First dates feel like job interviews

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First dates ARE interviews. Are you recently divorced or something? This is how it’s been for a while. First dates are about piecing together compatibility.

You want someone with a bachelors degree, why do you balk when they ask about college??

This is how it’s been when I was dating over 25 years ago. Women in their late 20s are looking for a husband, not for a casual date.

[Anonymous]

Another suggestion to OP is to exchange LinkedIn and give a real name before actually meeting. That way the woman already pre-screen him for basic compatibility items so the actual date can be more of “what you are looking for “ and “what your hobbies are “ thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another suggestion to OP is to exchange LinkedIn and give a real name before actually meeting. That way the woman already pre-screen him for basic compatibility items so the actual date can be more of “what you are looking for “ and “what your hobbies are “ thing.

Actually a woman who wants to see a LinkedIn page before meeting is to be avoided.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another suggestion to OP is to exchange LinkedIn and give a real name before actually meeting. That way the woman already pre-screen him for basic compatibility items so the actual date can be more of “what you are looking for “ and “what your hobbies are “ thing.

Actually a woman who wants to see a LinkedIn page before meeting is to be avoided.

Why ? The major dating site League and also Raya simply download LinkedIn profiles. I as a woman don’t mind giving my profile to a man I go on a date. Men who were hiding names, employment status were married, already had partners, were unemployed etc.

So you have anything to hide ? Do you try to sleep with women before giving your full background information ? Maybe that’s a problem

Dating is a social activity. I would never invite to my home a basic stranger whom I have no clue about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another suggestion to OP is to exchange LinkedIn and give a real name before actually meeting. That way the woman already pre-screen him for basic compatibility items so the actual date can be more of “what you are looking for “ and “what your hobbies are “ thing.

Actually a woman who wants to see a LinkedIn page before meeting is to be avoided.

Not really. A man hiding his occupation and yelling “BORING!” At his dates sure is though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
What’s wrong with sit down dinners ? Don’t you want to talk more to get to know her?
It just seems men like that try to avoid difficult questions about what they are seeking, their career, life aspirations etc. Trying to play it down to a sexy easy date with a hope of getting laid after.

As a woman I never have “activity” dates for the first intro. It’s always just a coffee date with me wearing my gym outfit on the way to my gym, so it fits into my other day plans.

What's wrong with sit down dinners? Only a woman would ask that. Going to eat is so expensive in 2025, especially in DC. I'm not shelling out for dinner until we're having sex. Period.

We can get to know each other just as well over a few drinks or something else face to face for a lot cheaper price. Sorry that hurts your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The transactional bromath of "I put in a dinner and I get a sex" has always been gross af.

Hate to break it to you, but sex between heterosexual men and women has always been transactional. Men want to spend as little money as possible to get laid while women try to extract (or at least have future promise) as much money from men as possible.

Look at the woman in the other thread whining about the non-committal f4ckbuddy. She's already put out for him a handful of times, and wants to go on dates, and he's telling her he "doesn't do dates!" Just amazing in 2025. Who said dating is broken?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
What? How bizarre. Are you 19? Are your 45 because that’s just sad if so.

Lol. How many second date dinners have you paid for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What’s wrong with sit down dinners ? Don’t you want to talk more to get to know her?
It just seems men like that try to avoid difficult questions about what they are seeking, their career, life aspirations etc. Trying to play it down to a sexy easy date with a hope of getting laid after.

As a woman I never have “activity” dates for the first intro. It’s always just a coffee date with me wearing my gym outfit on the way to my gym, so it fits into my other day plans.

What's wrong with sit down dinners? Only a woman would ask that. Going to eat is so expensive in 2025, especially in DC. I'm not shelling out for dinner until we're having sex. Period.

We can get to know each other just as well over a few drinks or something else face to face for a lot cheaper price. Sorry that hurts your feelings.

Thank you, next!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What? How bizarre. Are you 19? Are your 45 because that’s just sad if so.

Lol. How many second date dinners have you paid for?

I’m a normal person who is allergic to any sign of gender stereotyping, so I follow the Ms Manners rules of whoever invited does the paying. If it is mutual then split/take turns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What’s wrong with sit down dinners ? Don’t you want to talk more to get to know her?
It just seems men like that try to avoid difficult questions about what they are seeking, their career, life aspirations etc. Trying to play it down to a sexy easy date with a hope of getting laid after.

As a woman I never have “activity” dates for the first intro. It’s always just a coffee date with me wearing my gym outfit on the way to my gym, so it fits into my other day plans.

What's wrong with sit down dinners? Only a woman would ask that. Going to eat is so expensive in 2025, especially in DC. I'm not shelling out for dinner until we're having sex. Period.

We can get to know each other just as well over a few drinks or something else face to face for a lot cheaper price. Sorry that hurts your feelings.

You know you can pay someone to get you off for less than the cost of a few drinks, right? You don't have to pretend to want a relationship. Just hire a sexworker, pro or no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
What’s wrong with sit down dinners ? Don’t you want to talk more to get to know her?
It just seems men like that try to avoid difficult questions about what they are seeking, their career, life aspirations etc. Trying to play it down to a sexy easy date with a hope of getting laid after.

As a woman I never have “activity” dates for the first intro. It’s always just a coffee date with me wearing my gym outfit on the way to my gym, so it fits into my other day plans.

What's wrong with sit down dinners? Only a woman would ask that. Going to eat is so expensive in 2025, especially in DC. I'm not shelling out for dinner until we're having sex. Period.

We can get to know each other just as well over a few drinks or something else face to face for a lot cheaper price. Sorry that hurts your feelings.

Whoop there it is.
You view dates as a transaction for sex. No wonder you’re still single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The transactional bromath of "I put in a dinner and I get a sex" has always been gross af.

Hate to break it to you, but sex between heterosexual men and women has always been transactional. Men want to spend as little money as possible to get laid while women try to extract (or at least have future promise) as much money from men as possible.

Look at the woman in the other thread whining about the non-committal f4ckbuddy. She's already put out for him a handful of times, and wants to go on dates, and he's telling her he "doesn't do dates!" Just amazing in 2025. Who said dating is broken?

Found the Reddit incel 🙄 this is posted by some weird virgin who thinks this is how dating/sex goes these days. Stop watching porn and go out into the real world for once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You know you can pay someone to get you off for less than the cost of a few drinks, right? You don't have to pretend to want a relationship. Just hire a sexworker, pro or no.

You're right, I don't want a relationship. Sex? Yes. Relationship? As long as I can avoid one.

[Anonymous]

Dating is very much like applying for a job. If you have AI experience these days, you will get multiple job offers. If you do not have AI experience, good luck with getting a job. Dating is very similar to that.