S/O to well mannered kids
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Anonymous
If the hot chocolate stand at the activity also sold hot apple cider and the kid asked for that instead, I wonder if OP would have bristled. There is no difference between the two scenarios, but there’s something about the Starbucks part that is triggering. |
Anonymous
Yep. OP, you are the rude one. I can't even believe that you are asking these questions. Children are not toys. They have their own tastes and preferences. Even dogs do. |
Anonymous
Even if she did ask for a special item, it's easy to respond with withg:" sorry, that item is not in my budget, can you pick something in this range?" |
Anonymous
| Starbucks hot chocolate is not very tasty for kids. I don’t think it would occur to my kids that it would be rude to request a different drink. |
Anonymous
Apparently everyone involved because someone knows they like it double toasted! Op, would you feel the same if you offered chicken nuggets and someone wanted a cheeseburger from McDonalds? Something tells me it's the Starbucks angle that ruffled your feathers. I would have said "you can choose what you want as long as it's less than $6" or whatever price limit. |
Anonymous
This. I do not understand these threads complaining about the "rude" behavior of children where the children in question just asked for something. It's not rude to ask, especially not for kids because they don't have the freedom to get things for themselves! All these full grown adults who are so delicate that having a child ask them for something causes them to need to consult the internet and lament the state of children today. How do you function as a parent? My kid asks me (politely, usually) for stuff all the time. I often say no. No, that's too expensive. No, we are eating when we get home. No, the dentist said no more hard candy. No, that movie is not age-appropriate. I don't find this difficult. It's very easy! Sometimes my kid asks for things in a rude way. Yesterday she said "go get my markers from my room." And I said "oh, I am not the butler and the way you said that was very rude. Perhaps if you'd asked in a kind way I'd go get them, but no." And she cried and said she was too tired to get her markers and then she said she was sorry for being rude and then she asked me nicely to go get the markers and I said "No honey, I appreciate the apology, but you are perfectly capable of getting your markers." And she still wouldn't do it so art time was over. She's five, it was a hard day but honestly, fine. The point is that 20 years from now, she will have internalized the lesson that if you want people to do things for you, you need to be polite when you ask. And also that even if you are polite, they might say no, so be ready to do things for yourself. I do not expect this lesson to sink in by tomorrow. Parenting is a work in process. I bet you my kid will still be doing rude things sometimes when she's 10, especially if she's having a bad day or is hungry or tired or whatever. She's human. If you take her out for an activity at that point and she is rude to you, I give you permission to say "No, that was rude. Please speak to me more politely." It's like y'all just discovered that kids aren't born perfect and require effort. What the heck were you expecting? |
Anonymous
+1. Yes. The level of entitlement on these boards regularly blows me away. |
Anonymous
Lol. It's not rude. Maybe this kid's whole family does not like the Starbucks hot chocolate at all and they hate it every time they have it. She DARES asks for something else and she's labeled rude. "No! You get nothing!" Insane. |
Anonymous
Yeah this. |
Anonymous
| One of my kids is pretty spoiled when it comes to Starbucks (long story) but I don’t think she would ever in a million years request a special drink from a parent if a friend! But I better talk to her just to be sure. |
Anonymous
| “If you don’t want what I generously offer then you get nothing” is narcissistic behavior. If you really wanted to treat your guests and make them happy you would make the change since it took no extra effort on your part. I’m hearing that the gesture was more about your ego than actually wanting to do something nice. That you’re complaining about a basic polite request says something about you, not the child. |
Anonymous
Sixbucks |
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Anonymous
Obviously, your children have no manners. When asked if you would like a drink. It means drink. Not food. |
Anonymous
| I think the kids were rude, but I also think you were really nice for taking them for a treat! |