Moms - would you hire a young beautiful nanny??

[Anonymous]

DH here and I would be fine with it, so too my youngest son who is still at home (age 24). Not so sure my wife would go along, plus the fact that we don't really need an au pair to start with. Maybe a hot maid.....

[Anonymous]

I hired the ugliest Bulgaian nanny. Her teeth were messed up and she had cross-eyes plus her hair was in a super short pixie style (not flattering). She was also very very skinny. She was wonderful w/our DD. that was years ago and my DH still jokes about how I hired such an unattractive woman. If you think this is about trust then you just don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Bulgarian

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Oh and I have nothing against Bulgarian people - it was just a descriptive term ... No offense intended

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another DH here: we have had not one, but two, very attractive au pairs, in addition to several rather homely ones. For any decent guy, this should not present any issues of concern. At least in my experience, the au pair relationship creates vaguely paternal feelings, which are quite antithetical to any sort of meaningful sexual interest. I was as surprised as anyone that this is how it seems to work.

This is true despite the way they dress -- I swear, they must instruct the girls to flounce around in basically nothing as part of au pair training -- which, as unbelievable as it may sound, you end up not really noticing, other than to hope that your own daughter doesn't become unduly influenced by the Hollister short-shorts, etc.

My AP covers up like a Nun. It's suprising since she's European.

Duh- she covers up like a nun to discourage your frisky husband!

[Anonymous]

if you're bi then it might work out pretty well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I hired the ugliest Bulgaian nanny. Her teeth were messed up and she had cross-eyes plus her hair was in a super short pixie style (not flattering). She was also very very skinny. She was wonderful w/our DD. that was years ago and my DH still jokes about how I hired such an unattractive woman. If you think this is about trust then you just don't get it.

You sound awful.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hired the ugliest Bulgaian nanny. Her teeth were messed up and she had cross-eyes plus her hair was in a super short pixie style (not flattering). She was also very very skinny. She was wonderful w/our DD. that was years ago and my DH still jokes about how I hired such an unattractive woman. If you think this is about trust then you just don't get it.

You sound awful.

Like half the women in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wondering what other women think. We have had a really hard time finding a good nanny. Just interviewed a nanny with great credentials and honestly she seems way smarter and potentially better than any of the other candidates we've interviewed so far. However, she is very young, gorgeous, has a bod that makes Kate Upton look like a homely nobody and wears clothes that make that very clear. I'm sure I'm particularly sensitive to the contrast since I am a new Mom and feel like a flabby lactating mess.

I trust my DH, I know the nanny has a serious boyfriend (and anyway while I love him most Kate Upton lookalikes are unlikely to find my dear DH that interesting lol) but I don't know if it is just asking for trouble. I will be traveling a lot once I go back to work and although it is admittedly silly, I don't know if I will feel weird knowing my DH is spending time (even if it just transitioning before and after work) with this lady. [/quote

DH'a best friend was in a similar situation when his wife was getting deployed. HE the husband/dad said no to the hot nanny. Kudos to him.

[Anonymous]

NO NO NO. Adultery is a crime of opportunity.

[Anonymous]

^^^^ think Arnold and Maria.

[Anonymous]

Find a nice pleasant pre social security Grandma type

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No way. Even if there is no chance of an affair, I don't want my husband comparing my physical qualities to her.

Because without the nanny it's a mystery to him that there are women out there who are younger and fitter?

Wow, I feel sorry for you guys if you don't understand the difference in awareness, temptation and liklihood of problems between general awareness of younger and fitter women... and having one come to your house every day and caring for/bonding with your child. You also clearly don't spend much time reading other threads on this or the Explicit forum, because fantasies combined with access (or potential access) lead to problems with unwanted sexual attention or wanted sexual attention ALL THE TIME.

I really do trust my husband, but I also don't see the point in bringing someone in who is attractive in a way that might be distracting. Just as I actually chose an instructor for a skill I wanted to learn and did NOT choose the hot young guy! I doubt he would have been interested in me, but why even invite getting to know someone professionally who I know from the get go I think is attractive? Just not worth it to go that way even if I'd never act on it. And I know I wouldn't, because - long story, but there's someone I've been friends with before I even met DH and always had sexual tension with, and a few years ago we were in a situation where he made a pass at me and I could have gone for it and probably gotten away with it. But I didn't not, and honestly, I didn't even pause to consider it, said no right away.

And even with all that clarity... I know from the experience of friends and family and reading here that there's no reason to throw that kind of bait into a situation. It's inviting trouble.

[Anonymous]

I agree. Its a big no. Its also about someone looking after your kids and seeming maternal with them. If they are already physically attractive, surely this is going to make them more so?

Didn't Robin Williams marry the nanny? His 2nd of 3 wives?

[Anonymous]

Of course - I hired two nannies who were beautiful, but smart too. One is in law school at Yale now. My DD was blessed to have her. You should do what's best for your kids!