your son is a student at Andover. The DCUM community generally takes to task such obvious 'humble brags', but in your case we have indulged you rather kindly and patiently for the last 9 pages. i guess this proves that people really do want their royalty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I call major troll. Anyone who really attended Princeton would know that this is an incorrect use of the word "myself."

Your faith in the Ivy League is touching.

LOL. I guess you're right. Poor little me - a grad of State U - had a fantastic high school English grammar teacher who had the sense to teach us how to use the word "myself."

OP, since you weren't so fortunate, here's a little primer:

Your sentence, "On my side, my father, grandfather and myself attended" is incorrect; it should read "On my side, my father, grandfather and I attended."

To check "yourself" in the future, drop the other subjects in the sentence. You would then have "Myself attended." That does not make sense, either in written or oral form. "I attended," however, does read correctly.

Very nice. Everyone can benefit. The only ones who can possibly be upset are the ones that realize they always email people to "contact Larla or myself with any questions."