How to get over someone you had the most incredible chemistry with

[Anonymous]

+1 marriages often start with the intense chemistry like you’re describing. That’s why you sign on for life. Fades with the decades and normal life but can come roaring back in different stages thankfully. Especially when it was there to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:+1 marriages often start with the intense chemistry like you’re describing. That’s why you sign on for life. Fades with the decades and normal life but can come roaring back in different stages thankfully. Especially when it was there to begin with.

+100

26 and we could not breathe without one another. Spent every minute we weren’t at work together. Stayed in bed entire weekends.

So yeah when these people with the AP they bang once a month think it’s so amazing…if it were you’d be together.

[Anonymous]

It probably won’t help you grieve but I married the person I had the most chemistry and the biggest d*ick and best at other things but he’s a subpar husband and father and because we are both always exhausted or annoyed at each other, we rarely have a passionate night - it’s usually a quickie. We are working on it but I do sometimes wonder what life would be like if I married one of the really good guys I dated with subpar chemistry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It makes a lot of women feel better if they fantasize they were something more than a temporary warm hole to the guy that dumped them.

Yep.

It may be difficult for posters to realize if you haven't had that life experience before but some people have had incredible chemistry without using one another.

Yeah- so we got married.

It’s quite obvious the guy didn’t feel the same.

DP. You must be another of the people who think that if a high-chemistry relationship does not end in marriage, either it was an affair and someone went back to a spouse, or "the guy didn't feel the same" and never actually was interested. You can't believe anything outside your own experience. So your posts and "advice" are useless to those whose experiences you are too unimaginative and narrow to understand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It probably won’t help you grieve but I married the person I had the most chemistry and the biggest d*ick and best at other things but he’s a subpar husband and father and because we are both always exhausted or annoyed at each other, we rarely have a passionate night - it’s usually a quickie. We are working on it but I do sometimes wonder what life would be like if I married one of the really good guys I dated with subpar chemistry.

Honey, is that you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It probably won’t help you grieve but I married the person I had the most chemistry and the biggest d*ick and best at other things but he’s a subpar husband and father and because we are both always exhausted or annoyed at each other, we rarely have a passionate night - it’s usually a quickie. We are working on it but I do sometimes wonder what life would be like if I married one of the really good guys I dated with subpar chemistry.

Honey, is that you?

you wish

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:+1 marriages often start with the intense chemistry like you’re describing. That’s why you sign on for life. Fades with the decades and normal life but can come roaring back in different stages thankfully. Especially I when it was there to begin with.

+100

26 and we could not breathe without one another. Spent every minute we weren’t at work together. Stayed in bed entire weekends.

So yeah when these people with the AP they bang once a month think it’s so amazing…if it were you’d be together.

Maybe not everyone is as lucky as you at 26 or as ready to leave a family in middle age.

So so much judgement in every direction on these boards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It probably won’t help you grieve but I married the person I had the most chemistry and the biggest d*ick and best at other things but he’s a subpar husband and father and because we are both always exhausted or annoyed at each other, we rarely have a passionate night - it’s usually a quickie. We are working on it but I do sometimes wonder what life would be like if I married one of the really good guys I dated with subpar chemistry.

It would be the same but the quickie wouldn’t happen nearly as often and when it did, you’d be thinking of someone else.

Ask me how I know.

[Anonymous]

You do because you have to. If the circumstances are outside of your control or due to your choices and/or the other person’s choices, it’s nothing.

Move on. I’ve had chemistry with so many people while married that I can’t even remember them all. I have never cheated. It’s called boundaries and self control.

[Anonymous]

No matter how many years pass, this person still naturally feels like 'the one'. There is this undying spiritual connection that never fades. No matter the circumstance. It’s just too bad when you meet them at the wrong time. You just wish someday you will meet them again somewhere between the moon and the stars but life goes on.

[Anonymous]

When you let go of him completely, you'll meet another guy and get to do it all again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It makes a lot of women feel better if they fantasize they were something more than a temporary warm hole to the guy that dumped them.

Yep.

It may be difficult for posters to realize if you haven't had that life experience before but some people have had incredible chemistry without using one another.

Yeah- so we got married.

It’s quite obvious the guy didn’t feel the same.

It's quite obvious that some posters here are highly emotionally immature and will never understand the simply concept that other people have different conditions in life. The fact that you were able to make it work with someone you had chemistry with does not mean that everyone else is able to work their situations out so simply. There are literally about 50 classic pieces of literature about this exact topic. The fact that so many grown adults cannot conceive of romance outside of the context of marriage is actually so embarrassing, juvenile, and puritanical of them, that it's genuinely hilarious. I swear the population of this board is made up of emotional toddlers stuck in some 1950s version of the world

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just had a break up due to logistics with someone I had the most explosive chemistry with. Not to be explicit because obviously the thread needs to be SFW, but I've never had the kind of connection or passion in the bedroom with anyone like this. Breaking up has been shockingly hard, and I didnt expect to be hit so hard with the loss. Has anyone else experienced this kind of break up and if so, how do you move on and forget about it?

OP, how long were you together and was it just physical?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It makes a lot of women feel better if they fantasize they were something more than a temporary warm hole to the guy that dumped them.

Yep.

It may be difficult for posters to realize if you haven't had that life experience before but some people have had incredible chemistry without using one another.

Yeah- so we got married.

It’s quite obvious the guy didn’t feel the same.

It's quite obvious that some posters here are highly emotionally immature and will never understand the simply concept that other people have different conditions in life. The fact that you were able to make it work with someone you had chemistry with does not mean that everyone else is able to work their situations out so simply. There are literally about 50 classic pieces of literature about this exact topic. The fact that so many grown adults cannot conceive of romance outside of the context of marriage is actually so embarrassing, juvenile, and puritanical of them, that it's genuinely hilarious. I swear the population of this board is made up of emotional toddlers stuck in some 1950s version of the world

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No matter how many years pass, this person still naturally feels like 'the one'. There is this undying spiritual connection that never fades. No matter the circumstance. It’s just too bad when you meet them at the wrong time. You just wish someday you will meet them again somewhere between the moon and the stars but life goes on.

But those things are so often one-sided. You pining over “the one”, the other person has long forgotten.