Middle-aged single men: what are you relationships with 20-something women like?

[Anonymous]

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Daddy issues. All 3 of them.

The inevitable meaningless insult that jealous older women direct at younger women.

Totally. I'm a 43 y.o. woman. I remember being a full adult in my 20s. If this "semi-prominent" PhD is good in bed, then that's why they are with him.
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[Anonymous]

I'm a middle age man and I have no interest in having a relationship with a 20 something woman. But what consenting adults do is up to them and I'm not going to be judgmental. On the other hand I'd have no interest in double dating with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a middle age man and I have no interest in having a relationship with a 20 something woman. But what consenting adults do is up to them and I'm not going to be judgmental. On the other hand I'd have no interest in double dating with them.

This thread is not for you. Go play on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There's so much discussion of men in their 40s and 50s, often divorced with kids, dating women in their 20s. But seriously, what do you do in these relationships? I know you have sex. I get it; that's the main point. But is that the whole thing? Even if you've reduced the relationship to fancy dinners, shopping, and sex, surely there are times when you would a conversation, right? Over dinner? What do you talk about? do you have shared hobbies? Do you enjoy the arts together? Do you talk about parenting and does she talk about grad school? Does you hang out with her friends? Do she hang out with your friends? (Do you even have friends?)

It's not that I think it's immoral for a guy in his 40s or 50s to date a woman in her 20s. It's just that I don't understand how it actually works.

Sorry, who is talking about this? I don’t see it at all in my personal life. Literally everyone I know is married to or dates people within like 3 years of their age. Then again, I’m mostly surrounded by well educated professionals. Someone with a big age gap would really stand out and get laughs.

I’m in my 30s now, but if a guy in his 30s would have approached me when I was in my 20s I would have cringed. Older guys are invisible until they approach you, at which point they become creeps and you have to grab your girlfriends to save you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m middle age and single and my relationship with two 20 something women is fantastic! Ok, they are my daughters. No way on this planet would I date someone their age as they would crucify me. I’m very happy with 40+ age women as we have things in common.

NP. Thia is funny and love the excellent father/daughter dynamic hinted at in the post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There's so much discussion of men in their 40s and 50s, often divorced with kids, dating women in their 20s. But seriously, what do you do in these relationships? I know you have sex. I get it; that's the main point. But is that the whole thing? Even if you've reduced the relationship to fancy dinners, shopping, and sex, surely there are times when you would a conversation, right? Over dinner? What do you talk about? do you have shared hobbies? Do you enjoy the arts together? Do you talk about parenting and does she talk about grad school? Does you hang out with her friends? Do she hang out with your friends? (Do you even have friends?)

It's not that I think it's immoral for a guy in his 40s or 50s to date a woman in her 20s. It's just that I don't understand how it actually works.

Sorry, who is talking about this? I don’t see it at all in my personal life. Literally everyone I know is married to or dates people within like 3 years of their age. Then again, I’m mostly surrounded by well educated professionals. Someone with a big age gap would really stand out and get laughs.

I’m in my 30s now, but if a guy in his 30s would have approached me when I was in my 20s I would have cringed. Older guys are invisible until they approach you, at which point they become creeps and you have to grab your girlfriends to save you.

+1. I don’t see this dynamic in our friend circle at all. My daughter and her friends who are in their 20’s would be creeped out by older men hitting on her or women her age. It’s just a nonnstarter for her and her wider group women friends.

[Anonymous]

Wait. Wasn’t this post asking middle aged men about their relationships with women in their 20s? Instead, many of the posts are from women talking about how they feel about older men approaching them.

I hate it when men talk about how women feel (or should feel) about an issue. Why should it be different when women are posting about how they feel regarding a question asked about how men feel?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's so much discussion of men in their 40s and 50s, often divorced with kids, dating women in their 20s. But seriously, what do you do in these relationships? I know you have sex. I get it; that's the main point. But is that the whole thing? Even if you've reduced the relationship to fancy dinners, shopping, and sex, surely there are times when you would a conversation, right? Over dinner? What do you talk about? do you have shared hobbies? Do you enjoy the arts together? Do you talk about parenting and does she talk about grad school? Does you hang out with her friends? Do she hang out with your friends? (Do you even have friends?)

It's not that I think it's immoral for a guy in his 40s or 50s to date a woman in her 20s. It's just that I don't understand how it actually works.

Sorry, who is talking about this? I don’t see it at all in my personal life. Literally everyone I know is married to or dates people within like 3 years of their age. Then again, I’m mostly surrounded by well educated professionals. Someone with a big age gap would really stand out and get laughs.

I’m in my 30s now, but if a guy in his 30s would have approached me when I was in my 20s I would have cringed. Older guys are invisible until they approach you, at which point they become creeps and you have to grab your girlfriends to save you.

+1. I don’t see this dynamic in our friend circle at all. My daughter and her friends who are in their 20’s would be creeped out by older men hitting on her or women her age. It’s just a nonnstarter for her and her wider group women friends.

Nobody is hitting on these delicate flowers out in public. I’m in their listed age range on the dating apps (that they deliberately choose themselves) and they match with me.

To quote everyone’s favorite DCUM poster: easy peasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait. Wasn’t this post asking middle aged men about their relationships with women in their 20s? Instead, many of the posts are from women talking about how they feel about older men approaching them.

I hate it when men talk about how women feel (or should feel) about an issue. Why should it be different when women are posting about how they feel regarding a question asked about how men feel?

LOL every DCUM post that asks men for their opinion is always swarmed by women stating what men’s opinions should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's so much discussion of men in their 40s and 50s, often divorced with kids, dating women in their 20s. But seriously, what do you do in these relationships? I know you have sex. I get it; that's the main point. But is that the whole thing? Even if you've reduced the relationship to fancy dinners, shopping, and sex, surely there are times when you would a conversation, right? Over dinner? What do you talk about? do you have shared hobbies? Do you enjoy the arts together? Do you talk about parenting and does she talk about grad school? Does you hang out with her friends? Do she hang out with your friends? (Do you even have friends?)

It's not that I think it's immoral for a guy in his 40s or 50s to date a woman in her 20s. It's just that I don't understand how it actually works.

Sorry, who is talking about this? I don’t see it at all in my personal life. Literally everyone I know is married to or dates people within like 3 years of their age. Then again, I’m mostly surrounded by well educated professionals. Someone with a big age gap would really stand out and get laughs.

I’m in my 30s now, but if a guy in his 30s would have approached me when I was in my 20s I would have cringed. Older guys are invisible until they approach you, at which point they become creeps and you have to grab your girlfriends to save you.

When I worked in academia it was very common for male professors to have young second wives.

At work there have been several older guy/younger woman marriages.

In my expensive neighborhood there are several older men living in McMansions with their younger (second) wife and new family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Hahahhaha, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's so much discussion of men in their 40s and 50s, often divorced with kids, dating women in their 20s. But seriously, what do you do in these relationships? I know you have sex. I get it; that's the main point. But is that the whole thing? Even if you've reduced the relationship to fancy dinners, shopping, and sex, surely there are times when you would a conversation, right? Over dinner? What do you talk about? do you have shared hobbies? Do you enjoy the arts together? Do you talk about parenting and does she talk about grad school? Does you hang out with her friends? Do she hang out with your friends? (Do you even have friends?)

It's not that I think it's immoral for a guy in his 40s or 50s to date a woman in her 20s. It's just that I don't understand how it actually works.

Sorry, who is talking about this? I don’t see it at all in my personal life. Literally everyone I know is married to or dates people within like 3 years of their age. Then again, I’m mostly surrounded by well educated professionals. Someone with a big age gap would really stand out and get laughs.

I’m in my 30s now, but if a guy in his 30s would have approached me when I was in my 20s I would have cringed. Older guys are invisible until they approach you, at which point they become creeps and you have to grab your girlfriends to save you.

When I worked in academia it was very common for male professors to have young second wives.

At work there have been several older guy/younger woman marriages.

In my expensive neighborhood there are several older men living in McMansions with their younger (second) wife and new family.

So they paid for two families?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Hahahhaha, no.

Sadly, this is true. Ask your friendly neighborhood urologist. Older men “respond” to perky body parts unless they have an underlying medical issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Ok. How misogynistic to say that 50-something men are full sexual beings but 50-something women are has-been.

Your just being mean and angry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm late 50s. A year ago I was dating someone a dozen years younger, and I liked that. Since the breakup I've ended up sleeping with several mid- and late-20s women. One of them didn't become a girlfriend, or a FWB, but she had become a really close platonic friend. We have similar interests and challenges in life.

How does a 50-something man meet women in the 20's and get them to be interested in going out with the older, perhaps not fully sexually-functional, kind? This is a serious question.

Most 50-something men are “fully sexually-functional” when they are with a 20-something woman. Men respond to visual stimulation that perhaps most 50-something women can’t provide any longer.

Ok. How misogynistic to say that 50-something men are full sexual beings but 50-something women are has-been.

Your just being mean and angry.

You are