Has anyone managed to convince their spouse to NOT spend Christmas with their family

[Anonymous]

The Bible warns Christians not to marry non-Christians. Where this family spends Christmas is the least of this family’s worries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are willing to spend an “alternate Christmas” with them, and you don’t celebrate Christmas…then give the justification why it can’t actually be on Christmas that you see them. After all, either way, it’s just a date on the calendar to you, yes?

I’m not the OP, but it’s a date on the calendar when it’s common to have time off from work and kids are not in school. With sports and activities, it’s an easy window to take a vacation since you’d be off work to watch the kids anyway.

I see OP’s point that Christmas can be any weekend in December with the in-law but school break is 10-13 consecutive days that can be used for a vacation.

[Anonymous]

Why not plan a vacation during the break for yourself. Give the kids and husband the option of joining you, or
joining family or joining family and meeting you later wherever you vacation.

It's just a day right and it doesn't mean anything to you but it does to him and his family and maybe your kids?

[Anonymous]

He missed being with his family on Christmas, period. You might convince the kids that they are happier at home but he will always feel sad being away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The Bible warns Christians not to marry non-Christians. Where this family spends Christmas is the least of this family’s worries.

So you pulled up a post from 11 months ago to post this? Bored on Christmas? Is this really how you spent Jesus’s birthday—looking up old threads so that you could be judgmental? This isn’t a good look.

[Anonymous]

Wow. What a controlling bit*h.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your DH actively wants to spend Christmas with them and you don’t celebrate Christmas, it is pretty mean-spirited of you to actively try to prevent it. After all, it is just another day to you. I mean, he said he wishes to see them on Christmas, and your kids don’t mind it. What is your problem?

She literally said in the OP what her problem is…. There’s nothing mean spirited about wanting to spend time with your immediate family or go on vacation. Yeesh people.

But if Christmas means nothing to OP and is just another day, she can just as easily go on vacation and spend time with her immediate family any other time.

[Anonymous]

Old post

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Yeah but now I need to know how OP spent Christmas this year!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he wants Christmas morning with his mom and dad he should have stayed single. Move back into his childhood bedroom and so he can wake up in his PJs and his mom can make him hot cocoa.

+1000

OP, this is your answer. His focus should be in his children waking up and enjoying the holiday at home, not himself.

And um, isn’t home where YOU and HIS KIDS are?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would alternate UNLESS the kids' cousins celebrate with his family too. Cousin time is a precious memory.

+1 who's coming to Xmas on DH side? Just his parents who you can visit some other time? Or lots of family where this day isn't fungible and it's the time to see everyone and spend time together?

[Anonymous]

If OP was Christian and wanted to celebrate Christmas at home with her immediate family, this thread would have gone in a completely different direction. People are so biased and rude.

[Anonymous]

DCUMommies are so emotional about Christmas. People have posted this exact same thing about long standing family summer vacations and the mommies are always in solidarity around boundaries, but if someone does it at Christmas, then they are a wicked, evil harpy. Hypocrites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
DCUMommies are so emotional about Christmas. People have posted this exact same thing about long standing family summer vacations and the mommies are always in solidarity around boundaries, but if someone does it at Christmas, then they are a wicked, evil harpy. Hypocrites.

It’s not just the mommies. My Jewish husband was on me to buy a Christmas tree and get it decorated last week. Men like Christmas too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If OP was Christian and wanted to celebrate Christmas at home with her immediate family, this thread would have gone in a completely different direction. People are so biased and rude.

Don’t be so sure. The forum is full of devil’s advocates, or trolls.