Unreasonable request?

[Anonymous]

Good decision OP. You are smarter and stronger than you realize. I hope you never regret your choice. You really shouldn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: we broke up. I talked to him and he just was completely minimizing my concerns while also not offering to do anything to meet me halfway. He basically kept saying everything will work out, don’t worry about it. I realized he doesn’t understand my way of thinking at all. Also realized he’s pretty selfish and lacking in empathy. I am so sad but I know it’s probably for the best. Thank you all for your great advice.

Next time try to date someone closer to your own stage of life (still having goals, aspirations, possibly open to relocate and travel more...)
Its not just about feelings, but being on the same orbit in life as well for LTR to work out

OP here. I think I’m done with dating for a good long time. I’m going to save up as much money as I can (not out of greed, as my exBF told me in our last conversation, but because I want to have a secure future). I’m also going to travel some during vacations from work and enjoy my single life!

[Anonymous]

OP,

Years ago my mom faced a similar “ultimatium” from her bf (my parents had divorced years earlier). Her bf was relocating to another state to be closer to his grown children abs dailies. He said move or we are breaking up…they did a long distance for about six months but she gave in and moved. Left her friends of 20 years (who were against this), her job, and our hometown. In less than two years, she and her retired (live with me at my home & I’ll take care of you etc.) BF broke up. At age 50, she went to work at a bank until age 70 so that she qualified for a pension—whew!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: we broke up. I talked to him and he just was completely minimizing my concerns while also not offering to do anything to meet me halfway. He basically kept saying everything will work out, don’t worry about it. I realized he doesn’t understand my way of thinking at all. Also realized he’s pretty selfish and lacking in empathy. I am so sad but I know it’s probably for the best. Thank you all for your great advice.

Next time try to date someone closer to your own stage of life (still having goals, aspirations, possibly open to relocate and travel more...)
Its not just about feelings, but being on the same orbit in life as well for LTR to work out

OP here. I think I’m done with dating for a good long time. I’m going to save up as much money as I can (not out of greed, as my exBF told me in our last conversation, but because I want to have a secure future). I’m also going to travel some during vacations from work and enjoy my single life!

Sounds like a great plan! And he also dared to offend you calling "greedy'! What an asshole

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update: we broke up. I talked to him and he just was completely minimizing my concerns while also not offering to do anything to meet me halfway. He basically kept saying everything will work out, don’t worry about it. I realized he doesn’t understand my way of thinking at all. Also realized he’s pretty selfish and lacking in empathy. I am so sad but I know it’s probably for the best. Thank you all for your great advice.

Yes! OP, I'm sorry for the sadness you have now, but this man was not going to be your partner. You are so much safer and better off without him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP,

Years ago my mom faced a similar “ultimatium” from her bf (my parents had divorced years earlier). Her bf was relocating to another state to be closer to his grown children abs dailies. He said move or we are breaking up…they did a long distance for about six months but she gave in and moved. Left her friends of 20 years (who were against this), her job, and our hometown. In less than two years, she and her retired (live with me at my home & I’ll take care of you etc.) BF broke up. At age 50, she went to work at a bank until age 70 so that she qualified for a pension—whew!

That is terrible. Your poor mom. I hope she was able to enjoy a decent retirement after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update: we broke up. I talked to him and he just was completely minimizing my concerns while also not offering to do anything to meet me halfway. He basically kept saying everything will work out, don’t worry about it. I realized he doesn’t understand my way of thinking at all. Also realized he’s pretty selfish and lacking in empathy. I am so sad but I know it’s probably for the best. Thank you all for your great advice.

Next time try to date someone closer to your own stage of life (still having goals, aspirations, possibly open to relocate and travel more...)
Its not just about feelings, but being on the same orbit in life as well for LTR to work out

OP here. I think I’m done with dating for a good long time. I’m going to save up as much money as I can (not out of greed, as my exBF told me in our last conversation, but because I want to have a secure future). I’m also going to travel some during vacations from work and enjoy my single life!

Good idea OP. Make a retirement plan now, with a financial advisor and stick with it. If you enjoy travel, do it now while you are still healthy and mobile.
Resist returning to him just because you’re sad- of course it’s sad. You had imagined a future with him, but it isn’t a good fit for either of you. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

He called you greedy? Bye.

[Anonymous]

It sucks OP but now you’re free to live your life in your terms and possible meet someone willing to meet you halfway.