Naked Photos on DH's phone...WWYD??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

Most likely the woman did not give consent to having her photo shared. Your husband is participating in voyeurism, which can be illegal.


And no, just because a woman gives a specific person consent to see a nude photo, doesn't mean she's given everyone and anyone that consent. Stop being gross, people.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. The woman, the 'boyfriend' (I won't use the other term that has been used) and the husband are all classless at best, and no one I would want to know or be married to.

[Anonymous]

I'd admit I snooped and share my concerns. I'd feel for the woman and explain I wasn't OK with positively reinforcing presumed violations of privacy. Send porn links and other public photos all you like. There's something very fucked up about violating a private interaction in either a bragging or mocking manner.

Many other insecure protocols are presumed private. An SMS text between two is presumed private. Douch canoes need to understand they are violating laws.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The naked pics were selfies. While I think the friend is an immature jerk for sending the photos to my DH, I don't have a tremendous amount of sympathy for the woman. How stupid and naive is it in this day and age to send naked selfies and expect that your BF or f^*kbuddy or whatever won't share them. Women you are forewarned.

I think my DH was lame to encourage his friend to share more pics but I also think that he probably was just responding as a friend without giving it too much thought. That being said he didn't delete them from his phone and somehow it does feel disrespectful to me, much more so than if I knew he was watching porn from time to time which wouldn't bother me. I'm not going to say anything. My DH spends a decent amount of time with this guy (they play sports together). The fact that he would send naked pics to my DH makes me think that he is immature enough to possibly take it a step further and suggest the two of them do things I would totally not turn a blind eye to like visit a strip club or worse. So I'm going to lay low and just monitor their texts. Sneaky yes but while I trust my DH, I don't trust his friend's judgement anymore so I would rather keep an eye on it.

I agree with the other posters. 40 somethings acting like pubescent sex crazed kids is so pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The naked pics were selfies. While I think the friend is an immature jerk for sending the photos to my DH, I don't have a tremendous amount of sympathy for the woman. How stupid and naive is it in this day and age to send naked selfies and expect that your BF or f^*kbuddy or whatever won't share them. Women you are forewarned.

I think my DH was lame to encourage his friend to share more pics but I also think that he probably was just responding as a friend without giving it too much thought. That being said he didn't delete them from his phone and somehow it does feel disrespectful to me, much more so than if I knew he was watching porn from time to time which wouldn't bother me. I'm not going to say anything. My DH spends a decent amount of time with this guy (they play sports together). The fact that he would send naked pics to my DH makes me think that he is immature enough to possibly take it a step further and suggest the two of them do things I would totally not turn a blind eye to like visit a strip club or worse. So I'm going to lay low and just monitor their texts. Sneaky yes but while I trust my DH, I don't trust his friend's judgement anymore so I would rather keep an eye on it.

I agree with the other posters. 40 somethings acting like pubescent sex crazed kids is so pathetic.

The law says otherwise. That's like saying women you are forewarned "you're asking for it" when you dress a certain way. That is what's pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The naked pics were selfies. While I think the friend is an immature jerk for sending the photos to my DH, I don't have a tremendous amount of sympathy for the woman. How stupid and naive is it in this day and age to send naked selfies and expect that your BF or f^*kbuddy or whatever won't share them. Women you are forewarned.

I think my DH was lame to encourage his friend to share more pics but I also think that he probably was just responding as a friend without giving it too much thought. That being said he didn't delete them from his phone and somehow it does feel disrespectful to me, much more so than if I knew he was watching porn from time to time which wouldn't bother me. I'm not going to say anything. My DH spends a decent amount of time with this guy (they play sports together). The fact that he would send naked pics to my DH makes me think that he is immature enough to possibly take it a step further and suggest the two of them do things I would totally not turn a blind eye to like visit a strip club or worse. So I'm going to lay low and just monitor their texts. Sneaky yes but while I trust my DH, I don't trust his friend's judgement anymore so I would rather keep an eye on it.

I agree with the other posters. 40 somethings acting like pubescent sex crazed kids is so pathetic.

I'm a PP. You don't trust the husband's friend's judgement because he sent naked pics of a woman, but you trust your husband's judgement when he asked for more pics of a naked woman that isn't you?

[Anonymous]

Yep. What these guys don't understand is that they are violating laws in distributing these pics without consent. A savvy scorned woman who finds out, watch out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The naked pics were selfies. While I think the friend is an immature jerk for sending the photos to my DH, I don't have a tremendous amount of sympathy for the woman. How stupid and naive is it in this day and age to send naked selfies and expect that your BF or f^*kbuddy or whatever won't share them. Women you are forewarned.

I think my DH was lame to encourage his friend to share more pics but I also think that he probably was just responding as a friend without giving it too much thought. That being said he didn't delete them from his phone and somehow it does feel disrespectful to me, much more so than if I knew he was watching porn from time to time which wouldn't bother me. I'm not going to say anything. My DH spends a decent amount of time with this guy (they play sports together). The fact that he would send naked pics to my DH makes me think that he is immature enough to possibly take it a step further and suggest the two of them do things I would totally not turn a blind eye to like visit a strip club or worse. So I'm going to lay low and just monitor their texts. Sneaky yes but while I trust my DH, I don't trust his friend's judgement anymore so I would rather keep an eye on it.

I agree with the other posters. 40 somethings acting like pubescent sex crazed kids is so pathetic.

The law says otherwise. That's like saying women you are forewarned "you're asking for it" when you dress a certain way. That is what's pathetic.

What is the law?

[Anonymous]

The friend was showing pics of multiple women. Are they all his gf? C'mon people. Savvy women know not to share nude selfies with random guys. When they do, throw shit happens. Everyone knows this now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The naked pics were selfies. While I think the friend is an immature jerk for sending the photos to my DH, I don't have a tremendous amount of sympathy for the woman. How stupid and naive is it in this day and age to send naked selfies and expect that your BF or f^*kbuddy or whatever won't share them. Women you are forewarned.

I think my DH was lame to encourage his friend to share more pics but I also think that he probably was just responding as a friend without giving it too much thought. That being said he didn't delete them from his phone and somehow it does feel disrespectful to me, much more so than if I knew he was watching porn from time to time which wouldn't bother me. I'm not going to say anything. My DH spends a decent amount of time with this guy (they play sports together). The fact that he would send naked pics to my DH makes me think that he is immature enough to possibly take it a step further and suggest the two of them do things I would totally not turn a blind eye to like visit a strip club or worse. So I'm going to lay low and just monitor their texts. Sneaky yes but while I trust my DH, I don't trust his friend's judgement anymore so I would rather keep an eye on it.

I agree with the other posters. 40 somethings acting like pubescent sex crazed kids is so pathetic.

The law says otherwise. That's like saying women you are forewarned "you're asking for it" when you dress a certain way. That is what's pathetic.

What does the law say about it? And how is anyone supposed to know whether or not this woman even has an issue with her pics being sent to other people. Maybe she assumes that the guy is going to share them....who the heck knows. Maybe the woman is a stripper or a porn star and is fine with her pics being sent to whoever will look at them.

Of course MOST women would be horrified to find out that a guy that they were involved with was sharing her pics with other guys. But is there really a law stating that selfies sent to other people must never be shared?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The naked pics were selfies. While I think the friend is an immature jerk for sending the photos to my DH, I don't have a tremendous amount of sympathy for the woman. How stupid and naive is it in this day and age to send naked selfies and expect that your BF or f^*kbuddy or whatever won't share them. Women you are forewarned.

I think my DH was lame to encourage his friend to share more pics but I also think that he probably was just responding as a friend without giving it too much thought. That being said he didn't delete them from his phone and somehow it does feel disrespectful to me, much more so than if I knew he was watching porn from time to time which wouldn't bother me. I'm not going to say anything. My DH spends a decent amount of time with this guy (they play sports together). The fact that he would send naked pics to my DH makes me think that he is immature enough to possibly take it a step further and suggest the two of them do things I would totally not turn a blind eye to like visit a strip club or worse. So I'm going to lay low and just monitor their texts. Sneaky yes but while I trust my DH, I don't trust his friend's judgement anymore so I would rather keep an eye on it.

I agree with the other posters. 40 somethings acting like pubescent sex crazed kids is so pathetic.

The law says otherwise. That's like saying women you are forewarned "you're asking for it" when you dress a certain way. That is what's pathetic.

What is the law?

Distributing these pics without consent and voyerism. Look it up for your state.

[Anonymous]

The hypocrisy is pretty thick on this thread. No problem sharing personal and intimate details of present and past partners and the escapades you've enjoyed. But share a picutre?!? Break out the fainting couches.

[Anonymous]

Copyright and breach of privacy come to mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband would never have naked photos of other women on his phone.

Of course he wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Copyright and breach of privacy come to mind.

I'll add it's kind of similar to leaving you a private voicemail or sending you a private written letter. My intent wasn't for China to hear/see it.