what is with parents serving alcohol at parties for kids who are 15 and 16?

[Anonymous]

Doing this is absolutely outrageous. If my child ever went to one of these parties I would have words for the parents and they would never go again.

How about parent your child and stop trying to be the cool friend! Underage drinking and smoking weed os not ok at their age. Their brains aren’t even fully formed yet to make some decisions…. And apparently neither are some adults! How dare they!

[Anonymous]

The parents should’ve been more exclusive about who they invited. We often get complaints about being cliquey, but the people excluded would react horribly to being invited. Some of us are ok with kids drinking small amounts of alcohol. I grew up in Europe and have had beers with teachers. I think it’s much healthier. The students never do more than sip respectfully. I’d rather be with them during these first, tepid encounters than have them have nothing, to go college, and encounter it for the first time at an American frat house

You are deluding yourself if you think the teens are "sipping respectfully." They drink to get drunk. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would lose my shit if my teenage daughter was at a party where alcohol was so blatantly being served. I went to a private school in the Midwest, and my friends and I drank lots in highschool, but we snuck around like normal people. My hunch is these parents are trying to be cool and hip, and they are dumb (so much liability).

+1000

Also, for the PP asking the neighbors to call the cops...how about the OP call the cops. If my neighbor threw a pool party for a bunch of teenagers, how would I know they were serving them hard seltzers vs. just soda, unless I am the nosy neighbor and start prying. If they aren't partying until late hours, keeping the music reasonable and just having a good time, then why do I care? Also, even if I did suspect...unless I thought it might result in some kind of harm or damage to my house and my family...again, what do I really care?

[Anonymous]

The parents should’ve been more exclusive about who they invited. We often get complaints about being cliquey, but the people excluded would react horribly to being invited. Some of us are ok with kids drinking small amounts of alcohol. I grew up in Europe and have had beers with teachers. I think it’s much healthier. The students never do more than sip respectfully. I’d rather be with them during these first, tepid encounters than have them have nothing, to go college, and encounter it for the first time at an American frat house.

You think you are the cool parent, but the teens are laughing at you behind their back. My DC goes to these parties (as do we), and then comes home and laughs about the parents who never grew up and don't know how to act like parents. You should not be deciding for other parents whether their kid can drink. End of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The parents should’ve been more exclusive about who they invited. We often get complaints about being cliquey, but the people excluded would react horribly to being invited. Some of us are ok with kids drinking small amounts of alcohol. I grew up in Europe and have had beers with teachers. I think it’s much healthier. The students never do more than sip respectfully. I’d rather be with them during these first, tepid encounters than have them have nothing, to go college, and encounter it for the first time at an American frat house.

You think you are the cool parent, but the teens are laughing at you behind their back. My DC goes to these parties (as do we), and then comes home and laughs about the parents who never grew up and don't know how to act like parents. You should not be deciding for other parents whether their kid can drink. End of story.

I’m not the poster you are quoting, but how weird that you encourage your kids to make fun of other people. You sound mentally unbalanced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would lose my shit if my teenage daughter was at a party where alcohol was so blatantly being served. I went to a private school in the Midwest, and my friends and I drank lots in highschool, but we snuck around like normal people. My hunch is these parents are trying to be cool and hip, and they are dumb (so much liability).

+1000

Also, for the PP asking the neighbors to call the cops...how about the OP call the cops. If my neighbor threw a pool party for a bunch of teenagers, how would I know they were serving them hard seltzers vs. just soda, unless I am the nosy neighbor and start prying. If they aren't partying until late hours, keeping the music reasonable and just having a good time, then why do I care? Also, even if I did suspect...unless I thought it might result in some kind of harm or damage to my house and my family...again, what do I really care?

Teens don't always just pass out quietly when drunk, you know. But nice to know you will call police when you need to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The parents should’ve been more exclusive about who they invited. We often get complaints about being cliquey, but the people excluded would react horribly to being invited. Some of us are ok with kids drinking small amounts of alcohol. I grew up in Europe and have had beers with teachers. I think it’s much healthier. The students never do more than sip respectfully. I’d rather be with them during these first, tepid encounters than have them have nothing, to go college, and encounter it for the first time at an American frat house

You are deluding yourself if you think the teens are "sipping respectfully." They drink to get drunk. Period.

Perhaps this is how you get teenagers to think drinking is uncool. Tell them you will serve alcohol but you will be with them the entire time making sure they sip respectfully.

[Anonymous]

It's a Catholic school thing, in my experience. Lots of country club types who can't imagine having fun without alcohol.


As a catholic myself you went entirely wrong but this applies to the cathedral schools as well.

I have had kids in Catholic schools and at Big3. IME the Catholic schools have a very, very strong drinking culture. I have seen it it in a cross section of the Big3, but it is more prevalent in local Catholic schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:European who went to private here in the US.

I’ve been drinking wine since 13 and many of my friends were drinking in high school. I can extrapolate that to all private kids, but it tracks.

Be careful to avoid the trope about European attitudes about alcohol. It’s not like Europeans are more sophisticated about it or something. Binge drinking and problem drinking are huge problems in many places in Europe.

I've never seen someone from my country funneling beer flavored water through a hose. We also don't rape women after.

Which country is that? Because binge drinking is a huge problem in most European countries.

https://www.vox.com/2016/1/26/10833208/europe-lower-drinking-age#:~:text=If%20you%20look%20at%20the%20data%2C%20there%27s%20no,drinking%20than%20American%20teens.%20This%20continues%20into%20adulthood.

--German

--graduate of

What are you a graduate of? Also, we all know that Germany is not where you go to facts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would lose my shit if my teenage daughter was at a party where alcohol was so blatantly being served. I went to a private school in the Midwest, and my friends and I drank lots in highschool, but we snuck around like normal people. My hunch is these parents are trying to be cool and hip, and they are dumb (so much liability).

+1000

Also, for the PP asking the neighbors to call the cops...how about the OP call the cops. If my neighbor threw a pool party for a bunch of teenagers, how would I know they were serving them hard seltzers vs. just soda, unless I am the nosy neighbor and start prying. If they aren't partying until late hours, keeping the music reasonable and just having a good time, then why do I care? Also, even if I did suspect...unless I thought it might result in some kind of harm or damage to my house and my family...again, what do I really care?

Teens don't always just pass out quietly when drunk, you know. But nice to know you will call police when you need to.

Teens don't do a lot of things quietly...even when sober. Should I call the cops anytime I run into some loud teens. What's your point?

[Anonymous]

I’m not the poster you are quoting, but how weird that you encourage your kids to make fun of other people. You sound mentally unbalanced.

What an odd conclusion to draw from my post - nothing I posted reflects on my mental health or stability. I am very happy that my DC recognizes that adults who party with their teens are not the norm and nothing to aspire to - that my kid laughs about it to parents does not mean that DC is making fun of them. Rather, DC laughs at the ridiculousness of the situation. Happy that you are all for adults serving alcohol to minors, though (see how I jumped to a conclusion, just like you?).

[Anonymous]

Laws don’t apply to me, just to thee.

Would be interesting to know whether kids of entitled parents who think this way end up breaking bigger rules later in life?

[Anonymous]

PP, YES! Would be interesting to know whether Liszt Holmes’ mom drank with her.

[Anonymous]

When my daughter was a 17 yr old senior in HS she was invited to a NYE party at a friend's house. I called the friend's dad (single parent) and said I just wanted to make sure alcohol wasn't going to be permitted for the kids and he assured me there was no way the kids would be drinking at his house.

A few years later my daughter told me that not only were all the kids drinking and the dad provided it but that she was smoking pot with one of the dad's friends that night.

Not sure what you are supposed to do about that as a parent other than never let your kids go anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

It's a Catholic school thing, in my experience. Lots of country club types who can't imagine having fun without alcohol.


As a catholic myself you went entirely wrong but this applies to the cathedral schools as well.

I have had kids in Catholic schools and at Big3. IME the Catholic schools have a very, very strong drinking culture. I have seen it it in a cross section of the Big3, but it is more prevalent in local Catholic schools.

And yet the OP is about big 3 parents serving alcohol to minors and then letting them drive.