I am a White Woman Trapped in a Black Woman's Body! AMA

[Incognita]

Anonymous wrote:

Incognita wrote:OP I'm not understanding what you mean by being a white woman trapped in a black woman's body. Nothing you have said so far is attributed to either race. Clarify what specifically is it that makes you not black? The type of music you listen to, the neighborhood you live in, nor who you socialize other make you black or white in the way you've described.

I am a mixed race immigrant, I mostly identify as black, I live in a white neighborhood, have mostly white friends, am a nerd, didn't fit in with AA when I first moved here, etc., the list goes on. I have never felt like I was a white woman trapped in a black woman's body. It sounds like you are stereotyping yourself, it sounds really strange. Be careful what you're teaching your daughter, you shouldn't make your identity based on whether you like pop music or hip hop...

Maybe because you are a black immigrant.

Elaborate

[Anonymous]

In a room where the majority of people are AAs and there is a sprinkling of whites, who do you hang out with? Assuming you don't know anyone there.

[Anonymous]

Incognita wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Incognita wrote:OP I'm not understanding what you mean by being a white woman trapped in a black woman's body. Nothing you have said so far is attributed to either race. Clarify what specifically is it that makes you not black? The type of music you listen to, the neighborhood you live in, nor who you socialize other make you black or white in the way you've described.

I am a mixed race immigrant, I mostly identify as black, I live in a white neighborhood, have mostly white friends, am a nerd, didn't fit in with AA when I first moved here, etc., the list goes on. I have never felt like I was a white woman trapped in a black woman's body. It sounds like you are stereotyping yourself, it sounds really strange. Be careful what you're teaching your daughter, you shouldn't make your identity based on whether you like pop music or hip hop...

Maybe because you are a black immigrant.

Elaborate

How long have you been in the US? Do you view AAs differently from immigrant blacks? OP is AA because she was born and raised here but she doesn't fit in with that group. But as a mixed race immigrant, you do not have that commonality with AAs and your identity probably was formed before you got here.

[Anonymous]

Why do you think your a white woman? What is it that white woman do/have that you perceive as uniquely theirs and common to you?

[Anonymous]

OP seems to be of a middle class outlook, which is maybe where she is meeting the white people she feels comfortable with.

[Incognita]

Anonymous wrote:

Incognita wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Incognita wrote:OP I'm not understanding what you mean by being a white woman trapped in a black woman's body. Nothing you have said so far is attributed to either race. Clarify what specifically is it that makes you not black? The type of music you listen to, the neighborhood you live in, nor who you socialize other make you black or white in the way you've described.

I am a mixed race immigrant, I mostly identify as black, I live in a white neighborhood, have mostly white friends, am a nerd, didn't fit in with AA when I first moved here, etc., the list goes on. I have never felt like I was a white woman trapped in a black woman's body. It sounds like you are stereotyping yourself, it sounds really strange. Be careful what you're teaching your daughter, you shouldn't make your identity based on whether you like pop music or hip hop...

Maybe because you are a black immigrant.

Elaborate

How long have you been in the US? Do you view AAs differently from immigrant blacks? OP is AA because she was born and raised here but she doesn't fit in with that group. But as a mixed race immigrant, you do not have that commonality with AAs and your identity probably was formed before you got here.

I came here as a pre-teen. I don't think my identity was formed prior to. I have majority white friends as a product of where I went to school and where I live. I still identify as black inside and out. I don't have commonality with people from the same region as me sometimes, I don't have commonality with many immigrant blacks from other regions too, specifically African ones. I don't view people differently based on what group, I see stark differences within immigrant groups and within the AA community. What I am saying is because you don't fit a stereotype, that doesn't make you white, it's called not fitting a stereotype. I just don't understand why any of the characteristics listed means you are white, I have many AA friends who share my interests and some who don't really. I don't identify myself as white because some of my white friends are nerds or any other reason. That sounds like someone who literally sees in black and white and put people into boxes. Even in your response you are saying all AAs are the same. Likewise OP is stereotyping herself, no one has to do it for her.

Like the question above, sprinkled with white people, mostly black. If you don't know anyone there why in the world would that make you decide who to speak to based on their skin tone? I would talk to any and all and I'm sure there would be awesome convo or assholes in both groups.

[Anonymous]

Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

Come on, OP is just having little fun. I doubt she is a woman to begin with...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

Plus she hasn't been answering any of the more compelling questions. I smell a rat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

Plus she hasn't been answering any of the more compelling questions. I smell a rat.

a large white rat trapped in a black rat's body, maybe?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

+1 I'm an aa woman who also went to private school, grew up in a white neighborhood, listen to alt/pop/rock and hip hop in equal measure, and have some 'nerdy' interests. Yet I would never dream of characterizing myself the way OP does.

[Incognita]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

+1 I'm an aa woman who also went to private school, grew up in a white neighborhood, listen to alt/pop/rock and hip hop in equal measure, and have some 'nerdy' interests. Yet I would never dream of characterizing myself the way OP does.

+1 To you both.

[Anonymous]

Incognita wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

+1 I'm an aa woman who also went to private school, grew up in a white neighborhood, listen to alt/pop/rock and hip hop in equal measure, and have some 'nerdy' interests. Yet I would never dream of characterizing myself the way OP does.

+1 To you both.

eh. +1 to the OP for rejecting aspects of the culture that seems to glorify destructive choices.

[Anonymous]

OP where are you hiding? You have yet to answer the questions that was presented to you. Come out and play with us. http://youtu.be/CMbI7DmLCNI and http://youtu.be/NwwY9y6O3hw

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP where are you hiding? You have yet to answer the questions that was presented to you. Come out and play with us. http://youtu.be/CMbI7DmLCNI and http://youtu.be/NwwY9y6O3hw

in a white woman's body.