what is with parents serving alcohol at parties for kids who are 15 and 16?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:European who went to private here in the US.

I’ve been drinking wine since 13 and many of my friends were drinking in high school. I can extrapolate that to all private kids, but it tracks.

Be careful to avoid the trope about European attitudes about alcohol. It’s not like Europeans are more sophisticated about it or something. Binge drinking and problem drinking are huge problems in many places in Europe.

I've never seen someone from my country funneling beer flavored water through a hose. We also don't rape women after.

You mean, there is no culture of reporting it. ... and furthermore, if it is reported, it must be the woman's fault.... unless you're in the UK, then its the fault of the lower SES person. Most everyone, though, still has their blindfolds on. I've lived in several European countries, they are no better than here. It's just different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:European who went to private here in the US.

I’ve been drinking wine since 13 and many of my friends were drinking in high school. I can extrapolate that to all private kids, but it tracks.

Be careful to avoid the trope about European attitudes about alcohol. It’s not like Europeans are more sophisticated about it or something. Binge drinking and problem drinking are huge problems in many places in Europe.

I've never seen someone from my country funneling beer flavored water through a hose. We also don't rape women after.

You should try it sometime. It’s great!

[Anonymous]

Teens today drink/drive drunk/have sex/do drugs at MUCH lower rates than 20 years ago. Some might even say the pendulum has swung too far and that teens today aren’t socializing enough.

What planet are YOU living on? We never had parents 'serve' us at parties way back when, and as to sex? These high schoolers are more sexually active than ever.

[Anonymous]

The problem with all the posts saying that it's ok in Europe or they did it growing up, now there is social media and ramifications for school attendance even if incidents happen outside of school. I'd be livid if my kid was photographed at a party drinking alcohol provided by parents, and was subsequently suspended/expelled from school. Would be so much better if parents were a united front against alcohol, but based on the comments here that will obviously never happen...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would lose my shit if my teenage daughter was at a party where alcohol was so blatantly being served. I went to a private school in the Midwest, and my friends and I drank lots in highschool, but we snuck around like normal people. My hunch is these parents are trying to be cool and hip, and they are dumb (so much liability).

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If I learned about this, I would absolutely report it to the school and police. It's illegal and I don't give a f!&@ about my reputation among these types of parents at the school. I DO care about my children's health and safety and the health and safety of other children. As legacy donors doubt we would face social or other consequences. So parents beware - if you even try to serve my child anything illegal you just might be in for a surprise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When my daughter was a 17 yr old senior in HS she was invited to a NYE party at a friend's house. I called the friend's dad (single parent) and said I just wanted to make sure alcohol wasn't going to be permitted for the kids and he assured me there was no way the kids would be drinking at his house.

A few years later my daughter told me that not only were all the kids drinking and the dad provided it but that she was smoking pot with one of the dad's friends that night.

Not sure what you are supposed to do about that as a parent other than never let your kids go anywhere.

I’m 50.

When I was in HS, my parents called the host parents any time I was going anywhere that could be considered a party. My parents were well known to be the strictest, but I didn’t realize how much of an outlier they were until I overheard other parents making fun of them for calling. At the time, I wanted to die of embarrassment, but as an adult, I seriously wonder WTF was wrong with those parents. My oldest is only in middle school and I really dread this aspect of HS (and later MS, depending on the crowd).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem with all the posts saying that it's ok in Europe or they did it growing up, now there is social media and ramifications for school attendance even if incidents happen outside of school. I'd be livid if my kid was photographed at a party drinking alcohol provided by parents, and was subsequently suspended/expelled from school. Would be so much better if parents were a united front against alcohol, but based on the comments here that will obviously never happen...

Yes. Agree.
So, is there something that we as parents can do? I am serious. Report these parents to the school?

[Anonymous]

Desperate insecure types trying to be the "cool" parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would lose my shit if my teenage daughter was at a party where alcohol was so blatantly being served. I went to a private school in the Midwest, and my friends and I drank lots in highschool, but we snuck around like normal people. My hunch is these parents are trying to be cool and hip, and they are dumb (so much liability).

+1
If I learned about this, I would absolutely report it to the school and police. It's illegal and I don't give a f!&@ about my reputation among these types of parents at the school. I DO care about my children's health and safety and the health and safety of other children. As legacy donors doubt we would face social or other consequences. So parents beware - if you even try to serve my child anything illegal you just might be in for a surprise.

I love you. You are my kind of rich person.

[Anonymous]

I recently had a chat with a parent of one of my child's friends where she revealed that she supplies alcohol for her teenage daughter and her friends and then "cooks delicious pasta" so they don't get drunk. She believed that having them do it at her house made it safer.

While my daughter is in 4th grade with her younger daughter, it was in that moment that I decided my daughter would never again have another playdate at this woman's house because her judgement is now in question with me.

While this might have been okay in Italy where they were from, should one of those children drive home and get into an accident - or if one of their parents learned about this and pressed charges - she would have to deal with the laws in the US which make this very much illegal.

I am happy to see that other parents on here would be just like me and rat her out. Should my kid ever tell me alcohol was served at a party as a teen (and I have the type of kid who would)....I would be the parent who called the school and the cops.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would lose my shit if my teenage daughter was at a party where alcohol was so blatantly being served. I went to a private school in the Midwest, and my friends and I drank lots in highschool, but we snuck around like normal people. My hunch is these parents are trying to be cool and hip, and they are dumb (so much liability).

+1
If I learned about this, I would absolutely report it to the school and police. It's illegal and I don't give a f!&@ about my reputation among these types of parents at the school. I DO care about my children's health and safety and the health and safety of other children. As legacy donors doubt we would face social or other consequences. So parents beware - if you even try to serve my child anything illegal you just might be in for a surprise.

100% I dont give AF who you are - you will still have to deal with the police at your door.

[Anonymous]

Parents who do this are despicable. My teen is unfortunately dating the child of ons of these family’s and is pisses me off to no end. They’d love for us to be chummy but I am reluctantly tolerating the relationship and can’t string two pleasant words together for the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:European who went to private here in the US.

I’ve been drinking wine since 13 and many of my friends were drinking in high school. I can extrapolate that to all private kids, but it tracks.

Be careful to avoid the trope about European attitudes about alcohol. It’s not like Europeans are more sophisticated about it or something. Binge drinking and problem drinking are huge problems in many places in Europe.

I've never seen someone from my country funneling beer flavored water through a hose. We also don't rape women after.

Which country is that? Because binge drinking is a huge problem in most European countries.

https://www.vox.com/2016/1/26/10833208/europe-lower-drinking-age#:~:text=If%20you%20look%20at%20the%20data%2C%20there%27s%20no,drinking%20than%20American%20teens.%20This%20continues%20into%20adulthood.

--German

--graduate of

What are you a graduate of? Also, we all know that Germany is not where you go to facts.

"We all" clearly know nothing. Not sure where that came from, probably a different post and I had too many tabs open. Since you asked, Maximilians Universität and Cal Poly, so someone will probably recognize me.

Perhaps you should be a little more coherent if you're going to be snarky though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parents who do this are despicable. My teen is unfortunately dating the child of ons of these family’s and is pisses me off to no end. They’d love for us to be chummy but I am reluctantly tolerating the relationship and can’t string two pleasant words together for the parents.

Do you know who Mallory Beach is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem with all the posts saying that it's ok in Europe or they did it growing up, now there is social media and ramifications for school attendance even if incidents happen outside of school. I'd be livid if my kid was photographed at a party drinking alcohol provided by parents, and was subsequently suspended/expelled from school. Would be so much better if parents were a united front against alcohol, but based on the comments here that will obviously never happen...

The problem with the posts saying it's ok in Europe is that it is almost exclusively people who know nothing about Europe, or have taken 2 vacations there. So far only one or two people have seem to actually BE FROM there, and are not in favor of it. Others make vague statements about "having grown up in Europe". Sure. Sure, you did. Scared of being outed on a forum this big because you say you're originally from France? Here? There are more than 10,000 French nationals in DC. (randomly selected France)