Not sure how to feel about this (trigger warning)

[Anonymous]

I have read a few cases where women allege this for custody. It does not end well for the women. Have you heard of the back-fire phenomenon in family court.

I am here to tell you it is real. It is alive and well. In many states judges are men. Men want to see their babies equal time. If they feel threatened they will ask for 100 percent time with their kids. You might get visitation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have read a few cases where women allege this for custody. It does not end well for the women. Have you heard of the back-fire phenomenon in family court.

I am here to tell you it is real. It is alive and well. In many states judges are men. Men want to see their babies equal time. If they feel threatened they will ask for 100 percent time with their kids. You might get visitation

Do not listen to this person, who is wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you say the R word, I would anticipate that the conversation will shut down

Isn’t that reasonable ? Are you expecting to have a fruitful/normal/cordial relationship (in some way) with this man again?

So she should tiptoe around what he did because he's so delicate to hear it? Eff that.

Don’t get someone down a road they can not undue in family court

Taking care of your right to your children comes first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you say the R word, I would anticipate that the conversation will shut down

Isn’t that reasonable ? Are you expecting to have a fruitful/normal/cordial relationship (in some way) with this man again?

So she should tiptoe around what he did because he's so delicate to hear it? Eff that.

Don’t get someone down a road they can not undue in family court

Taking care of your right to your children comes first.

You have no idea what you're talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have read a few cases where women allege this for custody. It does not end well for the women. Have you heard of the back-fire phenomenon in family court.

I am here to tell you it is real. It is alive and well. In many states judges are men. Men want to see their babies equal time. If they feel threatened they will ask for 100 percent time with their kids. You might get visitation

Do not listen to this person, who is wrong.

Good cases in your jurisdiction with these key words. Find out for yourself. Don’t take any random advice as truth

[Anonymous]

OP, in my experience, when your spouse has done some horrible things that they can’t take back:

1. Counselling will not initially make you feel better but you have to do it anyway. Individual and couples. In counselling you might realize there were signs of this behaviour that you missed. You might not have been as happy as you thought.

2. It is going to take a really, really long time for you to feel affection for him. Don’t even try at this point.

3. There is going to be a new normal. You will never feel the same way towards him. It isn’t intolerable or anything, but there’s been a breach of trust that he can’t take back, if you do indeed stay with him. You might love him again but it will be love informed by this terrible incident.

4. This is going to take time. Not days or weeks or even months, maybe years. All for something that took him just a few minutes to do.

5. Obviously no drinking ever again but I would all my conversations about this in the presence of a counselor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you say the R word, I would anticipate that the conversation will shut down

Isn’t that reasonable ? Are you expecting to have a fruitful/normal/cordial relationship (in some way) with this man again?

So she should tiptoe around what he did because he's so delicate to hear it? Eff that.

Don’t get someone down a road they can not undue in family court

Taking care of your right to your children comes first.

You have no idea what you're talking about.

Wish I didn’t know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have read a few cases where women allege this for custody. It does not end well for the women. Have you heard of the back-fire phenomenon in family court.

I am here to tell you it is real. It is alive and well. In many states judges are men. Men want to see their babies equal time. If they feel threatened they will ask for 100 percent time with their kids. You might get visitation

Do not listen to this person, who is wrong.

Good cases in your jurisdiction with these key words. Find out for yourself. Don’t take any random advice as truth

Google google cases

Once you allege a crime against a father it’s hard to undue

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you say the R word, I would anticipate that the conversation will shut down

Isn’t that reasonable ? Are you expecting to have a fruitful/normal/cordial relationship (in some way) with this man again?

So she should tiptoe around what he did because he's so delicate to hear it? Eff that.

Don’t get someone down a road they can not undue in family court

Taking care of your right to your children comes first.

You have no idea what you're talking about.

Wish I didn’t know

Oh yea? And how do you know? Let me guess, you're the father that got custody taken away from you for "no reason"?

[Anonymous]

If you haven’t been to family court,
then I would say “you don’t know what you are talking about.” It’s rough

[Anonymous]

I am female. Doing fine now
It was a long haul

[Anonymous]

I was the backfire phenom
I was called “hysterical “ by the judge

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am female. Doing fine now
It was a long haul

Yes. Women love to calls themselves females on the internet.

[Anonymous]

Once I made an accusation, it was full on war too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have read a few cases where women allege this for custody. It does not end well for the women. Have you heard of the back-fire phenomenon in family court.

I am here to tell you it is real. It is alive and well. In many states judges are men. Men want to see their babies equal time. If they feel threatened they will ask for 100 percent time with their kids. You might get visitation

Do not listen to this person, who is wrong.

Good cases in your jurisdiction with these key words. Find out for yourself. Don’t take any random advice as truth

Google google cases

Once you allege a crime against a father it’s hard to undue

I'm just going to say the word you are looking for is undo, the word undue means something else.