DD dyed her hair pink and I’m not mad but am concerned

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Anonymous wrote:DD 16 dyed her hair pink. To be fair I never told her she couldn’t, but she went and did it. I don’t necessarily feel the need to punish her, it’s really not that big a deal, but I do find this worrying. Maybe I wouldn’t if it was just a streak or something but dyeing ALL your hair (which she did) is what I would deem a cry for help. However, she seems her normal cheerful self, but due to the hair choices I know that’s not the case. Or at least I suspect it’s not the case. I don’t know. Maybe I shouldn’t intervene? Thoughts?

If we were talking about a petulant middle-school child, then this would not be so concerning.

But the girl in this instance is 16. By that age, I expect a higher level of maturity; both on account of going behind my back as well as making poor choices of this nature.

Yes this does appear to be some sort of cry for help. Hopefully you can find the right assistance to get this girl’s life back on track and her life in order.

Good lord. I want to see the look on the therapist’s face when they hears that the main issue is pink hair.

It’s a symptom. It’s never the only thing.

A symptom of being fabulous.

Hmm, no.

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Pink is cute. Is it cute?

When I was 16 I dyed my hair jet black. THAT Was a cry for help

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Anonymous wrote:I would many parents clutching their pearls at teenage hair dyeing went and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy. At least a teenager has agency and the change is temporary.

Wow. You wrote

“ and pierced their baby's ears, something far more trashy.”


You are both culturally-ignorant and racially offensive.

Care to retract your statement, or do you want to try for the trifecta?

No. Piercing a baby is trashy.

Let’s survey that, shall we?

Trashy and intrusive. You don’t even know if the baby wants to be permanently altered with piercings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pink is cute. Is it cute?

When I was 16 I dyed my hair jet black. THAT Was a cry for help

At 12, it’s a phase and cute.

At 16 it’s a cry for help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD 16 dyed her hair pink. To be fair I never told her she couldn’t, but she went and did it. I don’t necessarily feel the need to punish her, it’s really not that big a deal, but I do find this worrying. Maybe I wouldn’t if it was just a streak or something but dyeing ALL your hair (which she did) is what I would deem a cry for help. However, she seems her normal cheerful self, but due to the hair choices I know that’s not the case. Or at least I suspect it’s not the case. I don’t know. Maybe I shouldn’t intervene? Thoughts?

It’s extremely difficult to find a good therapist for teens today, and only getting more difficult by the day. Good luck to you and to DD in this challenging situation, OP.

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Where is the father?

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I've dyed my hair "unnatural colors" many times, have an advanced graduate degree, am happy and productive, have plenty of friends, fulfilling hobbies etc. Currently, my hair is salt and pepper but I have a colleague (also with advanced degree) who has bright teal hair.
20 something DD is an engineer. She has dyed her hair several times and has a nose ring. No professional problems and I trust that if she had any, she'd deal with them.

A 16 year old is old enough for bodily autonomy and to experiment with the perils AND FUN of fashion.

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Anonymous wrote:Where is the father?

+1

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At 16 she's being edgy and rebellious (well, at least for this area.)

If she's still dyeing her hair odd colors at 24, she's either a artist or it's a cry for help.

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Anonymous wrote:I've dyed my hair "unnatural colors" many times, have an advanced graduate degree, am happy and productive, have plenty of friends, fulfilling hobbies etc. Currently, my hair is salt and pepper but I have a colleague (also with advanced degree) who has bright teal hair.
20 something DD is an engineer. She has dyed her hair several times and has a nose ring. No professional problems and I trust that if she had any, she'd deal with them.

A 16 year old is old enough for bodily autonomy and to experiment with the perils AND FUN of fashion.

“bodily autonomy” ??

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've dyed my hair "unnatural colors" many times, have an advanced graduate degree, am happy and productive, have plenty of friends, fulfilling hobbies etc. Currently, my hair is salt and pepper but I have a colleague (also with advanced degree) who has bright teal hair.
20 something DD is an engineer. She has dyed her hair several times and has a nose ring. No professional problems and I trust that if she had any, she'd deal with them.

A 16 year old is old enough for bodily autonomy and to experiment with the perils AND FUN of fashion.

“bodily autonomy” ??

Why the eye roll? Are you a pro-forced birther who thinks every woman should keep the products of conception?

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Hi OP!

Any update? Were you able to find appropriate mental-health support for DD?

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Who cares? Teen years are a good time to express yourself since you're not on a career track yet. My daughter's dad would freak out if daughter did this but I'd be cool with it. Hair dye washes out and grows out.

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It's good for her to get this fascination out of the way now than later, when she's in her late 20s / early 30s.

[Anonymous]

Nicole Ritchie’s daughter has pink hair. I think it’s cute! Ah, to be young!