I am a White Woman Trapped in a Black Woman's Body! AMA

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Anonymous wrote:I am a"nerdy" black woman who has always had more white friends than black due to where I grew up, went to school, lived and worked. I sometimes have felt judged by other high SES black women, because I don't have perfectly done hair, nails and outfits. It has taken some work for me to develop close friendships with other black women as an adult, but it has been well worth it.
I don't straighten my hair or lighten my skin or wear a weave (hostile and judgmental much, OP?).
I would never, ever consider myself a white woman "trapped" in a black woman's body. I am black. I may not be what the media sees as stereotypically black, but I am most definitely black. I don't understand why OP has such a narrow view of what it means to be black.

It seems to me from reading this thread that OP's bad childhood experiences (she mentions being bullied by other black kids as a child, and also being raised by an immigrant parent as well as an AA parent), has shaped her sense of self. Seems reasonable to me, she seems to identify a bit more with her father's experiences than her mother's, but since she's not in Africa, then she sticks with the friends she has, who happen to be white.

Are you that stupid to think that her father was the only person who left his native country. There are communities of Africans who congregate with others from their home country. Akin to NYC in Europeans grouping together based on the parents home country.

I considered writing "Africa or Little Africa," but it seemed awkward to me. I guess I'm stupid.

[Anonymous]

I am surprised someone said I sound angry. I definitely am not. I have more friends and social activities than I know what to do with so clearly others do not find me angry or socially awkward. I think some of the negative comments are coming from insecure AA women. For some reason, people like me bother you. That said, I feel sorry for you too and encourage you to find peace in 2015.

As to where my Dad is from, in all of my schooling and work life, I have only met one other person from this country.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised someone said I sound angry. I definitely am not. I have more friends and social activities than I know what to do with so clearly others do not find me angry or socially awkward. I think some of the negative comments are coming from insecure AA women. For some reason, people like me bother you. That said, I feel sorry for you too and encourage you to find peace in 2015.

As to where my Dad is from, in all of my schooling and work life, I have only met one other person from this country.

Interesting, OP. Based on the responses I've read, I am not picking up on any insecurities from people (it is not clear to me that they are all AA women, or a woman, at all). I was able to follow OP's train-of-thought to a certain point, but the more she responded, the more confused she seemed. Perhaps some counseling would be beneficial to her? And my goodness, the irony in her wishes that others "find peace in 2015" is heart wrenching. Yes, counseling OP.

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Anonymous wrote:I am surprised someone said I sound angry. I definitely am not. I have more friends and social activities than I know what to do with so clearly others do not find me angry or socially awkward. I think some of the negative comments are coming from insecure AA women. For some reason, people like me bother you. That said, I feel sorry for you too and encourage you to find peace in 2015.

As to where my Dad is from, in all of my schooling and work life, I have only met one other person from this country.

Interesting, OP. Based on the responses I've read, I am not picking up on any insecurities from people (it is not clear to me that they are all AA women, or a woman, at all). I was able to follow OP's train-of-thought to a certain point, but the more she responded, the more confused she seemed. Perhaps some counseling would be beneficial to her? And my goodness, the irony in her wishes that others "find peace in 2015" is heart wrenching. Yes, counseling OP.

Right. The AA women in the thread started with 'funny, i'm a nerd too but would never think of describing myself as trapped in my body. weird' and she went on to tell us we had weaves and bleached our skin. Somebody here is insecure all right....

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Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I am sorry if other black women find my post distasteful but this is how I feel. If we were to compare ourselves, many of you AA women have probably done more to appear white and be accepted by white society than me (if I have even done this at all). I wear my hair natural, have never bleached my skin or hair to a lighter color and have never worn a weave. Because my father is not from this country, I have no ancestors on his side who were slaves, so I know everything about my heritage on that side of the family and am very proud of my ethnicity. However, I relate more to, have more in common with and feel more comfortable around white American women than AA women. I am not sure why my perception about MYSELF offends you.

I'm one of the previous aa posters you are referring to.
Skin bleaching? Seriously? Skin bleaching is much more common and accepted in other cultures than it is among young-youngish aa women. Weaves are less common the higher up in ses you go. It's like you've never met any aa people in real life.
It feels like you are grasping to appear as something (Worldly? Cultured?) that you just don't seem to be. I feel for anyone who feels 'trapped' in their body. I hope you find some peace.

Yes, black women chemically straightening there hair IS an attempt to look more European because you do not like your naturally kinky hair. It is okay to admit it. So is wearing a weave. You are wearing the hair of another person. Don't you find that sad and pathetic??? And tanning is NOT an attempt to look Black. I hate it when AA's say this. Tanning is an attempt to look less pale and that is all. Again, why is how I feel about ME offensive to you?? How can you actually disagree with who I believe I am when you don't know me?? Think about that. It is very odd. If you told me you felt like an ape because of x,y and z, who am I to argue with you? You know you best, right?

I think you are responding to the wrong PP here, since you didn't address any points in the post you quoted. But an ape? Really? Excellent trolling.
It's bad enough you claim your father is from Africa (which is akin to me saying I'm from North America) right after talking about knowing all about your lineage on your father's side. And now this? Like I said, excellent trolling.

I do not want to say which country because it is not one of the more common ones you hear about like Ghana, Nigeria or Ethiopia. So if I named the country considering the other details I provided it may be easy to personally identify me.

Oh please. This area has people from all over Africa, including the little country Cape Verde. You are not an only anything.

So much of what OP is saying about AA is untrue, unintelligent and just plan ignorant. She is not a white woman trapped in a Black woman's body, she is an idiot trapped in a human's body.

[Anonymous]

This blog post about a transracial adoptee being "the Whitest Black Person I know" made me think of this thread. Good reading for the OP.
http://lightofdaystories.com/2015/01/04/you-are-like-the-whitest-black-person-i-know/

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Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

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