DD dyed her hair pink and I’m not mad but am concerned

[Anonymous]

I would many parents clutching their pearls at teenage hair dyeing went and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy. At least a teenager has agency and the change is temporary.

[Anonymous]

If a person applied for a job at my employer, and showed up with pink hair or a pig-style nose ring, no one on the interview committee would take them seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would many parents clutching their pearls at teenage hair dyeing went and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy. At least a teenager has agency and the change is temporary.

Wow. You wrote

“ and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy.”


You are both culturally-ignorant and racially offensive.

Care to retract your statement, or do you want to try for the trifecta?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would many parents clutching their pearls at teenage hair dyeing went and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy. At least a teenager has agency and the change is temporary.

Wow. You wrote

“ and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy.”


You are both culturally-ignorant and racially offensive.

Care to retract your statement, or do you want to try for the trifecta?

No. Piercing a baby is trashy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would many parents clutching their pearls at teenage hair dyeing went and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy. At least a teenager has agency and the change is temporary.

Wow. You wrote

“ and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy.”


You are both culturally-ignorant and racially offensive.

Care to retract your statement, or do you want to try for the trifecta?

No. Piercing a baby is trashy.

Let’s survey that, shall we?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a person applied for a job at my employer, and showed up with pink hair or a pig-style nose ring, no one on the interview committee would take them seriously.

How many 16 year old olds are vetted by interview committees at your place of employment?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If a person applied for a job at my employer, and showed up with pink hair or a pig-style nose ring, no one on the interview committee would take them seriously.

How many 16 year old olds are vetted by interview committees at your place of employment?

That was my first thought too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD 16 dyed her hair pink. To be fair I never told her she couldn’t, but she went and did it. I don’t necessarily feel the need to punish her, it’s really not that big a deal, but I do find this worrying. Maybe I wouldn’t if it was just a streak or something but dyeing ALL your hair (which she did) is what I would deem a cry for help. However, she seems her normal cheerful self, but due to the hair choices I know that’s not the case. Or at least I suspect it’s not the case. I don’t know. Maybe I shouldn’t intervene? Thoughts?

If we were talking about a petulant middle-school child, then this would not be so concerning.

But the girl in this instance is 16. By that age, I expect a higher level of maturity; both on account of going behind my back as well as making poor choices of this nature.

Yes this does appear to be some sort of cry for help. Hopefully you can find the right assistance to get this girl’s life back on track and her life in order.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to be an outliner, you're going to be an outliner. Then, don't be surprised you're an outliner and are treated that way

Until most kids have tattoos, dye their hair and have piercings and the majority of the big wide world does does -- you're an outliner.

What is an outliner?

Malcom Gladwell wrote a book on them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD 16 dyed her hair pink. To be fair I never told her she couldn’t, but she went and did it. I don’t necessarily feel the need to punish her, it’s really not that big a deal, but I do find this worrying. Maybe I wouldn’t if it was just a streak or something but dyeing ALL your hair (which she did) is what I would deem a cry for help. However, she seems her normal cheerful self, but due to the hair choices I know that’s not the case. Or at least I suspect it’s not the case. I don’t know. Maybe I shouldn’t intervene? Thoughts?

If we were talking about a petulant middle-school child, then this would not be so concerning.

But the girl in this instance is 16. By that age, I expect a higher level of maturity; both on account of going behind my back as well as making poor choices of this nature.

Yes this does appear to be some sort of cry for help. Hopefully you can find the right assistance to get this girl’s life back on track and her life in order.

Good lord. I want to see the look on the therapist’s face when they hears that the main issue is pink hair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? Who cares?

If my child did this they would be grounded. If anything OP’s response is tame.

Wait help he understand. Grounded why?

Her church friends would disapprove and think she's a bad mom

Close. Her temple friends would disapprove.

+1 LOL. You aren’t pinning this particular overreaction on white people. Not today Satan.

You are nuts. You mean Hindu?

Do you know the process of stripping color from black/dark brown hair and how long it takes before you can have pink?

There is no way OP wouldn't be aware that her Indian kid wasn't having her hair dyed pink not to mention the cost

Also she is way to laid back about it to be an Indian mom who doesn't like pink hair

How sad this thread has turned into yet another hate-fest toward Asian/Indian people. It’s commonplace in College / University part of DCUM, so I guess it’s not surprising the same anti-Indian/Asian bigots are showing up here too.

So you don’t deny it. There are certain groups which haven’t assimilated to American cultural norms which are much more likely to freak out at pink hair.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD 16 dyed her hair pink. To be fair I never told her she couldn’t, but she went and did it. I don’t necessarily feel the need to punish her, it’s really not that big a deal, but I do find this worrying. Maybe I wouldn’t if it was just a streak or something but dyeing ALL your hair (which she did) is what I would deem a cry for help. However, she seems her normal cheerful self, but due to the hair choices I know that’s not the case. Or at least I suspect it’s not the case. I don’t know. Maybe I shouldn’t intervene? Thoughts?

If we were talking about a petulant middle-school child, then this would not be so concerning.

But the girl in this instance is 16. By that age, I expect a higher level of maturity; both on account of going behind my back as well as making poor choices of this nature.

Yes this does appear to be some sort of cry for help. Hopefully you can find the right assistance to get this girl’s life back on track and her life in order.

Good lord. I want to see the look on the therapist’s face when they hears that the main issue is pink hair.

It’s a symptom. It’s never the only thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? Who cares?

If my child did this they would be grounded. If anything OP’s response is tame.

Wait help he understand. Grounded why?

Her church friends would disapprove and think she's a bad mom

Close. Her temple friends would disapprove.

+1 LOL. You aren’t pinning this particular overreaction on white people. Not today Satan.

You are nuts. You mean Hindu?

Do you know the process of stripping color from black/dark brown hair and how long it takes before you can have pink?

There is no way OP wouldn't be aware that her Indian kid wasn't having her hair dyed pink not to mention the cost

Also she is way to laid back about it to be an Indian mom who doesn't like pink hair

How sad this thread has turned into yet another hate-fest toward Asian/Indian people. It’s commonplace in College / University part of DCUM, so I guess it’s not surprising the same anti-Indian/Asian bigots are showing up here too.

So you don’t deny it. There are certain groups which haven’t assimilated to American cultural norms which are much more likely to freak out at pink hair.

Nope. Religious extremists don't assimilate well to cultural norms. That's the issue no.matter what ethnicity they are.
Even Christian extremists.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? Who cares?

If my child did this they would be grounded. If anything OP’s response is tame.

Wait help he understand. Grounded why?

Her church friends would disapprove and think she's a bad mom

Close. Her temple friends would disapprove.

+1 LOL. You aren’t pinning this particular overreaction on white people. Not today Satan.

You are nuts. You mean Hindu?

Do you know the process of stripping color from black/dark brown hair and how long it takes before you can have pink?

There is no way OP wouldn't be aware that her Indian kid wasn't having her hair dyed pink not to mention the cost

Also she is way to laid back about it to be an Indian mom who doesn't like pink hair

How sad this thread has turned into yet another hate-fest toward Asian/Indian people. It’s commonplace in College / University part of DCUM, so I guess it’s not surprising the same anti-Indian/Asian bigots are showing up here too.

So you don’t deny it. There are certain groups which haven’t assimilated to American cultural norms which are much more likely to freak out at pink hair.

Pink hair is American cultural norm now? Since when?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD 16 dyed her hair pink. To be fair I never told her she couldn’t, but she went and did it. I don’t necessarily feel the need to punish her, it’s really not that big a deal, but I do find this worrying. Maybe I wouldn’t if it was just a streak or something but dyeing ALL your hair (which she did) is what I would deem a cry for help. However, she seems her normal cheerful self, but due to the hair choices I know that’s not the case. Or at least I suspect it’s not the case. I don’t know. Maybe I shouldn’t intervene? Thoughts?

If we were talking about a petulant middle-school child, then this would not be so concerning.

But the girl in this instance is 16. By that age, I expect a higher level of maturity; both on account of going behind my back as well as making poor choices of this nature.

Yes this does appear to be some sort of cry for help. Hopefully you can find the right assistance to get this girl’s life back on track and her life in order.

Good lord. I want to see the look on the therapist’s face when they hears that the main issue is pink hair.

It’s a symptom. It’s never the only thing.

A symptom of being fabulous.