ASD gaslighting

[Anonymous]

I’m reporting this thread to Jeff. The hatred of this disability is out of control and not something we should be perpetuating.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m reporting this thread to Jeff. The hatred of this disability is out of control and not something we should be perpetuating.

+1 million.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s crazy to me is apparently how many of these husbands who masked for decades and appeared to love and care for their spouses enough to have these women fall in love, suddenly dropped the mask and is at some point completely incapable of loving their spouses and children and yet completely capable of being affable and productive at work.

Come on, this is kind of absurd. There’s something else going on. Something we are missing.

You mean their life responsibilities went through the roof when they got married, two job household, own a property, have two sets of older parents, have kids to parent and care for, etc.
And instead of rising to the occasion and growing as an adult…. they shutdown and stayed the same as a single working person, ignoring and neglecting their actual adult responsibilities. Sure they tried to mask and fake it a bit, but that’s too exhausting to do at work plus at home.

Their mothers know this too. The unmasked version of their kid or adult kid. Any NT parent of them knows, and hopes it went away but fear it never does. Because they will have to pick up the broken pieces.

You clearly know nothing about autism. You are the poster child of “I picked badly,” so I must blame something, anything. An autistic person is not able to mask so well for so many years that you have no idea what is going on. If they are on the spectrum, they don’t need life to get super stressful for their autism to suddenly emerge. They struggle every day, most of them with basic stuff. So take some responsibility and stop dragging autistic people into your shitty marriage.

Cool, we’ll be sure to tell the PhD neuropsychologist that who did the diagnoses and the PhD psychologist who does the bimonthly zooms about your big discovery.
Maybe all the other chronic symptom patterns aren’t really happening either….

He either had them all along and you chose to ignore them or he is being misdiagnosed. You simply don’t start showing the first stamping at 40. DOES.NOT.HAPPEN!!

For those of us who grew up in functional homes with caring and involved fathers, and dated in our late 20s we never learned what Asperger’s symptoms were. Until we were a frog in a pot of increasingly boiling water.

Sure he worked a lot and planned some nonsensical 2 person vacations and love bombed like he saw in the movies. Now I know it was him checking a box, and w poor planning skills. Or he had poor communication skills when it came to the future or the relationship but most men in their 20s do, so women are told.

Silver lining, today’s children sure will know which symptoms are which.

You are a cruel b-word and deserve every misery you get.

What do you want?

You want to blame women for marrying these types (can call women names), or do you want women to know what to look out for (and then call them curse words)?

Pick a lane. Either one you’re defunct.