When is too young to get engaged?

[Anonymous]

I’d prefer my kids waited until 25 but what’s to be done?

One of my high school friends married at 18. We are 38 now and she’s still happy. In hindsight her parents did the right thing to preserve the relationship.

[Anonymous]

I think if they are over 21 and out of college there’s nothing you can do.

[Anonymous]

They’re already married for all you know.

[Anonymous]

I got engaged at 22, married at 24 and am still happily married deep into my 50’s. As long as both are on the same path and focused on building a future together, who are you to say it’s not right? I recognize we were lucky, but what is any of life but a bit of luck? They sound happy, you should rejoice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re asking the wrong crowd. People on here think marrying before 30 is too young.

Or they think that you are an old infertile hag who is past your prime at 29.

[Anonymous]

I don’t mean to be harsh, but the fact that they are engaged does not necessarily mean that they will actually get married. I saw it many times in my law school class. A lot of the people who came in engaged, and even some of the married ones, ended up marrying other people.

[Anonymous]

If your daughter was engaged to her 50yo professor, you might want to have a conversation. But they’re the same age and seem to be moving in the same direction, at least for now. No one can say what the future holds for them or predict whether a marriage work or fail. We all face unexpected challenges (illness, infertility, loss of job, financial hardship, death of loved ones), the best thing you can do is be there to support them in the tough times if they ask for help. Wishing them the best of luck.

[Anonymous]

I mean what are you going to do about it? Not condoning the marriage seems not worth the potential backlash.

[Anonymous]

Are they planning ahead so they can match together for residency? If so, that seems to make sense.

[Anonymous]

Use all your power in the world to convince her not to marry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use all your power in the world to convince her not to marry.

Great idea! She should sleep around and settle at 35, she’ll be so much happier!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use all your power in the world to convince her not to marry.

You’re insane.

[Anonymous]

If she’s old enough to take out college & med school loans, she’s old enough to get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I told my kids 25 is the absolute youngest.

For engagement or marriage?
What is the penalty if they disobey you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Use all your power in the world to convince her not to marry.

Terrible idea. OP’s daughter’s male doctor partner will be a hot commodity in the dating market for decades to come. OP’s daughter, on the other hand, will for the next 7 years, max.

Not to mention that the physical stress of residency is bad for a doctor’s fertility.