DD dyed her hair pink and I’m not mad but am concerned
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Anonymous
| DD 16 dyed her hair pink. To be fair I never told her she couldn’t, but she went and did it. I don’t necessarily feel the need to punish her, it’s really not that big a deal, but I do find this worrying. Maybe I wouldn’t if it was just a streak or something but dyeing ALL your hair (which she did) is what I would deem a cry for help. However, she seems her normal cheerful self, but due to the hair choices I know that’s not the case. Or at least I suspect it’s not the case. I don’t know. Maybe I shouldn’t intervene? Thoughts? |
Anonymous
| Are you serious? Who cares? |
Anonymous
If my child did this they would be grounded. If anything OP’s response is tame. |
Anonymous
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Worrying why? Intervene in what?
No matter what your kid's hair color is, support them, ask how they REALLY are, and care about that. |
Anonymous
Wait help he understand. Grounded why? |
Anonymous
| Why do you believe that dyeing your hair pink is a cry for help? |
Anonymous
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Does she like it?
If she's happy, that would be okay for me |
Anonymous
Her church friends would disapprove and think she's a bad mom |
Anonymous
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Your cheerful pink-haired daughter is crying for help? What?
Did you ask her what spurred the change? Because your post makes very little sense. Changing your hair in your teens is a pretty classic way to assert your independence, it's developmentally appropriate, not permanent, and the choice she made (fun dye color, not shaving her head anything) seems not at all alarming. |
Anonymous
OP here. Yes I do. When I was growing up this was the conventionally accepted belief in that time and place. That dyeing your hair an unnatural color is a sign of deeper problems. |
Anonymous
| I would care. It's weird. Sorry for your worry OP. I would worry too. How did she have this done? She drove herself in your car and spent money she has received from you to do this? If it happened at home, I would suspect instead you would know what is happening in your own home. |
Anonymous
I asked why. "When I was growing up, lots of people believed that" is not a particularly good basis for any belief. People believe all kinds of nonsense. |
Anonymous
| SO many teens and young adults have colorful hair nowadays. My kid likes to dye her bangs a color consistent with the season or events she has coming up. They look great; they are her signature style. I’m not understanding what you think is wrong with this, especially in 2026. |
Anonymous
| I would march her back to get it fixed. Or no car. And no spending money |
Anonymous
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Some of you have never bought dark towels to minimize Manic Panic cleanup, and it shows.
OP sounds like you've got a 16 year old daughter who has never given you a single thing to worry about. Congratulations on hitting the lottery, and stop looking for trouble to borrow. |