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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I get it.  You wanted to get hot chocolate for the kids.  You weren't expecting a bunch of spoiled kids who get taken to Starbucks regularly enough that they have their own preferred custom drink.  Hot chocolate would be a treat in my house, and my kids would happily accept it without thinking they are entitled to whatever they want from the Starbucks menu.

Who are all these kids drinking Starbucks regularly?  [/quote]

The kid didn’t ask for a custom drink. She asked for a regular menu item. It would have taken 0 extra effort OP’s part to order a chai latte instead of a hot chocolate. OP is just controlling. [/quote]

Even if she did ask for a special item, it's easy to respond with withg:" sorry, that item is not in my budget, can you pick something in this range?"

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This. I do not understand these threads complaining about the "rude" behavior of children where the children in question just asked for something. It's not rude to ask, especially not for kids because they don't have the freedom to get things for themselves!

All these full grown adults who are so delicate that having a child ask them for something causes them to need to consult the internet and lament the state of children today. How do you function as a parent? My kid asks me (politely, usually) for stuff all the time. I often say no. No, that's too expensive. No, we are eating when we get home. No, the dentist said no more hard candy. No, that movie is not age-appropriate. I don't find this difficult. It's very easy!

Sometimes my kid asks for things in a rude way. Yesterday she said "go get my markers from my room." And I said "oh, I am not the butler and the way you said that was very rude. Perhaps if you'd asked in a kind way I'd go get them, but no." And she cried and said she was too tired to get her markers and then she said she was sorry for being rude and then she asked me nicely to go get the markers and I said "No honey, I appreciate the apology, but you are perfectly capable of getting your markers." And she still wouldn't do it so art time was over. She's five, it was a hard day but honestly, fine.

The point is that 20 years from now, she will have internalized the lesson that if you want people to do things for you, you need to be polite when you ask. And also that even if you are polite, they might say no, so be ready to do things for yourself. I do not expect this lesson to sink in by tomorrow. Parenting is a work in process. I bet you my kid will still be doing rude things sometimes when she's 10, especially if she's having a bad day or is hungry or tired or whatever. She's human. If you take her out for an activity at that point and she is rude to you, I give you permission to say "No, that was rude. Please speak to me more politely."

It's like y'all just discovered that kids aren't born perfect and require effort. What the heck were you expecting?[/quote]

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