S/O to well mannered kids

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Anonymous wrote:OP I get it. You wanted to get hot chocolate for the kids. You weren't expecting a bunch of spoiled kids who get taken to Starbucks regularly enough that they have their own preferred custom drink. Hot chocolate would be a treat in my house, and my kids would happily accept it without thinking they are entitled to whatever they want from the Starbucks menu.

Who are all these kids drinking Starbucks regularly?

Why? Why was she only wanting to buy hot chocolate rather than hoping to treat the girls to a drink of their choice?

The OP explained later that they had done an outdoor activity and thought it would be nice to get some hot chocolate. She figured that getting it at Starbucks would be the most convenient option. If there was a hot chocolate stand at the activity she probably would have done that. It wasn't about treating the kids to Starbucks but rather treating them to hot chocolate.

If the hot chocolate stand at the activity also sold hot apple cider and the kid asked for that instead, I wonder if OP would have bristled. There is no difference between the two scenarios, but there’s something about the Starbucks part that is triggering.

Nailed it. Mic drop.

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You really don’t get why the mom didn’t want to be buying a bunch of custom Starbucks drinks? When OP told the girls they are stopping for hot chocolate and one kid says, well can I have a chia tea latte instead? Que the other kids now deciding they want 2 pump peppermint mocha with skim milk, a Carmel frappe with chocolate drizzle, and whatever other custom concoctions their mom
Gets them x how ever many kids OP has with her. It then becomes a PIA to order and is more of an ordeal, especially considering the
More various drinks you order the likelihood one will be wrong and then you will also have to deal with that is higher as well. OP wanted to pick up some quick hot chocolate on the run and be done with it

DP.

I get why she wouldn't want custom orders. I wouldn't do custom orders because I dont have the patience. However, I don't get how she would think they are rude to ask. Just say 'sorry, we are all getting bla bla bla' and move on.

This 100%. It’s not that deep

The custom orders are literally a different click on the app. It wasn’t a big deal. If the price was the issue, she could have set a restriction on that.

It takes more time to do those clicks. Moms are busy. I also don’t even know what “tai chai” is and I go to Starbucks all the time. Maybe she didn’t feel like navigating it around figuring it out.

It’s not a thing. OP meant chai tea latte, but messed up in her rush to vilify the kid who asked to order tea instead of hot chocolate.

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I didn’t realize 10 year olds knew about (caffeinated?) chai tea lattes! My kids would just be so happy with hot chocolate. If a kid doesn’t like hot chocolate, I’d definitely let them get steamed milk with a syrup… but chai tea latte seems so extra, as does double toasted croissant. These kids are spoiled!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Is this rude? 2 kids have done this recently. Took DD ( 10) and a friend to an activity. Offered to get DD and friend a hot chocolate from Starbucks that I would pre order on the app then just walk over and pick up. First friend said “ if you’re getting it from Starbucks can I have a tai chai latte instead” I said no the offer was for hot chocolate. 2nd kid on different occasion but same activity said “ can I get s baked good as well, I’d really like a croissant” I said sure, then she requested it be double toasted. Both kids were polite for the most part but if you offered my kid a drink of snack she would never request something completely different or an extra item. I feel like it’s rude, but am I wrong? Given that 2 kids did it maybe it’s normal.

I think you were rude to not allow the kid to select a different drink. I find it perplexing that you said no to that but yes to an additional product.

I would say the kid asking for a croissant is kinda "rude" but also nbd. I would have said: we're just doing drinks today, but we'll do that another day.

Can you imagine being with adults and someone saying, I'm treating you guys to brownies! And responding, Oh I really don't like brownies, can I get a vanilla cupcake instead? and them saying, "No. The offer is for brownies."

I don't think you're in a position to assess these kids' manners.

NP. I think the adult asking for a vanilla cupcake instead is being kind of rude. If you don’t like brownies, just say “no, thank you!” Then the treating adult might say, “oh, maybe there’s something else you’d prefer?” But to outright ask for it is annoying and presumptuous.

Agree with the poster above yours. The adult in this scenario is being a terrible gift giver or host. Who interacts this way, treating another person to “brownies”? A person would say, “I’d love to treat you to dinner for your birthday! Any place you’d like to go?” Not “I’d like to treat you to a brownie for your birthday.” Can you imagine your mother in law ordering dinner off an app and offering you a hamburger, but considering you “rude” if you ask to order a salad instead? I think some people on this thread are controlling in ways they don’t realize.

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What does double toasted mean??? A double toasted croissant? I don’t get it.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this rude? 2 kids have done this recently. Took DD ( 10) and a friend to an activity. Offered to get DD and friend a hot chocolate from Starbucks that I would pre order on the app then just walk over and pick up. First friend said “ if you’re getting it from Starbucks can I have a tai chai latte instead” I said no the offer was for hot chocolate. 2nd kid on different occasion but same activity said “ can I get s baked good as well, I’d really like a croissant” I said sure, then she requested it be double toasted. Both kids were polite for the most part but if you offered my kid a drink of snack she would never request something completely different or an extra item. I feel like it’s rude, but am I wrong? Given that 2 kids did it maybe it’s normal.

I think you were rude to not allow the kid to select a different drink. I find it perplexing that you said no to that but yes to an additional product.

I would say the kid asking for a croissant is kinda "rude" but also nbd. I would have said: we're just doing drinks today, but we'll do that another day.

Can you imagine being with adults and someone saying, I'm treating you guys to brownies! And responding, Oh I really don't like brownies, can I get a vanilla cupcake instead? and them saying, "No. The offer is for brownies."

I don't think you're in a position to assess these kids' manners.

NP. I think the adult asking for a vanilla cupcake instead is being kind of rude. If you don’t like brownies, just say “no, thank you!” Then the treating adult might say, “oh, maybe there’s something else you’d prefer?” But to outright ask for it is annoying and presumptuous.

Agree with the poster above yours. The adult in this scenario is being a terrible gift giver or host. Who interacts this way, treating another person to “brownies”? A person would say, “I’d love to treat you to dinner for your birthday! Any place you’d like to go?” Not “I’d like to treat you to a brownie for your birthday.” Can you imagine your mother in law ordering dinner off an app and offering you a hamburger, but considering you “rude” if you ask to order a salad instead? I think some people on this thread are controlling in ways they don’t realize.

I can see.that scenario when you are just treating one person but it's not unusual with a group to a have more fixed options. Even restaurants often require a prix fixe menu with large groups to make it easier.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn’t realize 10 year olds knew about (caffeinated?) chai tea lattes! My kids would just be so happy with hot chocolate. If a kid doesn’t like hot chocolate, I’d definitely let them get steamed milk with a syrup… but chai tea latte seems so extra, as does double toasted croissant. These kids are spoiled!!!

So mom taking girls to Starbucks in the first place is fine, but if a kid wants their croissant toasted or tea instead of chocolate that's spoiled? What a weird definition of spoiled. I mean, it's not like the mom had to do any extra work beyond telling the baristas what to make.

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As long as the drink wasn't super expensive I don't think the girl was being rude or spoiled. Maybe she was allergic or isn't allowed sugar. Maybe she's from a culture that values tea. Just order the drink and move on.