DD dyed her hair pink and I’m not mad but am concerned

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well adjusted people don’t dye their hair non-natural colors. They don’t get nose rings either. People pretending otherwise are silly.

If OP is still reading, I’d be concerned too. Did she do it at home? The other issue is that she is sneaking around and hiding stuff. What else is she hiding, I would want to know. I’d start doing phone checks at night if you aren’t already.

How are her grades? Her friend circle? This is most likely influenced by another person she knows. Is she college-bound?

This nonsense makes me want to dye my 17 year old’s hair bright pink myself.

Have fun. But normal kids don’t do that. Stop gaslighting.

I’m not gaslighting. We just have different ideas of what a “normal kid” is.

It’s really harmful to assume that kids who like hair dye or goth makeup or whatever are obviously mentally ill. Believe me, there are tons of kids with mental health problems blending in to the crowd.

There isn’t a single kid at our high school with non-natural hair color or goth makeup that hangs out with the mainstream kids. They hang out with the goth kids or the “furries” or whatever. Any parent saying that doesn’t concern them seems deluded. I think it’s harmful to act like there is “nothing to see here.” Parents who do this feel like they are really forcing the “it’s fine”-ness of it.

[Anonymous]

If you want to be an outliner, you're going to be an outliner. Then, don't be surprised you're an outliner and are treated that way

Until most kids have tattoos, dye their hair and have piercings and the majority of the big wide world does does -- you're an outliner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you want to be an outliner, you're going to be an outliner. Then, don't be surprised you're an outliner and are treated that way

Until most kids have tattoos, dye their hair and have piercings and the majority of the big wide world does does -- you're an outliner.

What is an outliner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well adjusted people don’t dye their hair non-natural colors. They don’t get nose rings either. People pretending otherwise are silly.

If OP is still reading, I’d be concerned too. Did she do it at home? The other issue is that she is sneaking around and hiding stuff. What else is she hiding, I would want to know. I’d start doing phone checks at night if you aren’t already.

How are her grades? Her friend circle? This is most likely influenced by another person she knows. Is she college-bound?

This nonsense makes me want to dye my 17 year old’s hair bright pink myself.

Have fun. But normal kids don’t do that. Stop gaslighting.

I’m not gaslighting. We just have different ideas of what a “normal kid” is.

It’s really harmful to assume that kids who like hair dye or goth makeup or whatever are obviously mentally ill. Believe me, there are tons of kids with mental health problems blending in to the crowd.

There isn’t a single kid at our high school with non-natural hair color or goth makeup that hangs out with the mainstream kids. They hang out with the goth kids or the “furries” or whatever. Any parent saying that doesn’t concern them seems deluded. I think it’s harmful to act like there is “nothing to see here.” Parents who do this feel like they are really forcing the “it’s fine”-ness of it.

You sound like you live in a very weird bubble. You have furries at your kid's high school?

Or you're just trolling, which is dull.

[Anonymous]

I had no idea that DCUM was this relentlessly conventional.

Y’all have no idea how ridiculous you sound. Dying your hair means you want hair that’s a particular color. That’s it.

Alt fashion is not a crime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well adjusted people don’t dye their hair non-natural colors. They don’t get nose rings either. People pretending otherwise are silly.

If OP is still reading, I’d be concerned too. Did she do it at home? The other issue is that she is sneaking around and hiding stuff. What else is she hiding, I would want to know. I’d start doing phone checks at night if you aren’t already.

How are her grades? Her friend circle? This is most likely influenced by another person she knows. Is she college-bound?

This nonsense makes me want to dye my 17 year old’s hair bright pink myself.

Have fun. But normal kids don’t do that. Stop gaslighting.

I’m not gaslighting. We just have different ideas of what a “normal kid” is.

It’s really harmful to assume that kids who like hair dye or goth makeup or whatever are obviously mentally ill. Believe me, there are tons of kids with mental health problems blending in to the crowd.

There isn’t a single kid at our high school with non-natural hair color or goth makeup that hangs out with the mainstream kids. They hang out with the goth kids or the “furries” or whatever. Any parent saying that doesn’t concern them seems deluded. I think it’s harmful to act like there is “nothing to see here.” Parents who do this feel like they are really forcing the “it’s fine”-ness of it.

And? What’s your point? High school kids are cliquey. That doesn’t mean that one group is obviously more mentally ill than another. They’re just into different things.

My own high school senior looks totally mainstream but is in a visual arts magnet program, and her close friend group is pretty evenly balanced between “normal looking” kids like her and kids with bright colored hair, nose rings, and/or goth makeup. I’ve gotten to know these kids very well over four years and they are all amazing kids. I never once have worried about them getting into trouble when they hang out. No drinking, no drugs, nothing like that. They’re really great kids, all of them.

Just try getting to know people before you make assumptions based on their outward appearances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well adjusted people don’t dye their hair non-natural colors. They don’t get nose rings either. People pretending otherwise are silly.

If OP is still reading, I’d be concerned too. Did she do it at home? The other issue is that she is sneaking around and hiding stuff. What else is she hiding, I would want to know. I’d start doing phone checks at night if you aren’t already.

How are her grades? Her friend circle? This is most likely influenced by another person she knows. Is she college-bound?

This nonsense makes me want to dye my 17 year old’s hair bright pink myself.

Have fun. But normal kids don’t do that. Stop gaslighting.

I’m not gaslighting. We just have different ideas of what a “normal kid” is.

It’s really harmful to assume that kids who like hair dye or goth makeup or whatever are obviously mentally ill. Believe me, there are tons of kids with mental health problems blending in to the crowd.

There isn’t a single kid at our high school with non-natural hair color or goth makeup that hangs out with the mainstream kids. They hang out with the goth kids or the “furries” or whatever. Any parent saying that doesn’t concern them seems deluded. I think it’s harmful to act like there is “nothing to see here.” Parents who do this feel like they are really forcing the “it’s fine”-ness of it.

And? What’s your point? High school kids are cliquey. That doesn’t mean that one group is obviously more mentally ill than another. They’re just into different things.

My own high school senior looks totally mainstream but is in a visual arts magnet program, and her close friend group is pretty evenly balanced between “normal looking” kids like her and kids with bright colored hair, nose rings, and/or goth makeup. I’ve gotten to know these kids very well over four years and they are all amazing kids. I never once have worried about them getting into trouble when they hang out. No drinking, no drugs, nothing like that. They’re really great kids, all of them.

Just try getting to know people before you make assumptions based on their outward appearances.

I really can't believe they just wrote that (well I can, but how can anyone be so oblivious).

[Anonymous]

To be clear, these "goth" kids don't want to hang out with the "mainstream" kids. It's probably a solid choice for them with attitudes like the pp.

[Anonymous]

This is the oddest post. Colorful hair has become downright mainstream. It’s not even chemical-based; it’s non-toxic and washes out in weeks. She’ll be left with bleached hair (the only annoying part, because it looks yellow unless you keep coloring it). When my daughter got colorful highlights, the color washed out quickly and she was left with pretty blond highlights. This is just - nothing. It has to be a farce post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well adjusted people don’t dye their hair non-natural colors. They don’t get nose rings either. People pretending otherwise are silly.

If OP is still reading, I’d be concerned too. Did she do it at home? The other issue is that she is sneaking around and hiding stuff. What else is she hiding, I would want to know. I’d start doing phone checks at night if you aren’t already.

How are her grades? Her friend circle? This is most likely influenced by another person she knows. Is she college-bound?

I agree with you 100%.

[Anonymous]

We JUST had this thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well adjusted people don’t dye their hair non-natural colors. They don’t get nose rings either. People pretending otherwise are silly.

If OP is still reading, I’d be concerned too. Did she do it at home? The other issue is that she is sneaking around and hiding stuff. What else is she hiding, I would want to know. I’d start doing phone checks at night if you aren’t already.

How are her grades? Her friend circle? This is most likely influenced by another person she knows. Is she college-bound?

I agree with you 100%.

IYKYK.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the oddest post. Colorful hair has become downright mainstream. It’s not even chemical-based; it’s non-toxic and washes out in weeks. She’ll be left with bleached hair (the only annoying part, because it looks yellow unless you keep coloring it). When my daughter got colorful highlights, the color washed out quickly and she was left with pretty blond highlights. This is just - nothing. It has to be a farce post.

You can also buy dyes that last a couple weeks and don't require pre-bleaching. We used to do those al the time when I was a teenager.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well adjusted people don’t dye their hair non-natural colors. They don’t get nose rings either. People pretending otherwise are silly.

If OP is still reading, I’d be concerned too. Did she do it at home? The other issue is that she is sneaking around and hiding stuff. What else is she hiding, I would want to know. I’d start doing phone checks at night if you aren’t already.

How are her grades? Her friend circle? This is most likely influenced by another person she knows. Is she college-bound?

This nonsense makes me want to dye my 17 year old’s hair bright pink myself.

Have fun. But normal kids don’t do that. Stop gaslighting.

I’m not gaslighting. We just have different ideas of what a “normal kid” is.

It’s really harmful to assume that kids who like hair dye or goth makeup or whatever are obviously mentally ill. Believe me, there are tons of kids with mental health problems blending in to the crowd.

There isn’t a single kid at our high school with non-natural hair color or goth makeup that hangs out with the mainstream kids. They hang out with the goth kids or the “furries” or whatever. Any parent saying that doesn’t concern them seems deluded. I think it’s harmful to act like there is “nothing to see here.” Parents who do this feel like they are really forcing the “it’s fine”-ness of it.

You sound like you live in a very weird bubble. You have furries at your kid's high school?

Or you're just trolling, which is dull.

I know a couple of school districts near usike this. I would never send my kids there even though we considered them. There is a narrow area of acceptability and everything different is considered abnormal.

The PP probably paid good money to subject her kids to that environment so I don't want to knock her for her ignorance. If iy she would be more quiet we would never know

[Anonymous]

Did we not have this exact same post but with a Mohawk recently? Troll.