Naked Photos on DH's phone...WWYD??
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Anonymous
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I know the pass code to my DHs phone and routinely pick it up to look at pics he has taken of our DCs. He does the same with mine. We've never discussed it, there is just an understanding that we sometimes look at each other's phones.
Anyway, the other day I picked up his phone and there was an open chat with one of his closest friends (male). I shouldn't have looked at it, but they spend a decent amount of time together and I was curious. To cut a long story short, DH's friend had sent him a number of naked shots of the woman that the friend is currently sleeping with (I would say dating but I don't think it rises to that level). The friend is asking my DH what he thinks of this woman and my DH responds "send more"!!!! That was the extent of it, but I still feel a little icky about it. I get it when high schoolers do this, but is this normal behavior for men in their 40s??!? I am usually pretty relaxed about things but this just struck me as weird and also kind of gross. I probably won't mention it to my DH but am definitely going to become more vigilant especially in respect of this particular friend. Does anyone else think this is kind of weird or am I just being naive and this is par for the course with men? |
Anonymous
| It's possible he didn't really know how to react so just played along. But GROSS! |
Anonymous
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Guys that I know do send this stuff to each other regularly -- not necessarily of their wives and girlfriends, but certainly photos that someone else has forwarded.
I'd be more concerned if it was a woman sending the photos. I don't like that men are so into porn, but the older I get, the more I realize that most of it is pretty normal guy behavior. |
Anonymous
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is your marriage strong? is your sex life good or better? if yes to both those questions, let it go.
men, even in their 40s, still behave like sex-crazed teenagers. you DH is just getting caught up in the hoopla around his current friend's fuck buddy. your truly, a 40+ y.o man |
Anonymous
agree. |
Anonymous
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This wouldn't bother me so much, but I understand why you feel a bit weird about it.
Unlike PP, I know women who had 'dick pics' they would share when dating so I don't find that strange either. Not when they settled down though. |
Anonymous
| If the guy is forwarding and sharing pics without the woman's permission,both the guy and your husband are disgusting. |
Anonymous
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I can picture dh saying "nice" or something like that. I think it's a little weird to say "send more". I have accidentally seen a naked picture of a friend'S boyfriend (she was letting me scroll through vacation pictures). I jokingly said something like "lucky you!"
I talk about sex lives with my girlfriends and I know dh talks about sex lives with his guy friends so I'm not prudish about that stuff, the "send more" thing is just weird to me. |
Anonymous
| I'd talk to him about it. Clearly, it's going to bother you, and be on your mind. |
Anonymous
| Yeah, I would not send naked pictures to any of my friends, but if one sent me one he was all excited about, I would probably vaguely pretend I was excited to. If you don't have other issues with your husband, I would let it go. |
Anonymous
| I would discuss this with your DH. Be frank about your feelings, but open to his response. Its a dick move by your DH's friend though and I would probably lose respect for him as he is likely violating the woman's implied trust these wouldn't be shared beyond him and the NSA. |
Anonymous
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Your dh's friend is really an asshole--unless this woman consented to this. Do you have daughter?
Ask him how he'd feel if that were his daughter. |
Anonymous
| My husband would never have naked photos of other women on his phone. |
Anonymous
| Gross. My husband wouldn't do this either. |
Anonymous
| Female here. My single girl friends don't text me their naked bf's pictures, but they do show me them. I like eye candy too even though I'm married. |