Naked Photos on DH's phone...WWYD??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married guy here. I have been chasing poon and women have sent me provocative pics and asked me to send them some of mine. I simply go onto CL and find something that looks similar to what I'm packing, that doesn't show the person's face or much else, then send it to them. They don't know that it's not really me. I haven't been called out on it even once. Chances are that most of those pics on CL have been stolen from another site anyways.

I'll bet this happens a lot. A guy will send what appears to be a naughty pic of himself in the hopes that the woman he is seeing will send him a real naughty pic of herself in return. Or vice versa - because women can be just as jerky as men are. Don't think for a minute that they aren't.

[Anonymous]

Married man here, and I have had married women (just online friends) send me naked pics of themselves. I really didn't want them but was polite (not wanting to hurt their feelings). Women do this just as much as men I think. Now if only I could get my wife to send me some...

[Anonymous]

Pretty normal guy stuff except most would delete.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maryland and other states have revenge porn laws. Basically no sharing nude pics without consent.

But Howie is just sharing pics of the hottie that he has been lucky enough to score. There's no revenge in his motives he's just sharing his good fortune with his bros (and bragging a bit too about his ability to attract the hot babes). What does the law say about that?

Intent doesn't matter in Maryland. Doesn't have to be for revenge. Consent of the nude person in the pic is what matters. Intent is hard to prove in court. Consent is easier. "Revenge porn" is a catch-all term for similar statutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

You're a real party. Condolences to your husband.

[Anonymous]

Boys will be boys. And men are just little boys in men's bodies.

They all talk like that and it is par for the course.

I would be peeved at him, it would take a lot for me to act like I didn't have a clue. You have amazing willpower.

Sounds to me like he forget to delete this convo prior to you looking at this phone. Oops.

I would be a bit upset to know that my husband wanted to see more naked pics of another woman. It wouldn't sit well with me. Sure, you technically snooped a bit, but you cannot change that you now have this knowledge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

I don't believe it even for a second that your husband, given a chance, would not enjoy looking at photos of other naked women. Especially considering he is married to such a sunctimonious, uptight, righteous know-it-all. I bet you only have sex in the dark in the missionary position and only when you try to concieve a child. My condolences to your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a happily married woman in my 40s and one of my besties is back in the dating game after a divorce.

Men she is dating will send her their "c**k" pics, and she will send it to me asking "what do you think?"

I will then make some suitably inappropriate remark and we will laugh about it.

I do not find OP's husband sketchy in anyway. He is not trying to hide anything, nor he is the one who is getting these pics sent to him by females.

Holy crap "dating" totally sucks now. Everyone is an azzhole now. Why is that?

Disgusting people attract/ tolerate disgusting people.

No. Dating does suck nowadays. Smartphones and social media has altered the romantic and sexual rules of engagement. For people in their 40s who are back in the dating game, it is a hard pill to swallow. Think hard before divorcing, because the pickings are slim out there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

You're a real party. Condolences to your husband.

PP here. Should I clap and give him a "bravo" for behaving like a sleezeball and hanging out with one? It's a serious question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the guy is forwarding and sharing pics without the woman's permission,both the guy and your husband are disgusting.

+ 1. This is what's wrong with the whole situation, not that your husband is vacariously enjoying his friend's sex life. If I was in the situation I would bring it up with DH and point out the obvious misogyny he is participating in.

Both things are wrong. And you bet your life my husband would be given a talking-to about the misogyny aspect you mentions, if he ever did something like that.

[Anonymous]

some of you women are uptight. its not like it was a stash of photos and im sure the response of "send more" was due to just not having anything of substance to say after getting a naked photo of a woman his friend is fucking.

i asked this pages ago. what do you think looking at a picture of a naked woman your friend sends you unsolicited will lead to? do you think the husband is going to request more pictures, conspiring with the friend to see if the girl can take more provocative pics? what?

the only mistake he made was keeping the pic around. i would have deleted it after the conversation and not because im hiding anything from my wife, but because i dont need to hold on to naked pics of my friends conquests on my phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

I don't believe it even for a second that your husband, given a chance, would not enjoy looking at photos of other naked women. Especially considering he is married to such a sunctimonious, uptight, righteous know-it-all. I bet you only have sex in the dark in the missionary position and only when you try to concieve a child. My condolences to your husband.

You'd be surprised. But I was raised with more class than to discuss the details of intimacy on the Internet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a happily married woman in my 40s and one of my besties is back in the dating game after a divorce.

Men she is dating will send her their "c**k" pics, and she will send it to me asking "what do you think?"

I will then make some suitably inappropriate remark and we will laugh about it.

I do not find OP's husband sketchy in anyway. He is not trying to hide anything, nor he is the one who is getting these pics sent to him by females.

Holy crap "dating" totally sucks now. Everyone is an azzhole now. Why is that?

Disgusting people attract/ tolerate disgusting people.

No. Dating does suck nowadays. Smartphones and social media has altered the romantic and sexual rules of engagement. For people in their 40s who are back in the dating game, it is a hard pill to swallow. Think hard before divorcing, because the pickings are slim out there.

At first it was just manufacturing jobs lost to the global economy. Now, men threaten that they will simply go to Colombia to replace us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.

Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men?

You have two problems:

a) a husband who would look at naked photos of other women, given the chance to,

b) a husband who hangs around with a sleezeball who sends around naked pictures of the woman he's sleeping with or dating, most likely without her consent.

My condolences.

I'd have been in my husband's face the second he'd walk into the door.

You must be kidding or you just have no idea about how the male mind works. What nirmal
man would not enjoy looking at pictures of naked women?