Middle-aged single men: what are you relationships with 20-something women like?

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Anonymous wrote:Younger women are far less jaded than older women, or at a minimum the older women on this site.

How do women become jaded, do you think?

I'm sure it is not their fault and they have no agency.

Uh oh. Now you’ve done it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know woman in there 20s that can have much more intellectual conversations than most woman in their 40s. And I know woman in their 40's that can put most 20 somethings to shame in the bedroom.

Stop trying to paint picture based on the ages of ADULTS, paint a picture of individuals.

Eh. They are having sex. They are having “intellectual” conversations but without the understanding of life experience, like you would do with your kids. I have intellectual conversations with my 11 year old, but they are not the conversations of an equal with an equal understanding of ideals vs reality. Is it intellectual sure. Is it the same? No.

That said, a man can feel that fatherly feelings put him more in control of the relationship, but a woman does not ever want to be a mother to another person and this is why women typically don’t seriously date younger men.

NP
“ I get older but the women I am attracted to stay the same age”.

[Anonymous]

Middle age women would die and go to hell to have even a brief relationship with a 20 something guy. No LTR BS, just a few great nights with a young stud.

[Anonymous]

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I think most of what makes women’s gut churn is not jealousy-we have daughters in their early 20s or remember ourselves at that age. It’s primal and protective. And yes, there is a risk of infantilizing young women and denying them agency, but with my daughter I would advise against such damaged men who revel in the power imbalance.

If women really cared about young women, Epstein's Island would have never happened.

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Anonymous wrote:Most old men who chase 20ish women look foolish and old. Young women are grossed out their old bodies and bored by their out of touch minds. The relationship is about $$ for sex, that's it.

+1

I'm in my 20s and was at an event recently where some sugar babies brought their sugar daddies. People were pointing them out and laughing at them. The age difference was enormous in some cases, easily 50+ years. It was gross.

Dying to know what sort of event? Influencer party?

It was a young professionals charity ball/gala; target audience is 22-35 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Middle age women would die and go to hell to have even a brief relationship with a 20 something guy. No LTR BS, just a few great nights with a young stud.

A very small percentage migh. Have these forums taught you nothing? Most would choose a spa day and drinks and dinner out with their girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

What’s it like?

Exhausting in the most delightful way possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve dated 20s and 40s (my age). They ALL watch the same stupid Netflix shows (doctors, lawyers, employee at one of the three letter agencies, teachers, nurses, it doesn’t matter).

Conversation about art, music, politics, books we read, movies, is otherwise very similar from my side regardless of the age.

At some point they always get bored and move on and then I meet someone else. Usually I’m somewhat of a secret from her friends but sometimes they really want me to meet them. The longest shelf life of any of these relationships for me has been five months.

Which shows?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

I meet them on Bumble and Hinge. I am fully functional, and highly skilled. But I am also old enough to not be completely controlled by my hormones. It's a good place to be. I'll also note I have a PhD and a semi-prominent job.

I can try to explain what the young women I met in the last year like about me: one just liked that I was older and affectionate. She was looking to settle down. She had a MS degree in science. The second was a computer scientist with a BS from an excellent university. She liked my wild, kinky side and the extravagant dates I could take her on. she is an amazing freak. The third woman became a friend. She is finishing a PhD in a scientific field and will have an amazing career. I think what she likes is that I am so interested in her life and her success and she says she appreciates my wisdom. Despite our age difference, we both face some of the same challenges in life right now.

Daddy issues. All 3 of them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Middle age women would die and go to hell to have even a brief relationship with a 20 something guy. No LTR BS, just a few great nights with a young stud.

A very small percentage migh. Have these forums taught you nothing? Most would choose a spa day and drinks and dinner out with their girlfriends.

yep.

[Anonymous]

I’m middle age and single and my relationship with two 20 something women is fantastic! Ok, they are my daughters. No way on this planet would I date someone their age as they would crucify me. I’m very happy with 40+ age women as we have things in common.

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Daddy issues. All 3 of them.

The inevitable meaningless insult that jealous older women direct at younger women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

I meet them on Bumble and Hinge. I am fully functional, and highly skilled. But I am also old enough to not be completely controlled by my hormones. It's a good place to be. I'll also note I have a PhD and a semi-prominent job.

I can try to explain what the young women I met in the last year like about me: one just liked that I was older and affectionate. She was looking to settle down. She had a MS degree in science. The second was a computer scientist with a BS from an excellent university. She liked my wild, kinky side and the extravagant dates I could take her on. she is an amazing freak. The third woman became a friend. She is finishing a PhD in a scientific field and will have an amazing career. I think what she likes is that I am so interested in her life and her success and she says she appreciates my wisdom. Despite our age difference, we both face some of the same challenges in life right now.

Daddy issues. All 3 of them.

All three are from intact families, with good or excellent relationship with their fathers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

I meet them on Bumble and Hinge. I am fully functional, and highly skilled. But I am also old enough to not be completely controlled by my hormones. It's a good place to be. I'll also note I have a PhD and a semi-prominent job.

I can try to explain what the young women I met in the last year like about me: one just liked that I was older and affectionate. She was looking to settle down. She had a MS degree in science. The second was a computer scientist with a BS from an excellent university. She liked my wild, kinky side and the extravagant dates I could take her on. she is an amazing freak. The third woman became a friend. She is finishing a PhD in a scientific field and will have an amazing career. I think what she likes is that I am so interested in her life and her success and she says she appreciates my wisdom. Despite our age difference, we both face some of the same challenges in life right now.

Daddy issues. All 3 of them.

All three are from intact families, with good or excellent relationship with their fathers.

Just read what you say they like about you and then see if those wishes actually match up with your feelings long term. If they don't. If they like something about you that you aren't able to deliver on, then there are issues.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.