I am a White Woman Trapped in a Black Woman's Body! AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I find you interesting because you sound similar to me.

I have the following questions to ask you:
Did you ever get bullied by African Americans? For instance, do they labeled you as an Oreo, whitewashed, sellout, because you don't act like a stereotypical black American woman?
Are white people puzzled by you because you don't act like a stereotypical black woman? Do they say things like, "Oh, you're so different." or "I would have never assumed that you like XYZ" because they can't wrap their brains around the fact that black people aren't a monolithic group.
When you're in predominately black social settings do you stick out like a sore thumb? For instance, does your tastes in music, hobbies, and food cuisine differ than most African Americans? Do you often times find yourself puzzled or completely out of touch with the conversations that you have with African Americans?
Do you feel more accepted by white Americans or African Americans?
What is your religion?
What types of music do you like?
What is your political afifliation?
If you could pick any country to live in besides the USA, what would it be?
Are you into the classics like literature, art, etc.?
Does your daughter attend a private or a public school?

Yes, I was bullied when I was younger by AA kids and called many slurs related to the country where my dad is from.
I don't know if white people are puzzled by me but I sense they are surprised at how open I am to forming friendships/relationships and that sometimes I share their views on certain thing.
I wouldn't say I stick out like a sore thumb but the only AA women I seem to really get along with are the ones who have an almost identical background to me.
Growing up I definitely felt more accepted by White Americans. Now I would say I am equally accepted but just feel I don't have that much in common with many AA women.
I am Catholic.
I like all types of music, from country to rap.
I would love to live in France (have family there and visit frequently).
Yes - art in particular.
My daughter attends a private school but will go to public school next year.
What area in DC do you reside in?

Now if you had to invite Michelle Obama or Condoleezza Rice over your house for dinner, then who would you invite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I do not alter my appearance to look white and have no desire to. Plus I have a daughter and want to serve as a good example to her so she will hopefully love her appearance. However I grew up in all white neighborhoods and went to all white schools. I now live in a predominantly white neighborhood.

I had the same experience in the 80's and 90's, the first person to call me an oreo was a white boy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

+1 I'm an aa woman who also went to private school, grew up in a white neighborhood, listen to alt/pop/rock and hip hop in equal measure, and have some 'nerdy' interests. Yet I would never dream of characterizing myself the way OP does.

+1 To you both.

eh. +1 to the OP for rejecting aspects of the culture that seems to glorify destructive choices.

What I find interesting is that the bad behavior of black people is somehow considered our culture. Why is our culture defined by our lower class folks? Is white culture meth and heroin addiction, pedophilia and white collar crime?

Fair points. Probably just statistics and power of popular culture and entertainment

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We really need more black nerds! Why do you think the countervailing perception is that AA's shy away from academia?

I am not sure. But I presume that the black nerds that do exist are usually the children of Blacks of a higher socioeconomic status. It would not be "cool" to be a nerd just like it's not cool among white kids.

Not true. If by nerd you mean smart students, your assumption is inaccurate. I grew up in the projects of DC and knew many "gifted and talented" students. If you really mean "dork", they too cross all races.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Incognita wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Black woman here and I find something distasteful in your posts, OP. Not sure what it is, but...not cute.

+1 I'm an aa woman who also went to private school, grew up in a white neighborhood, listen to alt/pop/rock and hip hop in equal measure, and have some 'nerdy' interests. Yet I would never dream of characterizing myself the way OP does.

+1 To you both.

eh. +1 to the OP for rejecting aspects of the culture that seems to glorify destructive choices.

What I find interesting is that the bad behavior of black people is somehow considered our culture. Why is our culture defined by our lower class folks? Is white culture meth and heroin addiction, pedophilia and white collar crime?

Fair points. Probably just statistics and power of popular culture and entertainment

Not buying it. Folks see and believe what they want to see and believe. It's funny to me that the folks who proclaim to detest ignorance are usually ignorant themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Chitlins?

(Not OP) most black peope under 50 don't eat chitlins. Gross

[Anonymous]

Something is very Troll-like about this OP/thread.

I could say I understand what it's like to be AA and I don't often like the same things many of my peers like but I never feel "white". That is bizarre.
I actually find foreign blacks more fun and interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something is very Troll-like about this OP/thread.

I could say I understand what it's like to be AA and I don't often like the same things many of my peers like but I never feel "white". That is bizarre.
I actually find foreign blacks more fun and interesting.

Your comment is pretty troll-like, too. FWIW, foreign folks of any race are usually more interesting than generic Americans. Probably something to do with them being different.

[Anonymous]

This is OP. I am sorry if other black women find my post distasteful but this is how I feel. If we were to compare ourselves, many of you AA women have probably done more to appear white and be accepted by white society than me (if I have even done this at all). I wear my hair natural, have never bleached my skin or hair to a lighter color and have never worn a weave. Because my father is not from this country, I have no ancestors on his side who were slaves, so I know everything about my heritage on that side of the family and am very proud of my ethnicity. However, I relate more to, have more in common with and feel more comfortable around white American women than AA women. I am not sure why my perception about MYSELF offends you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I am sorry if other black women find my post distasteful but this is how I feel. If we were to compare ourselves, many of you AA women have probably done more to appear white and be accepted by white society than me (if I have even done this at all). I wear my hair natural, have never bleached my skin or hair to a lighter color and have never worn a weave. Because my father is not from this country, I have no ancestors on his side who were slaves, so I know everything about my heritage on that side of the family and am very proud of my ethnicity. However, I relate more to, have more in common with and feel more comfortable around white American women than AA women. I am not sure why my perception about MYSELF offends you.

Hmmm..the bad taste in my mouth continues.

Now, you turn combative against black women who don't agree with you. I'm starting to see who the problem is here.

FWIW, relaxing your hair, wearing weaves and bleaching your skin does not necessarily mean you are conforming to white society. It's fantastic that you know your heritage. Rather than belittle AAs because you claim not to have anything in common with us, perhaps you should instead give THANKS. It is because of the struggles and sacrifice of AAs that your immigrant father was even afforded the opportunity to come to the US.

The more you type, the more I see how you have many things in common with some white people. But, NOT the sort of white people you should want to have a connection with...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Something is very Troll-like about this OP/thread.

I could say I understand what it's like to be AA and I don't often like the same things many of my peers like but I never feel "white". That is bizarre.
I actually find foreign blacks more fun and interesting.

Your comment is pretty troll-like, too. FWIW, foreign folks of any race are usually more interesting than generic Americans. Probably something to do with them being different.

That's how you interpret it-well ok.
I just like the foods, customs and celebrations better that's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something is very Troll-like about this OP/thread.

I could say I understand what it's like to be AA and I don't often like the same things many of my peers like but I never feel "white". That is bizarre.
I actually find foreign blacks more fun and interesting.

Your comment is pretty troll-like, too. FWIW, foreign folks of any race are usually more interesting than generic Americans. Probably something to do with them being different.

That's how you interpret it-well ok.
I just like the foods, customs and celebrations better that's all.

Examples?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I am sorry if other black women find my post distasteful but this is how I feel. If we were to compare ourselves, many of you AA women have probably done more to appear white and be accepted by white society than me (if I have even done this at all). I wear my hair natural, have never bleached my skin or hair to a lighter color and have never worn a weave. Because my father is not from this country, I have no ancestors on his side who were slaves, so I know everything about my heritage on that side of the family and am very proud of my ethnicity. However, I relate more to, have more in common with and feel more comfortable around white American women than AA women. I am not sure why my perception about MYSELF offends you.

From where did your father emigrate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something is very Troll-like about this OP/thread.

I could say I understand what it's like to be AA and I don't often like the same things many of my peers like but I never feel "white". That is bizarre.
I actually find foreign blacks more fun and interesting.

Your comment is pretty troll-like, too. FWIW, foreign folks of any race are usually more interesting than generic Americans. Probably something to do with them being different.

That's how you interpret it-well ok.
I just like the foods, customs and celebrations better that's all.

Examples?

Nigerian weddings
Haitian food
West Indian parties for starters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something is very Troll-like about this OP/thread.

I could say I understand what it's like to be AA and I don't often like the same things many of my peers like but I never feel "white". That is bizarre.
I actually find foreign blacks more fun and interesting.

Your comment is pretty troll-like, too. FWIW, foreign folks of any race are usually more interesting than generic Americans. Probably something to do with them being different.

That's how you interpret it-well ok.
I just like the foods, customs and celebrations better that's all.

Examples?

Nigerian weddings
Haitian food
West Indian parties for starters.

All of the places you reference have some VERY dark parts in their culture that's not exactly fun and interesting. I wonder why you embrace the positives in foreign blacks while ignoring the bad, yet you seem to do the very opposite with AAs?