When is too young to get engaged?

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

And you did this 20 years ago. Not relevant now

Of course it’s relevant

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

Hope you thanked Daddy!

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

And you did this 20 years ago. Not relevant now

Even then it would have been nearly impossible for people two years out of college to buy a house in Bethesda with family help. PP is burying the lead.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

And you did this 20 years ago. Not relevant now

Even then it would have been nearly impossible for people two years out of college to buy a house in Bethesda with family help. PP is burying the lead.

^^^without family help

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

And you did this 20 years ago. Not relevant now

Even then it would have been nearly impossible for people two years out of college to buy a house in Bethesda with family help. PP is burying the lead.

^^^without family help

Family help is key in these scenarios people conveniently leave that out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, they live together in the same tiny apartment and attend the same medical school (when they applied, about 5 months after they started dating, they made it a priority to apply to the same/similar places so they could end up together and were lucky enough to get in their dream med school together). They're planning a 2 year engagement because they're still relatively young (so getting married at 24)

So many red flags here. I do hope it works out for them

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

And you did this 20 years ago. Not relevant now

Fresh college grads in consulting, tech, banking and finance make over $100k starting salary. Heck, accounting & supply chain grads from ho-hum state schools make $75k. If you’re in one of those professions & marry someone who also is, you’ve got a $200k+ HHI at 22. No student loan debt if you’re from a UMC family. $200k HHI + 2 years of savings means you can buy a decent house to rent out.

Salaries are going down. Everything is going up. Not everyone has mommy and daddy paying their way.

In the case of ops daughter they are taking on massive debt

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, they live together in the same tiny apartment and attend the same medical school (when they applied, about 5 months after they started dating, they made it a priority to apply to the same/similar places so they could end up together and were lucky enough to get in their dream med school together). They're planning a 2 year engagement because they're still relatively young (so getting married at 24)

So many red flags here. I do hope it works out for them

I don’t see any red flags here; I don’t know what’s wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, they live together in the same tiny apartment and attend the same medical school (when they applied, about 5 months after they started dating, they made it a priority to apply to the same/similar places so they could end up together and were lucky enough to get in their dream med school together). They're planning a 2 year engagement because they're still relatively young (so getting married at 24)

So many red flags here. I do hope it works out for them

I don’t see any red flags here; I don’t know what’s wrong with you.

+1

My husband and I lived in a tiny apartment with two kids until those kids were 8 and 5. We moved into a nice house when we could afford the down payment (no help from parents) and our student loans were paid off. There is nothing wrong with living in a tiny apartment, especially if you don't have kids!

[Anonymous]

Say that you are happy for them! I would be proud to have raised such responsible, young adults who aren't living an extended adolescence. They sound like mature and capable individuals.

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

Hope you thanked Daddy!

Nope. Just two high five-figure salaries & no debt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say that you are happy for them! I would be proud to have raised such responsible, young adults who aren't living an extended adolescence. They sound like mature and capable individuals.

They haven’t accomplished anything (except med school).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

My sister got married in her early twenties and worked in finance supporting her husband through med school. She is super successful two decades later as is her husband.

There’s a difference between college/grad school educated women who marry young and people without these degrees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

What does marrying have to do with childcare? Why do you assume marriage = kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Say that you are happy for them! I would be proud to have raised such responsible, young adults who aren't living an extended adolescence. They sound like mature and capable individuals.

Literally anyone can cohabitate & marry. Anyone.