When is too young to get engaged?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t let a good one get away.

So I know of someone whose mother told her this. She was lucky to get have someone at 24. Good man. Solid career goals loves her etc. Don't throw it away because of age.

She wasn't really ready to be married. Ended in a messy divorce.

It's not the end of the world to marry young of the folks involved are truly ready for it.

But it's also okay to turn down the good guy whose perfect on paper if you really aren't ready. And not be pressured into it by older women

OP’s DD doesn’t sound pressured or not ready.

[Anonymous]

We got engaged at 23, married at 24/25. (I'd just turned 25 and I was a year older)

We were incredibly responsible adults. Built a wonderful life, supported each other through grad school, built a great family. If they're going off to med school, at least you know they aren't dumb.

I wouldn't agree to let them marry until they can support themselves though. Can they support themselves in med school? Or do they need to be on parents' insurance and have parents fund them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm more concerned they moved in together at 21 after 1 year of dating.

Lots of college kids practically live with their partners.

The key word here is “practically.” There is a huge difference between staying a lot and officially living together.

This is what I was going to post exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm more concerned they moved in together at 21 after 1 year of dating.

Lots of college kids practically live with their partners.

The key word here is “practically.” There is a huge difference between staying a lot and officially living together.

This is what I was going to post exactly.

Financials, logistics and fear of commitment tend to drive the decision if young people can live together or not.

[Anonymous]

If they feel committed to each other and to building a bright future together, isn't it a good thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We got engaged at 23, married at 24/25. (I'd just turned 25 and I was a year older)

We were incredibly responsible adults. Built a wonderful life, supported each other through grad school, built a great family. If they're going off to med school, at least you know they aren't dumb.

I wouldn't agree to let them marry until they can support themselves though. Can they support themselves in med school? Or do they need to be on parents' insurance and have parents fund them.

That’s…not something you can control. You can advise, you can withhold your own financial assistance - but they are adults who will make their own choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We got engaged at 23, married at 24/25. (I'd just turned 25 and I was a year older)

We were incredibly responsible adults. Built a wonderful life, supported each other through grad school, built a great family. If they're going off to med school, at least you know they aren't dumb.

I wouldn't agree to let them marry until they can support themselves though. Can they support themselves in med school? Or do they need to be on parents' insurance and have parents fund them.

LOL you think someone age 18 or older needs you to “agree to let them marry”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t let a good one get away.

So I know of someone whose mother told her this. She was lucky to get have someone at 24. Good man. Solid career goals loves her etc. Don't throw it away because of age.

She wasn't really ready to be married. Ended in a messy divorce.

It's not the end of the world to marry young of the folks involved are truly ready for it.

But it's also okay to turn down the good guy whose perfect on paper if you really aren't ready. And not be pressured into it by older women

OP’s DD doesn’t sound pressured or not ready.

Not pressured. But jury's out on not ready. Going to med school doesn't mean mature enough for marriage to my