Middle-aged single men: what are you relationships with 20-something women like?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Ok. How misogynistic to say that 50-something men are full sexual beings but 50-something women are has-been.

Your just being mean and angry.

You are

Wow! My 50+ wife is fully sexually functional. She may not have 20 something body parts but her experience more than makes up for it.

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Anonymous wrote:There's so much discussion of men in their 40s and 50s, often divorced with kids, dating women in their 20s. But seriously, what do you do in these relationships? I know you have sex. I get it; that's the main point. But is that the whole thing? Even if you've reduced the relationship to fancy dinners, shopping, and sex, surely there are times when you would a conversation, right? Over dinner? What do you talk about? do you have shared hobbies? Do you enjoy the arts together? Do you talk about parenting and does she talk about grad school? Does you hang out with her friends? Do she hang out with your friends? (Do you even have friends?)

It's not that I think it's immoral for a guy in his 40s or 50s to date a woman in her 20s. It's just that I don't understand how it actually works.

Sorry, who is talking about this? I don’t see it at all in my personal life. Literally everyone I know is married to or dates people within like 3 years of their age. Then again, I’m mostly surrounded by well educated professionals. Someone with a big age gap would really stand out and get laughs.

I’m in my 30s now, but if a guy in his 30s would have approached me when I was in my 20s I would have cringed. Older guys are invisible until they approach you, at which point they become creeps and you have to grab your girlfriends to save you.

When I worked in academia it was very common for male professors to have young second wives.

At work there have been several older guy/younger woman marriages.

In my expensive neighborhood there are several older men living in McMansions with their younger (second) wife and new family.

You must be in a rural area or something. Yeah I could see that if I lived in Missouri and worked at CVS rather than go to college I might want to marry a “rich” older guy who owned a roofing company or something.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Ok. How misogynistic to say that 50-something men are full sexual beings but 50-something women are has-been.

Your just being mean and angry.

You are

Wow! My 50+ wife is fully sexually functional. She may not have 20 something body parts but her experience more than makes up for it.

Whatever you gotta say to feel good about your life, bro.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's so much discussion of men in their 40s and 50s, often divorced with kids, dating women in their 20s. But seriously, what do you do in these relationships? I know you have sex. I get it; that's the main point. But is that the whole thing? Even if you've reduced the relationship to fancy dinners, shopping, and sex, surely there are times when you would a conversation, right? Over dinner? What do you talk about? do you have shared hobbies? Do you enjoy the arts together? Do you talk about parenting and does she talk about grad school? Does you hang out with her friends? Do she hang out with your friends? (Do you even have friends?)

It's not that I think it's immoral for a guy in his 40s or 50s to date a woman in her 20s. It's just that I don't understand how it actually works.

Sorry, who is talking about this? I don’t see it at all in my personal life. Literally everyone I know is married to or dates people within like 3 years of their age. Then again, I’m mostly surrounded by well educated professionals. Someone with a big age gap would really stand out and get laughs.

I’m in my 30s now, but if a guy in his 30s would have approached me when I was in my 20s I would have cringed. Older guys are invisible until they approach you, at which point they become creeps and you have to grab your girlfriends to save you.

When I worked in academia it was very common for male professors to have young second wives.

At work there have been several older guy/younger woman marriages.

In my expensive neighborhood there are several older men living in McMansions with their younger (second) wife and new family.

You must be in a rural area or something. Yeah I could see that if I lived in Missouri and worked at CVS rather than go to college I might want to marry a “rich” older guy who owned a roofing company or something.

lol. 40+ and date Georgetown and GW students all the time. That always have lawyer dads in NYC.

[Anonymous]

Please go watch Nikki Glasers latest reel on Instagram about the epidemic of 20 somethings with “old souls”. It describes the relationship between middle aged men and 20 something women to a T. The only old thing they like on a significant other is something they can’t see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please go watch Nikki Glasers latest reel on Instagram about the epidemic of 20 somethings with “old souls”. It describes the relationship between middle aged men and 20 something women to a T. The only old thing they like on a significant other is something they can’t see.

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43 w/ a 22yo gf and I laughed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Please go watch Nikki Glasers latest reel on Instagram about the epidemic of 20 somethings with “old souls”. It describes the relationship between middle aged men and 20 something women to a T. The only old thing they like on a significant other is something they can’t see.

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43 w/ a 22yo gf and I laughed.

dear penthouse ….

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please go watch Nikki Glasers latest reel on Instagram about the epidemic of 20 somethings with “old souls”. It describes the relationship between middle aged men and 20 something women to a T. The only old thing they like on a significant other is something they can’t see.

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43 w/ a 22yo gf and I laughed.

dear penthouse ….

Sorry you lack the swag to pull it off.

It’s easy for those of us who do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's so much discussion of men in their 40s and 50s, often divorced with kids, dating women in their 20s. But seriously, what do you do in these relationships? I know you have sex. I get it; that's the main point. But is that the whole thing? Even if you've reduced the relationship to fancy dinners, shopping, and sex, surely there are times when you would a conversation, right? Over dinner? What do you talk about? do you have shared hobbies? Do you enjoy the arts together? Do you talk about parenting and does she talk about grad school? Does you hang out with her friends? Do she hang out with your friends? (Do you even have friends?)

It's not that I think it's immoral for a guy in his 40s or 50s to date a woman in her 20s. It's just that I don't understand how it actually works.

Sorry, who is talking about this? I don’t see it at all in my personal life. Literally everyone I know is married to or dates people within like 3 years of their age. Then again, I’m mostly surrounded by well educated professionals. Someone with a big age gap would really stand out and get laughs.

I’m in my 30s now, but if a guy in his 30s would have approached me when I was in my 20s I would have cringed. Older guys are invisible until they approach you, at which point they become creeps and you have to grab your girlfriends to save you.

When I worked in academia it was very common for male professors to have young second wives.

At work there have been several older guy/younger woman marriages.

In my expensive neighborhood there are several older men living in McMansions with their younger (second) wife and new family.

You must be in a rural area or something. Yeah I could see that if I lived in Missouri and worked at CVS rather than go to college I might want to marry a “rich” older guy who owned a roofing company or something.

I'm the PP. The neighborhood I'm talking about is McLean.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Ok. How misogynistic to say that 50-something men are full sexual beings but 50-something women are has-been.

Your just being mean and angry.

Ahh, because men and women age completely differently. Did you not know that?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m middle age and single and my relationship with two 20 something women is fantastic! Ok, they are my daughters. No way on this planet would I date someone their age as they would crucify me. I’m very happy with 40+ age women as we have things in common.

NP. Thia is funny and love the excellent father/daughter dynamic hinted at in the post.

Yes!! I also loved that comment!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Ok. How misogynistic to say that 50-something men are full sexual beings but 50-something women are has-been.

Your just being mean and angry.

Ummm, ever hear of menopause? Thinning of the v**inal walls? Lack of desire?

[Anonymous]

52 yo divorced man here. I have two teenagers and good relationship with ex-wife.

I will tell you that dating a 27 yo after divorce gave me a fresh lease on life. Just the attraction, energy, and zest for life is wonderful. She is a wonderful girlfriend and very successful. I'm happy that I can provide mentoring in her career.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Ok. How misogynistic to say that 50-something men are full sexual beings but 50-something women are has-been.

Your just being mean and angry.

Ummm, ever hear of menopause? Thinning of the v**inal walls? Lack of desire?

Ummm, ever hear of viagra? Low T?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:52 yo divorced man here. I have two teenagers and good relationship with ex-wife.

I will tell you that dating a 27 yo after divorce gave me a fresh lease on life. Just the attraction, energy, and zest for life is wonderful. She is a wonderful girlfriend and very successful. I'm happy that I can provide mentoring in her career.

So tell me, what is your Russian girlfriend’s career over there? Surprised she has time after camming.