When is too young to get engaged?

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Anonymous wrote:Met my DH in college when I was 20, engaged after a year and married at 22 the fall after we graduated college. Still together, will be 23 years this fall.

I also met my husband when I was in college, but we didn't get engaged until I was halfway through grad school, which I went to after two years of working. Got married at 27. Glad we waited.

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

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Anonymous wrote:Met my DH in college when I was 20, engaged after a year and married at 22 the fall after we graduated college. Still together, will be 23 years this fall.

I also met my husband when I was in college, but we didn't get engaged until I was halfway through grad school, which I went to after two years of working. Got married at 27. Glad we waited.

Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?

Do you really think ops daughter and the other 22 year old brides weren't sleeping with their boyfriends?

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that so many posters think that going to med school is a sign of maturity.

How is it NOT?

Lots of people didn’t get into med school & can’t contain their jealousy to this day when they hear of those who did.

Whatever doctor’s wife or mother. Stop using your husband or kid’s accomplishments to flex on others. Anyway, not everyone believes that going to med school is the end all be all.

Lol. It's always one or the other who make obnoxious claims about doctors.
Med school isn't a flex

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that so many posters think that going to med school is a sign of maturity.

How is it NOT?

Lots of people didn’t get into med school & can’t contain their jealousy to this day when they hear of those who did.

Whatever doctor’s wife or mother. Stop using your husband or kid’s accomplishments to flex on others. Anyway, not everyone believes that going to med school is the end all be all.

It at least shows that they were committed to getting good grades and completing pre-med work experience. They both have a common goal of finishing med school. It’s better than many situations that a 22-year-old could be in.

Or they cheated through school and have skid by on mommy or dad's connections.

Most UMC 22 year olds have completed an undergrad degree and are committed to a postgrad program and whatever that requires.
Your kid isn't special

Yeah some cash cow one. Not med school.

Some program that will make your kids med career useless. All that debt to be replaced by a robot. Sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

More people more debt. More expenses.

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

More people more debt. More expenses.

Huh?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm shocked that so many posters think that going to med school is a sign of maturity.

It is.

No, it isn’t

Taking out hundreds of thousands of dollars in student loans that you’ll be solely responsible for paying pack, taking premed courses, managing a crapload of shadowing & premed work experience (i.e. shadowing) requires a ton of maturity.

That's not a mark of maturity

Yes it is

It's not. Med students are not more mature than any other 22 to 26 year old.

Sorry you didn’t get in.

I rest my case. Thanks for providing proof for me

I’m guessing that PP has a husband or child who is a doctor, and she derives her obvious arrogance from their accomplishments.

Pp is probably a first year med student they are typically the ones with an abundance of arrogance and over inflated sense of their own importance

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

And you did this 20 years ago. Not relevant now

[Anonymous]

Bethesda PP here. There is no way either us could’ve afforded to buy that house alone. But with our combined income it was possible.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Marrying young is a great way to build wealth.

Or drown in poverty

Why? You can’t deny that life is easier on a dual income than single income.

Yes but how many women who marry very young continue to work? Typically they don't have established careers and can't handle the cost of childcare at that point.

Just because you marry very young doesn’t mean you’ll have kids immediately. There are reasons to marry as soon as is appropriate, such as acquiring property together.

Property that will bleed you dry.

DH & I bought a house in Bethesda when we were 24 y/o newlyweds. Rented it out for 7 years afterwards while we rented elsewhere. We moved into the house once our renters paid off the mortgage on that house in our early 30s and proceeded to have kids.

And you did this 20 years ago. Not relevant now

Fresh college grads in consulting, tech, banking and finance make over $100k starting salary. Heck, accounting & supply chain grads from ho-hum state schools make $75k. If you’re in one of those professions & marry someone who also is, you’ve got a $200k+ HHI at 22. No student loan debt if you’re from a UMC family. $200k HHI + 2 years of savings means you can buy a decent house to rent out.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Yes, they live together in the same tiny apartment and attend the same medical school (when they applied, about 5 months after they started dating, they made it a priority to apply to the same/similar places so they could end up together and were lucky enough to get in their dream med school together). They're planning a 2 year engagement because they're still relatively young (so getting married at 24)