DD unintentionally gave 1st grandchild same first name as DH’s AP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have three kids: DD (25), DS (22) and DS (18).

Three years ago I discovered DH was cheating on me. He was committed to saving our relationship after the affair came out and I made the decision not to tell the children. They have no idea DH had an affair nor do they know the AP’s name.

DD is expecting what will be our first grandchild and I have been feeling hopeful and happy for the first time in a long time. But today she told us the first name she’d chosen and it’s the same as the AP. I understand this is a coincidence, it’s a somewhat common name. But I’m devastated.

Hearing that name regularly brings up all the anger and rage of DH’s affair. I can’t ask my daughter to change the name? I can’t drop the bomb of WHY I hate this name either. I just have to live with it and fester.

All the joy I had about being a grandmother is gone.

OP, you need some therapy on why you are letting a NAME take away all your joy about a GRANDCHILD. You are letting this old AP have way too much power of your. Just rename the AP some nasty version of the nickname and reclaim this lovely name for your granddaughter.

Because OP is over dramatic.

Because op is a troll

Or. She hasn't dealt with the affair just pretended all is fine and now she can't cope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a couple friends from college who dated who were very, very serious. They went on to marry other people but the woman named her son the same name as her college boyfriend, which I always thought was uncomfortable (I never asked why).

I did this I liked the name. I'm not going to not use a name we both like fortunately I chose to marry and have kids with a mature adult.

I also know people who named kids after a former flamed who passed away

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell your daughter!

I would never name my first born same name as a parent’s AP.

Nope !

Her daughter is pregnant and doesn't need that kind of stress.
Op can get over a name.
Try getting over sending her daughter to the hospital

He daughter will find out about the affair and the name, it's only a matter of time. This will have long term repercussions..

Worse than a potential miscarriage or premature birth and all those complications?.

The time to tell was years ago.
Now keep mouths shut

Don't discuss the name or the baby might die? How does this lead to miscarriage?

I assume pp don't bring up the affair. Parents marital issues can be distressing even for adults and a pregnant woman doesn't need extra stress