Is This the Norm? My Husband Says I’m Wrong

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

It's the reason he doesn't want to bring you and they don't want you to be there.

Your husband should take your son on vacation. But he does not want to. I dunno. Other than talking with him, I think you're stuck.

I’m fine with not being there, but I don’t like that he chooses them to vacation with vs us. And he refuses to let us vacation together at a later time and also refuses to allow me and my son to vacation together without him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

It's the reason he doesn't want to bring you and they don't want you to be there.

Your husband should take your son on vacation. But he does not want to. I dunno. Other than talking with him, I think you're stuck.

I’m fine with not being there, but I don’t like that he chooses them to vacation with vs us. And he refuses to let us vacation together at a later time and also refuses to allow me and my son to vacation together without him.

How are you not getting that this isn't workable? This marriage is done unless you want to be a doormat the rest of your life. As was stated many pages ago, he doesn't respect you and doesn't appear to care about your son. He will let you care for him in old age then leave his estate to the original 3 kids. You need to protect your son. Stay 10 years. Get an education. Then get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Well you are the second wife so he came with obligations to the first. You and your son should take a vacation just the two of you. I would also start saving for a divorce attorney. You deserve better. I would rather be alone than put up with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus OP you are 27!!! Once you post your profile on OLD there will a long line of 40+ men wanting to pay your rent, take you on vacations. Kid or no kid.

Don’t waste your time ! I’m damn serous and I’m a 49 yo woman

These age gap relationships only are fair to women if men pay up.

Don’t waste your time and youth on this dude. You can find someone who will write checks for your education, but you a nice house if you are remotely decent looking and thin.

Why do people assume all 20 somethings are hot? Most are filled with fillers and Botox and look 50

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

It's the reason he doesn't want to bring you and they don't want you to be there.

Your husband should take your son on vacation. But he does not want to. I dunno. Other than talking with him, I think you're stuck.

I’m fine with not being there, but I don’t like that he chooses them to vacation with vs us. And he refuses to let us vacation together at a later time and also refuses to allow me and my son to vacation together without him.

Because he is a bad, controlling husband who treats you and your son badly! That is what this is. You need to plan your exit.

[Anonymous]

It’s not normal that a 19 yo got pregnant by a 40 yo.

Get divorced and go on vacations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

It's the reason he doesn't want to bring you and they don't want you to be there.

Your husband should take your son on vacation. But he does not want to. I dunno. Other than talking with him, I think you're stuck.

I’m fine with not being there, but I don’t like that he chooses them to vacation with vs us. And he refuses to let us vacation together at a later time and [b]also refuses to allow me and my son to vacation together without him.

Too bad. Just book it and go on a vacation with your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

It's the reason he doesn't want to bring you and they don't want you to be there.

Your husband should take your son on vacation. But he does not want to. I dunno. Other than talking with him, I think you're stuck.

I’m fine with not being there, but I don’t like that he chooses them to vacation with vs us. And he refuses to let us vacation together at a later time and also refuses to allow me and my son to vacation together without him.

What type of vacations are we talking about? 5 star trips to Europe or camping nearby? Do you have zero control over your money and aren’t allowed to book a trip for yourself and your son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

You are coming off like a dense fool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM will you find people insisting it’s perfectly fine for a married man to go on vacation with his ex-wife, while married to a younger wife (the same man who sucks and was abusive as husband). That’s not normal, and it’s not appropriate. And the argument about “prioritizing the kids” misses the point—his 8-year-old is still a young, dependent child, not a fully grown adult like his other kids. Meanwhile, OP isn’t some secondary figure; she’s his wife, and their son is also his minor child. They’re not a “second family”—they’re his immediate family now. If he’s not getting back with his ex-wife, then there’s no reason for them to be vacationing together.

Ding ding ding

I was thinking the same thing. His current wife and minor child are his family. His ex-wife is former family. His older children will always be his children. They are adults. They can come visit their dad anytime alone or as a group without their mother.

The people defending the the not so dear husband,are off their rockers.

Lame sock puppet. Not the twist you want given how outlandish you made the OP character

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Only on DCUM will you find people insisting it’s perfectly fine for a married man to go on vacation with his ex-wife, while married to a younger wife (the same man who sucks and was abusive as husband). That’s not normal, and it’s not appropriate. And the argument about “prioritizing the kids” misses the point—his 8-year-old is still a young, dependent child, not a fully grown adult like his other kids. Meanwhile, OP isn’t some secondary figure; she’s his wife, and their son is also his minor child. They’re not a “second family”—they’re his immediate family now. If he’s not getting back with his ex-wife, then there’s no reason for them to be vacationing together.

Ding ding ding

I was thinking the same thing. His current wife and minor child are his family. His ex-wife is former family. His older children will always be his children. They are adults. They can come visit their dad anytime alone or as a group without their mother.

The people defending the the not so dear husband,are off their rockers.

People also seem to be ignoring the fact that the 8 yr old is a sibling to the 20somethings, like it or not.

Awww, so cute. They must have so many coparenting memories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

I know! Like what gives!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not normal that a 19 yo got pregnant by a 40 yo.

Get divorced and go on vacations.

She was horny and had daddy issues - and the saggy balls was her daddy's age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

You are coming off like a dense fool.

She got knocked up at 18 by a 40-year old man with kids her own age. Clearly not the sharpest tool in the shed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand why people keep bringing up age, because that is not the main point of my post. What I really need is advice on how to handle this situation with my husband and how to make things right for my my son. OP

You are coming off like a dense fool.

She got knocked up at 18 by a 40-year old man with kids her own age. Clearly not the sharpest tool in the shed.

And now, predictably, he wants to spend his limited vacation time with his first wife and adult children. She is not invited, he doesn’t want another vacation with her and their child, and she can’t vacation with the kid alone. If only someone could have warned her in that nightclub when she was in high school not to take the drinks from the 40 year old divorced dad.