If your AP’s spouse found out..

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Anonymous wrote:My AP's wife did find out. He convinced her not to call my DH. My DH found out anyway (I'm an idiot) and he called her. So, now everybody knows and everybody knows that everybody knows. I suppose that's only fair.

How did your husband find out?

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Anonymous wrote:Ii was the betrayed wife. When I found out, I quietly got my ducks in a row. Then I used my (then) husband's phone to post to his fb account. It was a lovely screenshot of he and AP mid-webcam chat. Sorry about the close up of your double chin and cold sore, AP. The post explained their amazing love story, complete with screenshots of texts. I tagged her in it. Turned DHs phone to silent and put a nice new PIN to unlock it. He obviously slept through AP frantically calling him, and couldn't unlock the phone anyway, so that post got to stew for a while for their hundreds of friends (and coworkers!).

APs husband eventually reached out to me for answers. We blew everything up. The star crossed lovers didn't even last 2 months after marriage separation.

Savage

See, I'm a wife and I'd think the PP is mentally ill. I'd actually feel sympathetic towards her H, but I hate trashy drama.

+1 but I am more of a WASP

Oh if you don’t think WASPs do this you don’t live in Greenwich.

Trash are the cheating whores, always.

I don't agree but I'm European. It would not be the end of the world if my H would have a moment of weakness but this trashy hell would definitely traumatize me, even as an involuntary spectator. You Americans are so strident and love all this suffering p*rn. What did you gain anyway? Do you get off when people feel bad for you? I just don't get it.

My European mother trashed my father pied-a-terre after securing his keys in secret and burned her wedding dress and a bunch of his belongings in his fire place. I, her European daughter (now American), fully approve. There’s more than one type of European 🇮🇹 🇪🇺

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. No. It was complicated. If she had told my spouse he would have exposed me and her DH and that ultimately would have been more devastating to my AP’s livelihood and therefore their family. Their children would have been damaged as well from a salacious and public exposure. It was in her interest to keep it in their family. My DH never knew; I divorced anyway, for the same reasons I cheated.

Did he dump you? Or was it ever-lasting love?

No. He did not leave his wife, wanted to continue affair. I did not want to be OW forever so I stopped it, although we stayed close for a long time.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. No. It was complicated. If she had told my spouse he would have exposed me and her DH and that ultimately would have been more devastating to my AP’s livelihood and therefore their family. Their children would have been damaged as well from a salacious and public exposure. It was in her interest to keep it in their family. My DH never knew; I divorced anyway, for the same reasons I cheated.

Did he dump you? Or was it ever-lasting love?

No. He did not leave his wife, wanted to continue affair. I did not want to be OW forever so I stopped it, although we stayed close for a long time.

Stayed close, but stopped f@@@cking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My AP's wife did find out. He convinced her not to call my DH. My DH found out anyway (I'm an idiot) and he called her. So, now everybody knows and everybody knows that everybody knows. I suppose that's only fair.

So what was the blow back? Stay married? Both divorce? One of you divorced? What about kids? Are they part of “everyone” knows?

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why some posters on this thread are attacking other posters. You don't know each other, behave yourselves. Seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. No. It was complicated. If she had told my spouse he would have exposed me and her DH and that ultimately would have been more devastating to my AP’s livelihood and therefore their family. Their children would have been damaged as well from a salacious and public exposure. It was in her interest to keep it in their family. My DH never knew; I divorced anyway, for the same reasons I cheated.

Did he dump you? Or was it ever-lasting love?

No. He did not leave his wife, wanted to continue affair. I did not want to be OW forever so I stopped it, although we stayed close for a long time.

Stayed close, but stopped f@@@cking?

Yes.